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SarahB Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Jun-08-07 01:50 PM
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Matcom news follow-up: Sexuality and good health
Edited on Fri Jun-08-07 01:58 PM by SarahBelle
Matcom's original article: http://www.democraticunderground.com/discuss/duboard.php?az=view_all&address=105x6590019 I guess I just felt it deserved its own post.


Is Sex Necessary?

Fans of abstinence had better be sitting down. "Saving yourself" before the big game, the big business deal, the big hoedown or the big bakeoff may indeed confer some moral benefit. But corporeally it does absolutely zip. There's no evidence it sharpens your competitive edge. The best that modern science can say for sexual abstinence is that it's harmless when practiced in moderation. Having regular and enthusiastic sex, by contrast, confers a host of measurable physiological advantages, be you male or female. (This assumes that you are engaging in sex without contracting a sexually transmitted disease.)

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Six Ways Sex is Good For You

If someone's having a particularly cranky day, she may hear friends say, "Honey, you need to get laid." While that's an oversimplification of the many factors that cause bad moods, it's not an entirely off-base assessment.

Ever wonder why people seem to have a bounce in their step or a bit of a glow after having sex? The benefits of frequent, safe physical intimacy may be more science-based than you think.

Do it for your boss
"Orgasm triggers oxytocin release, causing you to feel more relaxed yet energized with a clear mind," says Dr. Jacob Teitelbaum, MD. So instead of saving your energy before the big meeting, a romp in the sheets may be just the thing to help you focus? Yes, says Dr. Teitelbaum. "Sex has been shown to decrease stage fright and anxiety in front of audiences," he adds. "So ignore that old advice to picture the crowd naked‑-be naked with your partner instead" (before the presentation, of course).

Avoid sickness
Forget to have your flu shot? Light some candles and put on soft music. "Sex stimulates the immune system," says Dr. Deborah Anapol, PhD, author of The Seven Natural Laws of Love. Recent studies show that regular sex makes you less vulnerable to colds and flu. And for romantic types, tell your partner that prolonged, deep kissing has been shown to lower blood pressure and cholesterol levels in the long term. In the short term, kissing releases bacteria that stimulates the production of antibodies, which help fight off infection. Even handholding, the New York Times recently reported, can bring immediate stress relief to loved ones.

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Not just good, but good for you. Mounting evidence suggests sex helps keep us healthy

July 1 - To paraphrase a great old slogan for Guinness beer: Sex isn’t just good, it’s good for you!

Okay, so maybe there’s some wishful thinking going on — the science isn’t exactly iron-clad — but evidence is accumulating that the more sex you have, the better off you are.

There is one caveat, though. “We do not have good data to show a direct connection ," says Jennifer Bass, the head of information services at the Kinsey Institute for Research in Sex, Gender and Reproduction in Bloomington, Ind. "We know that healthier people have more sexual activity. But we do not know which comes first. Does the good health make you more willing to have sex, or does the sex have a positive impact?”

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Sex is good for you, and sexual dysfunction should be seen as major health issue

New York, NY (October 13, 2003) -- Sex has many health benefits -- including mental, cardiovascular, and immune system health -- according to two physicians and sexual health experts at NewYork Weill Cornell Medical Center. Likewise, sexual dysfunction, which is largely untreated, has many associated health risks and should be treated as a major public health issue, they say, especially as more adults are enjoying sex later in life.

"Sex is good for you, with benefits including a longer, healthier, and happier life," says Dr. John Mulhall, Director of the Sexual Medicine Program and Associate Attending Urologist at NewYork-Presbyterian Hospital Weill Cornell Medical Center, and Associate Professor of Urology at the Weill Cornell Medical College. "Conversely, sexual problems like erectile dysfunction (ED) can contribute to a variety of other mental and physical problems, including depression and relationship discord. ED may also be a harbinger of diseases, including diabetes, multiple sclerosis, Parkinson's disease, coronary artery disease, among others."

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Thanks for reading,
Your friendly neighborhood (and not pointing blame or names on anyone) sex positive ob/gyn nurse. :D
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plcdude Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Jun-08-07 02:00 PM
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1. I feel
totally vindicated.
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BlueIris Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Jun-08-07 02:06 PM
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2. Yeah, this post isn't intended to be hurtful to anyone, to step on any toes,
exposed nerves, or personal beliefs about relationships. It is not intended to be in any way judgmental. Just like that misogynist editorial matcom posted.

Oh, wait...
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SarahB Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Jun-08-07 02:39 PM
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6. Couples caring about one another's sexual needs within a relationship isn't misogynist.
Frankly, I think to say that is pretty hetero-centric. There's plenty of people who want to have happy, fulfilled relationships and sex lives with nothing to do with the dynamics between men and women. I think people are blurring the elements between feminism (or misogyny) and lack of sexual communication and libido differences within the course of heterosexual relationships.
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AwakeAtLast Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Jun-08-07 02:17 PM
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3. I saw Dr. Oz say
that everyone should be having more sex. Everyone.

Who am I to argue? :evilgrin: Doctor's orders! :evilgrin:

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anarch Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Jun-08-07 02:21 PM
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4. "mounting evidence"
*snicker*
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NewWaveChick1981 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Jun-08-07 02:29 PM
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5. I've been saying that for many years.
:hi: :evilgrin: Glad to hear it's finally in print. :P
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ForrestGump Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Jun-08-07 02:44 PM
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7. Uh-oh

I'd better get busy, or I might die... :-(



I wonder if visualization helps, as it does with other things?

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SarahB Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Jun-08-07 02:51 PM
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10. Dude,
I know. Frankly, if I had some extra money, I'd send you to the bunny ranch for your birthday. I think you should make a deal with yourself. If you do not have "in love" lovin within the next year, go forth and ye legally and safety... you know what. Some people may disagree with me, but sometimes things just need to be done.
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ForrestGump Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Jun-08-07 03:00 PM
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11. Thanks, Ms Belle

:hug:

It's the thought that counts. :-)

And, yes, arguably better than the one-night stands I keep inexplicably (actually, quite explicably, but at least one part of me totally fails to understand this) turning down. But I think love might very well be in the air before resorting to Plan B becomes necessary... :D

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SarahB Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Jun-08-07 03:04 PM
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13. Good on, then.
I wish you much love, happiness, and lots of hot action in your life! :hug:
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Shakespeare Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Jun-08-07 03:06 PM
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16. Hey, that makes two of us.
I can feel myself slipping away, even as I type this.... :P
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bullwinkle428 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Jun-08-07 02:50 PM
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8. Oxytocin? Isn't that what gave Rush Limbaugh hearing loss?
So now, in addition to going blind, I'm risking deafness as well?

:rofl:
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supernova Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Jun-08-07 02:50 PM
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9. So, who wants to give me a whirl?
:D

:rofl:
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plcdude Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Jun-08-07 03:02 PM
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12. as soon as
I can find a whirl I will send it to you.
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supernova Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Jun-08-07 03:06 PM
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15. Not what I was looking for
;-) lol
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billyskank Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Jun-08-07 03:30 PM
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17. *raises hand*
:D
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supernova Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Jun-08-07 03:34 PM
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18. Awww,
Billy comes to my rescue! :D :hug:
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billyskank Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Jun-08-07 03:39 PM
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19. Oh, but not out of pity
oh no. ;)

:hug:
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supernova Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Jun-08-07 03:49 PM
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21. ....
:blush: :blush: :hug:
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krispos42 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Jun-09-07 11:03 AM
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37. Whirl, or swirl?
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DS1 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Jun-08-07 03:05 PM
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14. ...
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treestar Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Jun-08-07 03:41 PM
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20. You've left out the emotional price
I'd say that article is true only if both people are looking at it purely as a physical benefit. And of that, it involves someone else, so you can never be sure.

Or it just applies to the happily married, who don't need an argument regarding it anyway.

Anyone not having sex might agree but you're not going to just have sex with the next available person, so it would be, like, it might be good for me, but I can't/won't/don't have the right other person, etc.

And in some people's case, their health would be better for not having sex. Depends on the person. Some people would suffer a lot from a one night stand, say, if that was all that was available. They'd pay too high an emotional price for whatever physical benefit. Then there's still the physical risks of that sort of thing.
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idgiehkt Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Jun-08-07 04:19 PM
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22. sigh
I read that first one as "six-way sex is good for you"

:rofl:

been too long.
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SarahB Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Jun-08-07 04:21 PM
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23. Never tried it personally, but I'm still young.
:P
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idgiehkt Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Jun-08-07 04:23 PM
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25. lol
I haven't either...the six-way thing, I mean.

I'm becoming more and more dyslexic lately...well, there is that admonition about going blind.

:scared:
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Deja Q Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Jun-08-07 04:22 PM
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24. Who needs oxytocin, just pop some oxycontin!
:rofl:


Most of the celibacy in my life has been imposed, believe it or not. However, those factors combined with others now make it a conscious choice.

Somebody will have to prove me wrong, but given prevailing past circumstances... apathy is more stimulating. Ironic but true.
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SarahB Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Jun-08-07 04:30 PM
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27. You can get Oxytocin Nasal spray.
Actually, when I was looking for a link for this subject, I found some stuff regarding autism and the hormone. I remembered you're an Aspie and I thought it might be interesting. http://autismdiva.blogspot.com/2006/10/eau-de-credulity-dans-secret-sauce.html
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Deja Q Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Jun-09-07 11:03 AM
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38. Since the real thing will never be accessible, it seems snorting's the answer.
:crazy:
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noamnety Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Jun-08-07 04:27 PM
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26. I don't think anyone was debating the points you raise.
Being coerced or pressured into having sex if you don't want to have it is not healthy.

I'd like to think that's not an "anti" sex stance.
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Deja Q Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Jun-08-07 05:09 PM
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28. Ahem, that means sex should be an entitlement to all in order to be healthy.
Oh dear. Two threads with conflicting viewpoints on doing the humpty horny...

:hide:
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alarimer Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Jun-08-07 07:25 PM
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29. well shit then I am in serious trouble
I am screwn I tell you. Or I wish I was actually.
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Deja Q Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Jun-09-07 04:53 PM
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47. I'd probably be in more serious trouble.
:P

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RetroLounge Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Jun-08-07 07:32 PM
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30. Well, then, I guess I'm fucked...
but not literally...

RL
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SarahB Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Jun-08-07 08:09 PM
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32. You'll be set soon I'm sure.
Decent, smart guys who're easy on the eyes don't usually have to wait too long. :)
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RetroLounge Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Jun-09-07 10:42 AM
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34. Thanks...
But I'm really not feeling worthy of any "attention" and emotionally I don't think I'll be much of a prize for a while.

I guess I prefer to wait so that I only bring myself to the party, not all the baggage too. It would be unfair of me to involve another person in my drama, until I've worked thru it and healed for a while. Well, in theory anyhow...

But Damn, I could really use an NSA hookup... :evilgrin:

RL
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SarahB Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Jun-09-07 12:12 PM
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42. That's what I said a couple years ago.
(The NSA part.) Then that bastard then proceeded to be all nice and wonderful until I gave in and fell head over heals. :loveya: I think it took awhile until the baggage felt gone. Sometimes for those of us married for a long time to have it end still have baggage that creeps up from time to time after a long time in new relationships. It happens. We're human. :hug:
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RetroLounge Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Jun-09-07 01:26 PM
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43. Yeah, but I think I'm afraid to move on
or hesitant perhaps is the better word.

The kids put another layer onto it. My wife and I always said we would never stay together just for the kid's sake.

But neither of us will actually pull the trigger on the divorce.

So I live alone and celibate. She lives alone and not so much celibate.

and the kids bounce between houses...

Not sure what I'm waiting for. Maybe I'm just a chicken shit... Maybe I still hope...

Let me tell you something my friend. Hope is a dangerous thing. Hope can drive a man insane. - Red in Shawshank Redemption

RL
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SarahB Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Jun-09-07 01:36 PM
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44. Hope
(This made me think of someone who wrote another quote on the subject just before we first met.)

http://www.democraticunderground.com/discuss/duboard.php?az=show_topic&forum=105&topic_id=3523187

There's no easy answer to this stuff. Eventually I think it all just stops hurting so much that a person can take a little bit of a chance- for future decisions and to be able to close the door on your past. I still see my ex several times a week (we share custody too) and although I was the one who wanted out, there were many years of pain under that in my case. It can be done. In our case, it just ends up being about the kids now. Don't let her use you as your shoulder. Keep it as business and co-parenting. Makes it easier. :hug:
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RetroLounge Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Jun-09-07 01:43 PM
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45. "Keep it as business and co-parenting"
in theory, yes. But when that person was your shoulder to cry on, your morning hugs and your evening kisses, having it all yanked out from under you doesn't make the need to have that intimacy still be there, albeit in a modified form, disappear.

I find the only way to prevent the ache is to be cold, emotionless, and put up walls to keep her out. But then I'm the one who comes off like the asshole...

and I end up feeling worse.

If I could leave, move away, disappear, I surely would...

RL
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SarahB Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Jun-09-07 03:52 PM
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46. I'm sorry.
I hope I didn't sound hurtful in any way. I'm much farther out from the pain now, so I can forget how hard it is. It will get better. I know it doesn't feel like it, but it will. :grouphug:
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RetroLounge Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Jun-09-07 09:14 PM
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48. Hurtful? Of course not.
No, I appreciate your comments, and sharing your experience. I truly do...

:hug:

RL
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krispos42 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Jun-09-07 11:07 AM
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39. Seven months!!!!!
*growl*

And watching Kari Byron on "Mythbusters" really isn't helping any...

*drool*
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Wapsie B Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Jun-08-07 07:36 PM
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31. Well, we already knew it was good for the complexion right?
;-)

And done correctly it's a great cardio workout.
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SarahB Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Jun-08-07 08:10 PM
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33. Word.
:evilgrin:
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bedpanartist Donating Member (915 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Jun-09-07 10:55 AM
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35. Four Big O's a Day, keep the doctor away
at least it works for me.
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krispos42 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Jun-09-07 10:58 AM
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36. Hmmm, so that why I only needed 5 hours of sleep when I was married
I'm up to six now... :-(
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Briarius Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Jun-09-07 11:40 AM
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40. I am going to live forever!
:evilgrin:

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SarahB Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Jun-09-07 12:07 PM
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41. Glad you're doing well.
Seems like those of us content with that aspect of our lives are in the minority around here. :yoiks:
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