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Connonym Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Jun-15-07 07:55 AM
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My 19th nervous breakdown
ARRRRRRGH! It's taking every ounce of strength I have to not tell my last work account to go fuck themselves. I am so burnt out with work, my finances are a fucking mess and my mortgage company started foreclosure on my house yesterday. It's all I can do to not curl into a little ball and cry all day. How the fuck do I get through this?

Mostly I'm really, really scared.
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crim son Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Jun-15-07 08:00 AM
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1. Aw, Connonym, my heart goes out to you.
Maybe you can't stop the fear, so try to breathe through it with the certainty that you will survive. Sometimes curling into a ball and crying is therapeutic though it mayn't seem so at the time. Cry until you can't cry any more and then think about the positives in your life... what you have to look forward to. I'm sorry. :hug: :hug: :hug:
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Haole Girl Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Jun-15-07 08:18 AM
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2. Hold on!
This my seem like a trite expression, but it has gotten me through some tough times recently.

So...hold on, okay?

:hug:

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PassingFair Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Jun-15-07 08:20 AM
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3. But, but, but....the economy's GREAT!
Can't you just sell some of that sky-rocketing stock?

:sarcasm:

I feel like crap also. No foreclosure, but my job
has become 50% bill collector/25% sales person,
25% person who wants to jump into a lake and run
away from my job.

I see a crash coming, but the economy has been
propped up for so long, part of me feels that
"they" can prop it up indefinitely.

The other part just sees the empty storefronts
and the customers who tell me that they're going
to have a check for me on Tuesday........

(Tuesday never seems to work out)

I USED to be known for my sunny disposition.

NOT any more. I feel WIPED OUT.
Not despair. Just a sense of DREAD.

Sorry, meant to post a "buck-up kid" type of
post and just ended up dumping.

At least you know you're not alone!

:hi:
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Connonym Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Jun-15-07 08:52 AM
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5. I know, what a fucking joke about the economy
I know way too many people who are unemployed or underemployed to believe that bullshit story. I'm hanging on to my last work account by my teeth. If I lose that I don't know WTF I'm going to do.
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PassingFair Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Jun-15-07 09:02 AM
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6. Stage a fire (or flood, your choice) in an un-used wing of your McMansion.
Edited on Fri Jun-15-07 09:02 AM by PassingFair
When you get the insurance check, use it to live on!

Easy-Peasy!

This is an ACTUAL SCAM that people are pulling,
according to one of my customers, who owns a
Water & Fire Damage Restoration business.

When I intimated that her business came from
insurance agents and wasn't necessarily affected
by the economy, she told me this is what people
doing with their checks.

They just don't make the repairs....

Now, aren't you GLAD you bought that MC MANSION?

:sarcasm:
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Connonym Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Jun-15-07 09:08 AM
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7. yeah, but it's no mcmansion
I've been trying to sell it since the beginning of the year. Unfortunately (thanks to the FABULOUS W economy) there are 4x the usual number of houses on the market right now in my city so....
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PassingFair Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Jun-15-07 09:21 AM
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9. Just kidding about the scam.
But I HAVE been wondering HOW people are getting by.

This was something I ran across in my daily travels....

I'm thinking of trying EXERCISE, of some kind, to boost
my mood. Do you exercise at all?

I haven't done anything beyond walking for the past
4 years. I know it will help, but getting up the
steam to do yoga again, or swim or WHATEVER, has seemed
like too much trouble and time.

I told my husband last night that I didn't think
my depression was "clinical", I think it's "situational".

Mainly, I hate my job, and the stress of being the main
breadwinner for the past 4 years has taken it's toll.
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Connonym Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Jun-15-07 09:26 AM
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10. I'm with you on that
I'm a single mom and I don't get child support so sometimes it feels like the weight of the world is on my shoulders.

I've also been thinking that exercise would probably be a good idea. To make my mood better but also to release some of the anger and frustration that I'm also feeling. I think it's a really great idea.
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PassingFair Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Jun-15-07 09:35 AM
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11. I think I'll try 20 minutes of yoga a day.
Edited on Fri Jun-15-07 09:35 AM by PassingFair
I used to take classes and do 2 routines a day.

Lately I feel like I would be happier if I could
just MEDITATE my way into a calm space (even for
just a little while)but I have been unable to
do it. Maybe this will help.


Rodney Yee, here I come!

Thanks for giving me a little impetus, Connonym!
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Redbear Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Jun-15-07 10:02 AM
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12. Oh heck yeah, exercise is great for that.
Its amazing how much calmer and better I feel ater a workout.

I have so much stress in my life right now, exercise is vital.
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eyepaddle Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Jun-15-07 08:22 AM
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4. I'm not sure as to the "how" but I know that you WILL get through it.
Edited on Fri Jun-15-07 08:24 AM by eyepaddle
I've known more than a couple of people who've had to declare bankruptcy--and they all seem to be fine now. They can still finance cars, and one or two even own homes. It makes credit tough for a while, but generally speaking a person isn't in a postiion to do much buying then anyhow. It's more mental burden than anything else.

Hang in there, you may have some huge life changes coming up, but you will pull through. And if it's any consolation, you have a lot of company right now. I was looking into buying a home a few months ago, but decided to hold off--that turned out to be a good move on my part, I'm kinda scrapin' right now myself--there are many, many, mnay foreclosures on the market right now.

And for probably the most useful thing I can offer youright now. :hug: :hug: :hug:
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Redbear Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Jun-15-07 09:14 AM
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8. You will pull through it

It is scary. Change often is. You imagine the worst, but it rarely turns out that way. Even if it does, you will survive and rebuild.
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