So what should I do...?

[imax2268]

A few kick ass DU'ers helped me find a song that helps me think of a girl who is in South Korea right now...she is in the Air Force and I had her when she was once here at the base that I work at...

She is on her way to Germany after her stint in Korea...what should I do...should I wait for her or should I just try to find someone else...

Believe me...the relationship we had was less than perfect...but no matter all the times we argued...I still loved her and her daughter as well...

so what should I do...?

Should I wait for her to come back in 2006...I'm willing to do that...because she will come back on vacation...or should I move on...?

please...honest answers only...?

[KissMyAsscroft]

1. Move on.

2006? No way,.....ain't gonna happen.

You already know that you have to move on, and it will not be easy but you must.

You deserve a FULL TIME PARTNER.

[LastKnight]

2. do you have any contact with her now?

if so just start corresponding with her, send her a care package now and then, with a letter... and mabye a long distance relationship can develop... and you wont have to take any chances when she gets back from her tour of duty. i mean... everyone likes someone to come home to, weather its just after work every day or if its a homecoming from the armed services.


if you have no way to make contact with her now... id say forget it... its a long time unless she left on VERY good terms.


-LK

[imax2268]

4. well...

right now we have email...but I don't wan't to sound to desperate in the emails...let's just say that we had a rocky relationship when she was here...but I can't get her out of my head...it's been a few years now and I haven't been with anyone since she left...so...to me...that is telling me something...she's not the first woman I've been with...but she's the only one that I can't get out of my head...so that must mean something...

????????????????

[LastKnight]

5. hmmm...

a grey area, dont you hate those...

if its been a few years... id say, sadly thiers a chance shes moved on, but then again, i dont know how social the armed forces get, and i think they have regulations on that kinda stuff... although if its enforced or not is another thing. anyway, id say just keep in contact, come to her homecoming, be a friend for now, there may be future possibilities, but doesnt sound good for anything in the immedate future. look for other options in the meantime, if you meet somone new... that last person just seems to be just that... somone from the past. i know it sounds sleezy... but its not how i intended it to sound, honest

whatever you end up doing, good luck and i hope you find happiness...

-LK

[Dogmudgeon]

3. Stay in touch, but play the field

Much as I hate those metaphors, it's good sense.

Even if she is The One, you need to stop obsessing over her. Obsession distorts everything, even love. Stay in touch with her, and once you're over the obsession, you'll be able to make a better decision of what to do.

--bkl

[imax2268]

6. Cool...

I'm not obsessing...but I think that she is the one...

I will try that...when she comes back for leave I will be there at the airport(back off Ashcroft!)and just be a friend until she makes up her mind...

I know I'm supposed to be strong as a man...but this girl has it all...for me at least...

thanks everyone...

goodnight...I'm outta here...