OK, then. If you were engaged, how did you break it off?

[Sugar Smack]

I sat down with my ex and we had a long talk about his mum. Then she picked him up. And he & I drifted apart quickly.

[Phentex]

1. I had a long talk with his mom and decided

NO.WAY.IN.HELL.

I knew it didn't feel right and that talk sealed the deal.

[Sugar Smack]

2. There's always a seal-dealer. Right?

Did his mom get onto you about her baby like mine did?

[Phentex]

7. Actually no. She told me what a difficult time she'd had

moving from another country when she married and that my life (moving to another country) would mean dealing with the same culture shock. They were very wealthy and she implied certain expectations (I would not be "allowed" to work, etc.) It was creepy.

And he wasn't worth it.

[Sugar Smack]

12. That sounds very creepy, to this spectator's eye. Like "The House of Yes".

:scared:

[unpossibles]

3. very badly?

don't really want to go into details as she may be on this board....

:spank:

Let's just say I don't regret doing it, just how I did it.

[Sugar Smack]

6. OOOOH! Intrigue!

Was it sudden? Gradual? Did it have anything to do with the parents? Was a wedding cut short?

:P

[unpossibles]

25. no wedding or parents involved

but... ugly.

[SPKrazy]

4. well both cases

she moved away and well we drifted apart i guess

well the first case i found out after she moved who all she'd been fucking besides me and that did it.

the second case we really did just drift away from each other.

:shrug:

[Sugar Smack]

8. OUUUUUUUUUCH!!!!!!!!!

Christ on a cracker. That must have HURT! GOD! I never thought my ex would cheat on me either, and he didn't as far as I know, but it took a lot of other things to make me think twice.

[SPKrazy]

11. i was very young at the time

17 to be exact and it was probably the best thing that could have happened.

but yeah, it hurt

but the young heart is more adaptable i guess

funny, a relationship that never got that far hurt much more when it ended than that did.

:hi:

[BelleCarolinaPeridot]

5. I told him that I was not ready to get married yet ...

he did'nt understand ... I could'nt rush into marriage yet because I did'nt feel secure. Plus I was living in Germany at the time and I did'nt want a rush marriage without my family there. He did'nt understand so I left and came back to the States.

[Sugar Smack]

13. There's no rushing that as far as I'm concerned. I've noticed

you're more true to yourself these days than you've ever been, too. :D

[BelleCarolinaPeridot]

24. I try to be.

I deal with a lot of assholes on my job and it makes me a fighter.

[LeftyMom]

9. I didn't. I should have. Oh well.

:shrug: You gotta learn the hard way sometimes.

[Sugar Smack]

14. I'm glad I got out of my situation. There was no backing down.

There were too many "final straws". The very last one was when this grown man pointed at me and "told on" me to his mother.

Good on ya for getting YOUR life straightened out. :D

[VenusRising]

10. He got another girl pregnant.

That pretty much broke it off right there.

That's ok. I found the love of my life right after that, so I'm much better off. :)

[Sugar Smack]

15. DAMN! What a Hooraw's nest youth is.

That's an assumption and I'm sorry if it's incorrect. I'm freaking glad a spirit like YOU FOUND someone who suits you!!!:D

[VenusRising]

16. I'm freaking glad, too.

It was a mistake well-avoided. I'm glad I found out before we set the date.

[redqueen]

17. Called him and said I'd like for him to please move out,

and that I'd just stay away until he was gone.

It was a horrible way to handle it and I'm very ashamed of that.

[texas1928]

18. Covert Ops, and a silencer....

But they had to hum the Mission Impossible theme while they did it.

[Arkham House]

19. My girlfriend dumped me to become a nun...

...No fooling! I couldn't even be jealous of The Other Guy...:-(... And that was enough for me--33 years later, I remain single...

[Richardo]

20. I killed Virgil Sollozzo and a police captain and hid out in Sicily for a year or so.

Oh yeah, and my first wife was blown up in our car driving it across the courtyard. :eyes:

[MnFats]

21. how's your cheekbone -- the one McKluskey broke?

and have you seen Fredo lately?

[Richardo]

22. Fredo - he broke my heart.

HE BROKE MY HEART! :cry:

I'm pretty sure he got out of Havana, though :thumbsup: I'll wait 'til Mama dies, then: It's Hail Mary time out on the lake for ol' Fredo.

[Redstone]

23. Moved to another state without telling her. (Well, we weren't actually engaged, and she did

find out I was moving, and came to the bar and threw a mug of beer in my face), but does that count anyway?

Redstone

[BarenakedLady]

26. I left the ring in his car at work.

Though I'm pretty sure I had broken it off in person. I think that was just the nail on the coffin. We broke up and got back together often. That time was for keeps.

He was controlling and insecure. He also had an ex-wife who often tried to hurt me and a few kids. Thank goodness I finally got away from that situation.

[NewJeffCT]

27. I wish I had broken it off

I guess I was too naive in thinking things would work out after we got married & lived together. Or, maybe I was blinded to her faults and didn't realize that neither of us were ready for marriage. (Not saying I was perfect...just didn't know exactly what I was looking for)

But, things got even worse after we got married and our marriage quickly fell apart. We had a few problems right away and that really accelerated the slide downhill and we never really recovered. Looking back, it might have been a blessing. At least she was cut off from running up debt on my credit card after she filed for divorce. (When she filed for divorce she told me I was lucky she didn't max out all the credit cards - though she did come reasonably close to it)