So teh lad finally contacts me at 11:54

[XemaSab]

His email is short and succinct:

>Sorry about not contacting you today - could you get together tomorrow
>afternoon?

Considering that I have wasted a good part of the day wondering what the fuck his DAMAGE is, what should my reply be? :shrug:

[NMDemDist2]

1. wait until two minutes to noon tomorrow and text back

OH! today?? now?

shit






:rofl:

[bridgit]

2. which iz bettah? email love? er'muskrat love?

[XemaSab]

3. He is sort of a muskrat...

:freak:

[Robeson]

4. O.K., Xema, I haven't been keeping up...

...is this some type of love interest thing?... :shrug:

[XemaSab]

5. It's a bit of a long story

(which is stupid, because it's only been going on for about 10 days.)

He put the moves on me week before last, and he's been a total moran since then.

We made tentative plans to do something today, but he flaked.

I'd be more pissed, but I feel like he's sort of in the throes of a crisis, so I don't want to lay it down too hard, ya know?

But he already wasted my day today.

Should I give him tomorrow too? :shrug:

[Capn Sunshine]

6. Boys are so stupid

If I had to guess, I'd say he's in a relationship he's drifting in and out of

[XemaSab]

7. THAT

would be a good guess, yes. :(

[Robeson]

9. Thanks for the insight....

...to be honest, I'm always reluctant to give relationship advice, unless it's to MissHoneychurch, who has really-really needed it on occasion...;-)

Not knowing all the details, that did seem like an abrupt message he left you.

[EstimatedProphet]

15. Are you sure about him being in a relationship?

Because I bet he might be afraid to call. That's what it sounds like to me.

[Book Lover]

8. Let *him* wait for a change

Don't reply until tomorrow at, oh, let's say 4:30 or so. Tell him that if only you'd heard from him earlier, you would have loved to have hung out, but now you have this thing that you're doing, and you're not really sure when you'll be free.

[Orsino]

10. Something very specific, with no wiggle room.

Leave no excuses for flaking.

[Bunny]

11. You absolutely must not see him today.

Boy needs to learn some manners. Wait until later on this morning, then tell him you have other plans for the day.

[PeaceNikki]

12. Well

my history of relationships is sketchy at best. However, I seriously think that playing games is shitty - on either side. I know that I do *NOT* recommend any kind of passive aggressive actions to prove a point. I know that if you are interested in pursuing a relationship and his actions (or lack of them) bothered you, you should hook up with him as soon as possible and try to talk to him about it. If his actions hurt you and you feel he's not worth it, then drop it. But, starting a relationship with games is, in my humble opinion, bad bad news. I may not know how to make a realtionship work, but I sure seem to know how to make them NOT work. And, games is definitely the path to a bad relationship.

[ThomCat]

13. I wouldn't return his thoughtlessness with more.

So i guess I'd just respond about whether or not I'd like to hang out tomorrow. :shrug:

I hope he's awesome, good for you and fun. Have a wonderful time! :hug:

[Tuesday Afternoon]

14. Cut Your Losses. Drop him like a hot potato. Do not get sucked

into playing games. Just say thanks BUT ----NO THANKS. Block him from your email and go on with your life. Plenty of fish.

[billyskank]

16. An experience of my own

Recently I met a girl. I liked her a lot and I thought that we got on great. We arranged to meet again a week later, but after I left things changed. She would not respond to most texts, or pick up the phone when I called. Eventually after about four days of her making me feel sick as a parrot she told me that she didn't want to see me again.

In my opinion, listen to your guts. If they are telling you that something's up, something probably is up. Someone who's really into you won't do that shit to you. I'd tell them to go away before they upset me more.

[SallyMander]

17. !

STUPID, STUPID WENCH!


:hug:

[billyskank]

20. Thanks

But it's probably me. :hug:

[XemaSab]

18. I am totally over his shit as far as dating material goes

(yeah, it's the same f***er I was whining about last week :P )

But I sent him an email offering my friendship and a listening ear, and that's not something I am going to retract lightly. :(

[billyskank]

19. Yes, friendship is okay. That's different.

[XemaSab]

21. Doesn't make it any less annoying though...

:P

I think I have learned how to get someone over your shit in 10 days. :P

[Ellen Forradalom]

22. "Sorry. I have a hot date with a piping plover then."

[davsand]

23. If you really want to be his pal then you did the right thing.

Never hurts to be classy and to act like a good human being. Kudos to you for not turning psycho on his butt.

I would, however, be pretty wary for a while about doing much more than being his pal. I'd think long and hard before swapping spit with him (or anything else for that matter!) because he sounds like he's being kinda flaky right now.



Laura