I need a condescention immunity shield

[eyesroll]

Does anyone else have to deal with really obnoxious people who won't admit they're obnoxious?

I can handle being yelled at. I can handle being reprimanded. I can even handle "I'm disappointed in you/you're smarter than that" lectures.

But I hate being condescended to! There's this woman who's in charge of an organization in my industry. We don't get along at all but I have to deal with her every few months.

This week, I needed to interview her. It was going to be a positive interview about being proud of one's work. Nothing controversial at all.
So what does she do? She calls me back and says in that sacchrine-sweet voice, "Oh, I know we've been through this before. Do we need a reminder? You have to fax me the questions and we'll respond in writing. I'm sure we talked about this last time."

(No, last time you told me "Oh, I know you're young and relatively new to your position so maybe you don't understand..." :grr:)

:argh::argh::argh:

I need a condescention immunity shield, so she can hurl that sweetness at me and it'll just bounce back.

</rant>

[nini]

1. Tell her in your sweetest voice...

that NO that wasn't discussed or decided on.

Stand up to her politely. I've a few bosses do that to me and I've gotten in their face going back at them. They back off or at the very least knock off the BS.

Goodluck I hate people like that

[eyesroll]

3. My response was, basically, in a similarly sweet voice,

"Well, I know we did do the last interview via fax, but I was unaware that was policy. I'll be sure to make a note of it for future reference."

But I'm still queasy. I'm better at telling people, politely, to fuck off in person or via e-mail than I am over the phone.

[FunBobbyMucha]

2. Not a shield, exactly, but

a salad fork to the eye socket drains the condescension out real purty like. Drips out like pancake syrup.