Yesterday my husband's coworker received flowers from her husband "just because" and

[grace0418]

later that day, he died suddenly and completely unexpectedly. How sad is that? He was only 54, she is 40. They have a two-yr-old, had been separated but were working it out. That story hit me really hard, even though I don't know the woman.

[KC]

1. That is so sad

It makes you wonder if he didn't know or sense something might happen.

[grace0418]

2. Yeah, that's what I thought too.

My husband said she came in to pick up the flowers because they were delivered after she got the call from the emergency room. He felt so bad when he saw her.

[Connonym]

3. a sense of impending doom can be one of the symptoms of a heart attack

I would bet he knew something was very wrong. How sad but beautiful at the same time. It will be a bittersweet memory for her.

[Iris]

4. I wondered about that.

I think sometimes you just know things.

Sad story, but sweet, too.

[Beer Snob-50]

6. I have often wondered about that

I remember my parents babysitting my new born son one evening and when we came home, my Father gave me a hug when they were leaving. I had never remembered him doing that before. He dropped dead that night.

[Shine]

8. Oh, I'm sorry. It makes you wonder if we do know, on some level.

I was just recently reading the obituary of a woman who died on her 101st birthday. She was born on March 11, 1907 and she died on March 11, 2008.

She died peacefully, of natural causes, at home.

Her death struck me as one she might have "chosen" for herself, on some level. Interesting, huh?

:hi:

[Beer Snob-50]

9. thank you.

yeh, that would be the type of death i would choose. have everything done in my life, get the kids through everything that you can help them with, enjoy your spouse for as long as you can, and then quitely check out. i only hope this women was still able to function on some quality level.

[hippywife]

18. What's really sad about living to that age

is that, even if you still have most of your faculties, you may have lost some or all of your kids by that time. And all of your friends are already gone.

I work in a retirement center and most of those folks will tell you they have no wish to live that long. It's not always a blessing.

[grace0418]

13. I'm sorry Pirate. The night my dad died, my two-yr-old nephew would not let

him go. My brother and his family were visiting my parents, along with a few of my other siblings. As they were getting ready to leave, the little one latched onto my dad and wouldn't stop hugging him. It was like he knew.

[hippywife]

17. Similar situation with my FIL.

The night he died, he asked my MIL if she was coming to bed. This was out of the norm because he ALWAYS went to bed earlier while she sat up a little longer watching her TV shows. That was their usual pattern of an evening. He passed sometime in the night, tho she can't say for sure when.

He was 83 and had the initial onset of Alzheimer's and had been to see the doc a few days earlier. He asked the doc if the meds he was giving him would fix the problem and was told that they just delay the inevitable. Now this man was a former federal judge, very dignified. I don't think he could have faced what was ahead.

She thinks he simply chose to go before it got worse.

I'm so sorry about your dad. :hug:

[Xithras]

14. There's a medical reason for it.

Many people begin having a loss of bloodflow in the effected area hours or even days before the ehart attack itself, which causes the heartbeat to change slightly. Your body attempts to maintain itself in a state of homeostasis and is capable of discerning normal organ responses from abnormal, and an unexplained change in the state of ANY of your internal organs can trigger stress. In humans, stress often translates to a feeling that something is wrong, or that something bad is imminent.

[Connonym]

16. thanks for explaining that

I knew of the phenomenon but never knew the why of it. You explained it really very well. Thanks

[GreenPartyVoter]

5. Oh, man!! :^( How sad

[Shine]

7. Wow, what a heart-breaking story!

what a sweet and touching thing to remember him by, though. Bittersweet, to be sure. :(

[dembotoz]

10. SEEEEEEEEEEEEEEE that why i don't do that

just kiddin

[BarenakedLady]

11. How sad.

:(

[Inchworm]

12. Whoa, I'm sorry I didnt read inside this earlier

I assumed. Bad Inchworm.

That is terrible. My heart goes out the the family left behind.

:(

[SOteric]

15. How tragic that he's died, but how wonderful that

they'll always have that last memory of him reaching out to express his love.

Life is too short. Say it now.