Last week's epiphany moment -- Some people don't want help.

[IdaBriggs]

Probably pretty obvious to most of the world, but there are people out there who really *don't* want help. They don't want to 'better' themselves, they are happy not-being-happy, they are comfortable with their finances stressing them out -- whatever. Sometimes they just like to bitch, and they aren't trying to brainstorm/problem solve: they are just bitching.

Personally, I know I have my own 'blind' spots about how to live my life where 'fixes' are probably pretty easy to other people (a clean and organized house -- I am a Fluttering FlyBaby, currently off track a bit, and a cat with litter box issues springs to mind awfully fast!), but every now and then, I run smack dab into the 'why don't you just' fill-in-the-blank syndrome for what seems to be obvious-to-me problems. I am not talking about running other people's lives, but dealing with the Bang Your Head On The Wall stuff that seems to be set-ups for self-created crises.

I get that we all get comfortable with the status quo, and change stresses us out, even if its for the better. I think my lesson for this time in my life is to 'let go' of the obvious, and accept that I am not responsible for the people around me, even if I know the answers to their questions.

What prompted this moment? Well, I stopped at an estate sale last week, and started talking with a lady who had not been on good terms with her brother who had died unexpectedly; she was mad at him for leaving her a house with a mortgage that was substantially less than the house was worth, but based on the property values of *her* town, was outrageously high. I pointed out she could easily rent the place out, the house across the stress was selling for 2-1/2 times what the remaining balance on the mortgage was, and she could easily walk away from it with a $30K profit very easily just by under pricing it, even in the current 'bad' market. She decided it was easier to hand it back to the bank instead. I guess that way she could stay mad at him for having the audacity to leave so much 'work' for her to do, instead of appreciating him leaving her a house with equity in it. Sigh.