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but not really. OK, a couple of days ago, this girl who comes around my work all the time, I work at a gas station, broke up with her abusive boyfriend, and the first thing she does is come up to me and ask me out. Frankly I just said no, the problem is that first, at most, I would be a rebound fuck, second, she's really, really, fucked up, and I don't think I need that type of drama in my life.
But, and yes, there is always a but, I still worry about her, her Ex started slapping her, and I told her it will just escalate from there, I'm not going to claim I'm the reason she broke up with him, hell, everyone at my work, and most of her friends, also told her to break up with him. He's been trying to take over her life, telling her she can't work, not letting her out of his sight for any extended period of time, etc. My advice was for her to drop him like the bad habit he is, and then move on with her life.
I think her big problem is that she doesn't have self-esteem, in the sense that she NEEDS a boyfriend to feel validated. I think this is the reason why she asked me out, she wants me to validate her, and frankly I really don't want to be used as a prop for someone else's self esteem. At the same time, however, I would like to be a good friend to her, and try to make her see that she doesn't need a boyfriend to make herself feel good. Considering my own predilections when it comes to this, my instincts tell me to help her with this, but I don't know if I should involve myself in her life any more than absolutely necessary.
I know a couple of things though, one is I'm not interested in anything other than friendship with her, and second, I really don't want her to start crushing on me because I show her kindness, that will end up hurting her. She's also dirt poor, and I was thinking of seeing if I can help her find a therapist to help her with her issues, but I don't know if she would qualify for public assistance.
Frankly, I don't know what to do, she needs help, but I'm not sure how much I should give her.
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