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For those who care:
Yesterday the douchebag prof. and I had a rather "healthy" exchange. He was very angry at discovering that I was not going to stay with him in the spring. Apparently my simply asking him, "Do you need me for the spring?" back in early October constituted a complete agreement that I would stay with him, DESPITE our never having spoken or never having any formal meeting where I explicitly told him that I would stay. I did, in turn, confront him on his ditching our book project and never following-up with me, while extensively helping another Master's student. I did NOT however, address the inappropriateness of his working relationship with her or with me.
The entire meeting was a lesson in Douchebaggery. To whit:
1. According to him, I just need to "chill out."
2. That there was no need for further discussion about my wanting to continue with him beyond my asking him: "Do you need me in the spring?"
3. He doesn't communicate well, and that's just how he is. (I think the implication here was "too bad").
4. Regarding his ditching my project and never getting back to me: He can work with whomever he wants, whenever he wants, and that's that.
5. He told me that he supported me before entering the doctoral program, supporting me entering the doctoral program, and he WANTED to support my way through the program, "but there we are."
6. He said that he never got back to me on the book project because he thought the "timing was wrong" because there were too many books like it. He failed to inform me of this brilliant realization of his.
7. Apparently I also have "some sort of problem" with this Master's student he's working with; apparently my saying that she made a "cameo appearance" at one of our meetings was somehow derogatory to her.
I stood my ground and held up to his BS rather well. I actually walked out of there feeling very vindicated, and I think it's because I now understand well that he's a total douchebag, and that his douchebaggery may likely cause a problem for him. I think some of the items he told me were very abusive, especially his comment on his helping me throughout the program. I'm not going to bother the poor Assoc. Dean who has been so patient with me throughout this for a little while, at least, but I think I will have to mention these items to him.
Oh well. Back to work. :P
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