Recurrent Thanksgiving woes

[MISSDem]

As usual, my sister-in-law called on Thanksgiving Eve while I was at work and left a message on my answering machine asking me to Tbanksgiving dinner at their house. I called her back when I got home and said "I have made other plans. I wish you had asked me earlier cause I would rather spend the holiday with family, but..." I had already made plans - to stay at home. Why does she do this every year? Am I crazy?

[MISSDem]

1. replies needed.

before next Thanksgiving Eve.

[skygazer]

2. Waiting for other people is usually a losing proposition

It would be nice if they would speak up and say something but so often they don't. I find that the best way to avoid being disappointed is to contact people myself, ahead of time and ask them, "Hey, what are you guys doing for Thanksgiving this year?" I wouldn't do that in the case of a friend's party or something but a family holiday, hell yes.

On the other hand, if your only plans were to stay at home, why not go? I know it's last minute but it might have been nicer.

[Kali]

3. if she is consistant then you have the option to respond

in a way that allows you to get what you want/need (if you wanted to go and didn't REALLY have plans you should have gone)

Alternatively why not call her earlier to see what's up?

[tigereye]

4. even family should give you a week's notice

I always call everyone 1-2 weeks in advance just to make sure they know I am cooking Tx. dinner....