I am sooooo pissed at my BIL...it is a good thing he is going to Iraq

[greenbriar]

My bro in law was in an aweful 5 year marriage. They had 2 stillborna babies and then finally two beautiful kiddos. The Boy is 5 Today and the little girl is 3 After a very rocky 5 years, they split up for good after being off and on for most of that 5 years.

He joined the Army and is on his way to Iraq in the next few weeks. He is stationed in Washington State and ex lives in Kansas.

He came back on the 22nd of December and stayed till the 3rd of Jan.

X has been pretty relaxed on letting him see the kids when ever he is on leave (as she should because she pretty much gets half of what ever he earns including bonus)

She also lets us see the kiddos when ever we want. We usually get them one weekend a month as we live 2 hours away.

My QUESTION is...

would any x keep you from seeing your kids?

He made no attempt to see his kids at all during the time he was here because "he didn't want to deal with her bullshit" SO...he did not see them for Christmas nor did he spend any time with his son before his birthday

WTF???

I am really ashamed of him that he made no attempt to see his kids. It is like since he joined the army, he has forgotten the last 7 years and forgotten that he has kids.

He got together with all his buddies but not once saw his kids.


GRRRRRRRRR I am so mad.

I practically raised the son when he was 6 months old till he was 3 as the bro in law lived with us and had him 90 % of the time.

I love that boy like he was my own, and if given the choice, that boy would gladly live with me.

[GreenPartyVoter]

1. I cannot understand not wanting to be around your kids, but esp on holidays and b-days

Poor bebbies. :(

[IndianaJones]

2. a man not interested in his kids? how completely novel. nt.

[Arugula Latte]

3. Gawd. What a f@#$ing asshole.

I swear, I have no tolerance for colossal dickheads like that.

Poor kids. They got stuck with one dud of a father.

[greenbriar]

5. yea, but they have one "hell of an aunt"

I spoil them every chance I get

[Arugula Latte]

6. That's good. That makes a big difference to kids.

It's so important for kids to have relatives who really care about them. I had kind of a strange extended family and few that did, but the ones that made an effort really made a big impact on me.

[greenbriar]

4. I just called "bubby" for his birthday

he asked me if his daddy was at my house...


grrrrrrrrrrrr


I am crying and so pissed