Round two of me Vrs my sister cause of her brat

[HEyHEY]

Same shit, kid was lippy to me for no reason and my sister did nothing. So, I did the "adult thing" and was stern with him. Her response is to scold ME for getting angry with the kid. I told her she shouldn't let the kid speak to me that way she tells me not to tell her how to raise her kid. I told her that I don't give a shit what she does with her kid but if her kid is going to be a little brat to me it will be addressed.


If I spoke to adults the way her four year old does when I was his age I'd of been shit-kicked for it by my mom.

As well, if she has an issue with how I handle her kid (After she'd neglected to do so, I might add) then she should pull me aside and not say anything in front of the kid. All she's doing is saying, "Hey, it's okay to be a little shit to Uncle Jer, mom doesn't care - in fact, she'll take your side!"

And guess what? The kid is being polite as hell to me now. Know why? Cause Uncle Jer is setting boundries.

My parents are getting sick of it too. And when that reaches the limit you can bet that Mom and Dad will say, "If you are going to let your kid speak to us like that, don't bring him over."

It's not so much the bratty behaviour. He's a kid and they are gonna be brats. It's that she doesn't do anything then gets upset with the family when we do. Fuck that.

[XemaSab]

1. Kids are like dogs

They're happier when there are rules and limits. :shrug:

[Debi]

2. I 'redirected' my cousin's kid the other night

I actually felt bad b/c she's really good with her kid AND the kid minds most times. She just got a little sassy and had to be told 'NO'. Mom actually thanked me and said she was sorry she didn't get to the kid sooner. Whew, was worried I'd get the 'don't you be telling my kid what to do' talk.

I think showing your child that there are other authority figures beyond mom and dad is important. For two reasons - teaches them that even when mom and dad aren't around somebody is observing their behavior AND if there is a problem and mom and dad aren't around somebody is there to help them.

Good Luck.

[Jamastiene]

3. You are doing the kid a favor.

It also works to videotape a kid acting that way, then play it back to them to show them what they sound and look like. If they cop an attitude THEN, whine and act just like them to them and see how they react. Most of the time, they'll change their 'tude really quick when you show them just how bad they look and sound.

[lunatica]

4. You really are doing the kid a favor

It's your sister who's damaging him and sending him out into a harsh world ready to get in trouble at every turn. Don't stop, and tell your sister you're not stopping because someone has to take responsibility for helping the kid turn our like a decent person. You can probably tell the kid not to talk to his grandparents like that also and get him to behave when he's not around her.

Kids will respond to boundaries very well because in actuality they want them and need them. How can he know if he's doing things wrong or right unless he bumps into boundaries?

This is so elemental. IT's your sister who needs discipline.

[JitterbugPerfume]

5. I tell kids

I am bigger , I am stronger and I am smarter than you so I make the rules.

[HEyHEY]

6. "Wanna die, kid?"

[JitterbugPerfume]

7. yup

that is the general idea