Music you loved but have trouble listening to now because of some painful experience.

[Mike 03]

Example: It's really hard for me to listen to "Dark Side of the Moon" ever since my ex-gf told me that she loves to have sex to side two.

"I Wish You were Here" also by Pink Floyd also has bad memories for me too, since that was playing the first time another ex and myself made out.

Bruce Springsteen's "If I Should Fall Behind" was the theme song at my wedding, and "One" by U2 was our first dance. It's hard to listen to those two songs too, although actually I love playing "One" on guitar. That is still fun.

I'd love to know which songs have accumulated meaning or unwanted significance for you. Have you abandoned them entirely, or reinvented them on your own terms?

[BeachBaby]

1. I have a couple....

"Sweet Caroline". My best friend, Caroline, committed suicide in 1985. I used to sing it to her in the hallways between classes, and any other time that I felt the need to annoy her. All these years later, it rips my heart out when I hear it.

"Baby, I Love Your Way". Personal reasons that I can't get into.

[My Good Babushka]

2. Easter Parade

on a music box. We got a little wind-up thingy that played that song when my baby kitty cat got hit by a car. I guess I was about ten years old. I could never hear it slowly winding down without crying. I still dislike hearing it.

[AlCzervik]

3. Country music.

it reminds me of my raging alcoholic piece of shit child beating former step father.

[redqueen]

4. Peter Gabriel, most Genesis... James Taylor.

Reminds me of an ex... things didn't end well.

[abq e streeter]

5. I sang a slow version of Thunder Road at the funeral of one of my best friends

at his wife's request; it was one of his favorite songs, as well as maybe my all-time fave Bruce song. ( Tom and I had done a road trip to Phoenix to see Bruce & band less than a year earlier--his first and ultimately only Springsteen concert). I still love it, but hearing it is always bittersweet now, although it also brings a hint of a smile thinking about how Tom would have laughed at me purposely slurring the words "praying in vain for a savior to rise..." to not offend anyone in the catholic church where the funeral was held.

[Lars39]

6. I listened to some Paul Simon songs while getting my chemo treatments.

I still like the songs, but don't want to listen to them now. I think I'm saving them for my next bout. :(

[Forkboy]

7. Actually, none.

There are songs that I have troubles listening to, but not because of one specific reason. It's more of a general sadness at my, and others, life. Michael Gira has a few that are tough to listen to. His lyrics are as open and honest as you can get, and sometimes a few of his songs hit me.

It helps that the music I listen to doesn't lend itself to romance, which might be why I have no bad memories of love associated with it. And for me, music trumps love. Outside of Metallica, I've never had a band break my heart. :)

[ogneopasno]

9. I'm the same way. Any music that might remind me of a bad breakup or ill-advised coupling is

more nostalgic than anything else.

ETA: Except for, and don't laugh, "Wreck of the Edmund Fitzgerald." That song makes me cry every damn time I hear it.

[Forkboy]

18. I won't laugh, but can I giggle?

;)

I'm pretty philosophical about the past. A lot of sucky things have happened, but what can you do? I try learn from whatever it is and move on. While I think of the past sometimes, I don't dwell on it. It is what it is, and I can't change it anyways.

I know a lot of people would love to go back to their childhood, either to live it over because it was fun, or to do things differently, but I have no interest in either. First of all, it wasn't that fun, and second (and more importantly), I'm who I am because of my experiences, good and bad. I have some problems, but overall I like who I am at 41, so why long to change it? What if I ended up even worse? :evilgrin:

[1gobluedem]

8. "I Just Died in Your Arms Tonight"

I liked it the first time I heard it but its release coincided with a very painful breakup for me. All the memories come rushing back when I hear it even though I'm way over the guy.

[SacredCow]

10. "One" has been a problem for me, too....

It was a staple of a band I was in, so I know it backwards and forwards. But lyrically, it just "fit" some upheaval in my life this past year, and now it affects me heavily- Especially the duet with Mary J. Blige (which I think is a fantastic duet- despite not being much of a MJB fan).

Unusual choice for first dance music, though?

[LaydeeBug]

11. "Hey There Delilah" b/c it was a ringtone when I heard of my aunt's death.

I still can't listen to it.

[Inchworm]

12. I Am, I Said

It reminds me of many, many years where I was trying to make a home for my daughter.. yet had no real home myself.

Neil Diamond
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mwircEDCss8

LA's fine, sunshine most of the time
The feeling is laid back
Palm trees grow and the rents are low
But you know I keep thinking about
Making my way back

Well, I'm New York City born and raised
But nowadays, I'm lost between two shores
LA's fine, but it ain't home
New York's home but it ain't mine no more

I am, I said
To no one there
And no one heard at all
Not even the chair
I am, I cried
I am, said I
And I am lost, and I can't even say why
Leavin' me lonely still

Did you ever read about a frog who dreamed of being a king
And then became one
Well, except for the names and a few other changes
If you talk about me, the story's the same one

But I got an emptiness deep inside
And I've tried but it won't let me go
And I'm not a man who likes to swear
But I've never cared for the sound of being alone

I am, I said
To no one there
And no one heard at all
Not even the chair
I am, I cried
I am, said I
And I am lost, and I can't even say why

I am, I said
I am, I cried
I am...

I have sometin' in my eye.

Ribbit!

:woohoo:

[skygazer]

13. "We've Got Tonight" gave me problems for years

Very tough breakup coinciding with that damn song coming on the jukebox. What are the odds?

Ten years later, I ran into the guy in a bar and made him cry. Not nice but it made me feel a lot better and the song hasn't bothered me since. :shrug:

[LynzM]

14. Come on Eileen...

Is probably the worst for me. I had several guys trap me in the corner of a dorm room and pretend to jack off on my face while that song was on. They thought it was hysterical. I still can't stand to listen to it.

I don't much like Dave Matthews or The Doors, owing to bad associations with freshman year of college. There are others, but they're less important and I don't remember them until I actually hear the song.

[Mad_Dem_X]

22. That's terrible!

Guys can be such assholes.

[LynzM]

26. Yeah, it wasn't fun.

It's actually worse, remembering it, than it seemed at the time. Strange, that. I wish I'd stood up for myself - I probably could have bodily extricated myself, but I was a bit more meek those days.

[jobycom]

15. Asia's "Heat of the Moment" and anything by James Taylor--though I never liked Taylor before that.

[lost-in-nj]

16. so many

:hi: :hug:

but Counting Cars by Snow Patrol is the most recent one

because it came out when my ex was leaving and I thought
the words were perfect for how I felt





lost

[Shell Beau]

17. Desperado by the Eagles and The Dance by Garth Brooks.

Both remind me of my dead brother.

[lightningandsnow]

19. "Leaving on a Jet Plane"

My now-ex-boyfriend sung it for me before I left for camp for 6 weeks this past summer.

Me and the ex are still friends, but I miss him a lot.

[blondeatlast]

20. "At Last" by Etta James; used to describe my marriage until the 22 year old came along. nt

[raccoon]

21. "Still the One"--heard it not long after I split up with my ex and I remember I cried d

when I heard it.

[LanternWaste]

23. Open Arms by Journey...

Open Arms by Journey.

My freshman year in High School, my first drinking party, and accidentally (and loudly) farting during my first-ever slow dance.

We shall speak of this no more...

[crimsonblue]

24. hmmm

anything by Jason Mraz.

most everything by Damien Rice.

some DC.

When I broke up with my gf, I had to trash nearly half my music tastes. That bitch!

[Phillycat]

25. I had to reclaim some Stevie Wonder, Prince, and Marvin Gaye after a breakup.

It took a while. It was too painful to listen to for a few months, but I forced myself through it and made those songs mine again.

Truman Capote said, "It's amazing how potent cheap music can be."

[Lindsey]

27. I can't listen to Train...

My most significant ex and I loved the CD (the one with "Drops of Jupiter"). To me the whole CD was really great. I've never been happier in my life than when I was with her.....