I am home alone ..... really alone

[lost-in-nj]

tonight in my 50 years

my son moved out today


to his new house

I knew it was coming....


I had a house with 8 people living here
and who ever showed up for dinner

and I mean every night I would cook extra
Sunday brunch ..... at least a dozen eggs

also we would leave our door unlocked to let any one who needed to
come and sleep on the couches
it was interesting :)


now

no one

me
and I have to lock my door..

fuck



I HATE THIS SHIT


:cry:


lost

[PaddyBlueEyes]

1. awww lost

:hug:

[lost-in-nj]

6. thanks sweety

:hug:

hope our friend is doing ok


lost

[cynatnite]

2. I dread the day when my youngest moves out...

although, now is the time for you to do all the things you've ever wanted. Buy a sports car, go to Europe, or get a tattoo. :)

[lost-in-nj]

9. I have the tattoo

and am trying to do those things I want to!!

thanks

he was my oldest
my youngest got married in Oct. 2008

:pals:

lost

[TZ]

3. I'm sorry Lost..

over time, I think you will get used to it..I never thought I could live alone but now, I enjoy it..:hug:

[lost-in-nj]

11. thanks hon

I just hope my dogs don't bark at 3am

I will be afraid!!!


:hug:

lost

[Danger Mouse]

4. sweetie...

:hug:
you'll always have us, right?

[lost-in-nj]

12. always....

forever


:hug:

always

:)

thanks

lost

[Danger Mouse]

16. that's what friends are for.

:pals:

[lizziegrace]

5. Awww...

:hug:

[lost-in-nj]

14. aww Lizzie

how are you????

my problems are nothing compared to others

yes that means you

:hug:

lost

[lizziegrace]

35. Nope, I don't buy that

lonely is lonely and life is forever changed for you. I don't think comparing misery is fair.

:hug:

I know exactly how you feel. I have 12 place settings of Christmas china and spend every other Christmas alone. I've got 16 place settings of my grandmother's china and no one to cook for. We go on because we have to. I hope someday that we both get a chance to have a house full of love again.

[fizzgig]

7. oh sweetie

:hug:

[lost-in-nj]

15. thank you

:hug:

thank you



lost

[blueraven95]

8. ...

:hug:

[lost-in-nj]

17. thank you

:hug:


lost

[TK421]

10. Can I come over and keep you company?

can you make poached eggs, because if you can then you are my hero...

Oh...do you have beer in the fridge?

[lost-in-nj]

18. I can make them

but I don't eat them

:rofl:

and I always have a pull out couch for any one who needs it


the beer is cold!!!!!

in the fridge!!!

thanks

:pals:

lost

[TK421]

39. well...you could be THIS guy!

[no name no slogan]

13. solitude is not loneliness

And being by yourself does not mean you're alone.

In fact, one of the things I really enjoyed about getting divorced was getting the whole damn house to myself, to do what I wanted to do whenever I wanted to do it. Now, I honestly can't think of living with another person again.

Hang in there. :hug:

[lost-in-nj]

19. I know

that you know how I feel


and I love my solitude
but I do get lonely

:hug:


lost

[no name no slogan]

20. Take care sweetie

And it's true, even I (the quintessential loner) get lonely too. :hug:

[SallyMander]

21. ...

:hug:

[lost-in-nj]

25. if you are ever in NJ

let me know

"k?
we have manders here!!!!
:hug:

thank you

hows IZA????


lost

[SallyMander]

32. Oh that would be great!

I have a good friend from Montclair, so that is the only part of NJ I have seen.

Iza is good! Things are so crazy right now, I'll be graduating in June, so I'm applying for jobs -- but they are few and far between! So we have NO idea where we'll be living 6 months from now... :scared:

:hug:

[lost-in-nj]

34. Montclair is a hearbeat away!!!1!!!

really!!

lost

[SallyMander]

36. Oh cool!

It seems like a lovely town! My friend from there was my roommate all the way through college. She is one of my favorite people in the world - she just finished her medical residency, and now she's leaving to work at a pediatric AIDS clinic in Botswana! :wow:

[BeachBaby]

22. Hey, sweetie.....

Everything's gonna be okay. Just some adjusting for you to do. :hug:

[lost-in-nj]

27. we will

meet down the shore this year


no

ifs
ands
or butts


promise!!!

:hug:


lost

[Jamastiene]

23. If I lived closer, I could come over and eat dinner with ya...

and crash on the couch. That's my favorite spot anyhow, at least here; the couch.

If you offer me food, I'm the type who'll try anything, some things twice. :9

:hug:

[lost-in-nj]

28. thank you

my couch is and always has been open to any one

I do cook to :)


lost

[Skittles]

24. learn to enjoy your own company

solitude can be pleasant, it can

[lost-in-nj]

29. trying

really

but NO ASS KICKING HERE

right now anyway!!!

:hi:

lost

[Deja Q]

26. . .

:hug:

[lost-in-nj]

30. thank you friend

:hug:

thanks


lost

[madinmaryland]

31. Hugs from Maryland!

:hi:

[lost-in-nj]

33. Yeah

I know



:hug: back


lost

[av8rdave]

37. Sorry...

It's hard when they leave the nest. My last one left almost two years ago. The house has been empty and quiet ever since.

[Swede]

38. Well you still have us lounge lizards.

Small comfort,I know,so hang in there.

[bluesbassman]

40. Hey Lost,

You know your never really alone when you have this crew to keep you company! Hugs from your fellow Loungers.

[SPKrazy]

41. I'll come and sleep on your couch this summer

if you let me

:D

might bring my son with me...

:hi:

:hug:

:loveya:

[Tsiyu]

42. Aw, you're gonna be fine

Now there's room to meet more cool people, cook more wonderful meals and have some lost-in-nj time.

It's hard when they leave the nest, but I have one back home and my inner hermit is screaming sometimes. I want to write more but there are always people in and out so it's distracting to me. But very enjoyable, too. I understand why you would miss that "community." :hug:

Still, with this economy he'll be here a while, and he's been helping pay the bills (though now HE's been canned as well.)

Who am I kidding? I'll probably be sad and lonely for a while too when he and his girl get their own place. :shrug:

[orleans]

43. sounds like a major adjustment for you

sorry--hang in there--

my daughter moved out last august for school. it was HELL! i still miss her, but i try not to dwell on it. stil haven't completely adjusted.

i hate change. (except when it comes to politics etc.)

[LiberalEsto]

44. Hug from a former Wayne resident

Hey lost-in-nj, I'm so sorry to hear that you are sad...

:hug:

They DO come back. My older daughter moved with her boyfriend to an apartment about 20 miles away, and they come by almost every weekend to see us, do their laundry and hang out. This past Sunday she made dinner for us, along with buttered pasta for me because I've been ailing with gastritis.

I've started a tradition of High Tea. A lot of times when the girls and their boyfriends come over, we make lots of little sandwiches, scones and a big pot of tea.

Maybe once you've gotten over your initial sense of loss, you and your son can come up with some kind of special meal or tradition just for when he visits.

Maybe this is your time to keep your own company and see what develops from the silence. A year from now I bet things will be very different for you.

blessings,
LibE

[PassingFair]

45. One woman's hell is another woman's heaven.

I would kill for some alone time....

you are lucky to have that big house!

Still....sorry you feel lonely tonight.

:hug: