Good morning Lounge

[MissHoneychurch]

How are you today?

So I need some help with something. So some years ago I met this guy. He and I and kinda started dating. Then he met this other girl, married her and had children. I think this marriage was and is a mistake, but it was his decision. We stayed in lose contact. I never called or contacted him. Then for a while the contact broke. Some months ago he emailed me again to my work addy. No problem. He is a nice guy. Now he starts calling me sweetheart and sexy and sends kisses (he asked if it is OK, I said it is but now he is overdoing it). He wants to meet me again but says we have to meet at my place because he doesn't want to be seen in public. His wife is overly jealous and doesn't allow him contact with old female friends. I feel not comfy with the thought of having him at my place. I believe he will try to hit on me and I don't want that. Whenever he writes about meeting I am not answering that question. But I don't want to stop the emailing either because I like him and he doesn't have many friends. What should I do?

Example yesterdays email

Hey Beautiful,

How are you feeling today?...Sexy I hope...:)


HELP!!!



Picture of the Day

[Tom Kitten]

1. I like both god kitty and the condor!

he's fluffy and sleepy! and the California Condor is majestic-looks like he's confined though, might he be from the Oregon program?

[MissHoneychurch]

2. Good morning Tom Kitten

My god kitty grew up to a proud tiger :)




The condor ... I took the picture in a zoo in Germany.

[Tom Kitten]

4. Handsome Cat

Isn't he magnificent?

[MissHoneychurch]

6. He sure is

how can you doubt that? :D

[AirmensMom]

8. I have to agree!

:loveya: He's a sweetie, too.

[AirmensMom]

3. Good morning, MissHC!

:hi: :loveya: :hug:

Nice pic!

Now, about the guy ... he's trying to make a move on you behind his wife's back. Just tell him you would have to meet in public if he wants to be friends. You don't want more than that. If he can't be honest with his wife, don't assume he'll be honest with you.

Hope that helps. :hug:

[MissHoneychurch]

5. Good morning AirmensMom

:hi: :loveya: :hug:

You are up early. Are you seeing harleydad off?

I don't want anything from the guy. I am fine with the emailing as it is. Meeting in public would be OK with me too. Just not at my place.

[AirmensMom]

7. Not exactly.

I woke up just before he left ... and he kissed me goodbye. Then I couldn't get back to sleep. I could use a bit more, but I guess I'm a little anxious.

Yep, I figured that. He doesn't sound very trustworthy.

[MissHoneychurch]

10. I am sure you will go back to sleep

for a bit. When are the guys coming?

[AirmensMom]

13. Perhaps.

:shrug:

They usually show up at around 8:00. So there's still time.

I shopped for a new camera last night. Only went to one store, found one I liked, and they didn't carry it. So why do they have it on display? Guess I'll order one from the internets. They are very reasonably priced now, as long as I don't get a fancy one like yours. :D

[MissHoneychurch]

14. What camera do you like?

the small digi cams are rather cheap these days.

I am glad I got fancy with the camera before I bought my condo :rofl:

I took some pics yesterday evening, haven't uploaded them yet though.

[AirmensMom]

24. It's another Canon Elph.

Can't remember the numbers. Might wait for the next model to become available.

I'm glad you did that, too! :rofl:

New pics? :bounce: Gotta post 'em. :D


Oh yeah ... and you probably figured out that I went back to bed. Just got showered and dressed. Harleydad made it out of town OK. Just called from Atlanta. :D

[MissHoneychurch]

26. Yeah, I figured

:D

I will post them, once I got them uploaded. You should know the problem :P

Glad to hear that. It is a stressful day for him. But definitely worth it :D

[AirmensMom]

27. ...

:hug:

Yep, I know the problem! :rofl:

I'm tracking his next flight now. It's 17 minutes late. I hope they make up some time in the air. Stressful doesn't begin to describe it ... but exciting, too. And he looked like a million bucks when he left! Hubba hubba! :evilgrin:

[MissHoneychurch]

29. Did it snow in Atlanta?

because they sure can't handle that :rofl:

Glad you let him leave on time :evilgrin:

[AirmensMom]

30. Ack!

I don't know! Should I worry? :scared:


Yeah, I figured it was worth it. And it IS a short trip. I'm sure he'll look just as yummy when he gets home. :loveya:

So help me out here. Should I "pre-order" the camera I want, knowing that the "tank" could die any day and then I'll be stuck waiting without one? (You know I need a camera daily for other stuff besides photographing your beautiful baby ...) Or get one that's already out and maybe then regret that I didn't wait?


OMG! :scared: The guys left their air compressor plugged in last night and it just turned on and scared the shit out of me!

[MissHoneychurch]

32. Nah, weather is fine in ATL

just checked :)

I am sure he does too. :D

OMG, that would have scared me as well!! :hug:

Depends on when the new camera is supposed to come on the market.

[AirmensMom]

33. Oh, thanks.

I was afraid to look. :rofl:

Of course, he'll be tired. x(

Yeah, I didn't know what it was at first, and it's RIGHT outside my room! Thought the world was coming to an end. :rofl:


Guess this calls for some research. Amazon.com says it's not released yet ... but they're taking pre-orders. (Does that mean my card gets charged 6 months before I see my order?)

[MissHoneychurch]

34. Well

you could wake him up again :evilgrin:

Amazon charges you the minute they send off the package. Not before. At least the German Amazon does :D

[AirmensMom]

35. ...

:spray:

I guess that's a possibility. :rofl:

OK, well, Canon isn't releasing the camera until April. :cry: You guys can already get it, apparently.

[MissHoneychurch]

39. Just make sure

that you fed the kitties already. You wouldn't want them to interrupt :hide:

So you need to decide if you want to risk it ....

[AirmensMom]

41. LOL!

:rofl:


I know. :cry: Or I could have you buy one and send it here ... but that would take until April, too, considering how slow our mail is. Guess I'll decide another day. :P

Almost time for the guys to get here.

[MissHoneychurch]

48. ...

:D

Are the brick guys coming today?

Also, if I'd buy the camer here it wouldn't work with your computer or TV. Remember how we tried to look at my pics on your TV but it wouldn't accept my format?

[AirmensMom]

51. Hard to say.

It's not raining, so I think the "boss" will either get them here or call someone else. He was impatient that they didn't come yesterday, even though it was raining. LOL!

Oh yeah! But it's funny, my one that broke is an Ixus, which is not the US version of a PowerShot xxx (don't know the numbers). We bought it online. Everything worked just fine for me. Well ... until it stopped working altogether the other day. :shrug:

[MissHoneychurch]

56. Then they will probably show up

How long did you have the old camera?

[AirmensMom]

65. They're here ...

but no brick guys. :( Trying to fins some others.

Well, the OLD camera, the "tank", we've had since 2001, when our grandson was born. Then we got the Ixus in 2003, just before we came here. That one has taken 10,000 pictures. Guess I wore it out. :shrug:

[MissHoneychurch]

67. Maybe they come a bit later

what is C saying?

Don't scare me. I took over 7000 pictures with my Canon so far. And I only have it 2 years. :scared:

[AirmensMom]

70. He's calling

other guys.

Yeah, but mine was cheap and I carried it around in my jeans pocket and sat on it. I think maybe that's not so good for it. :shrug: Don't be scared. :hug:

[MissHoneychurch]

71. Other brick guys?

Maybe not really good. It would hurt to sit on my camera :rofl:

[AirmensMom]

72. Yeah.

Can't get anyone. :cry: There may be a reason why. :banghead:

Yeah, sitting on it is bad. :rofl:

[MissHoneychurch]

74. You really think so?

I am sure C has enough connections to find some. And the brick people should be clever. If they stick with C&L they won't have business soon anymore.

[AirmensMom]

77. But they don't seem to be.

Oh well. :shrug: Just more stress, that's all.

[MissHoneychurch]

78. If they prefer to not earn money

what can you do about it?

Have you heard from harleydad?

[AirmensMom]

79. Not a thing.

:(

No, but his plane has landed. He's probably standing in a line somewhere getting his car ... or driving to the place. He'll call when he gets a chance, I'm sure. :shrug:

[MissHoneychurch]

80. I am sure he will also

and I am sure he will call later to let you know how it went.

[AirmensMom]

81. Maybe even

right after he checks into the airport, so I know he got there in time. That way, he can tell me everything at once. :bounce:

Going to be a long day.

[Heidi]

9. He's already hitting on you.

If he truly valued your friendship, he wouldn't put you in this uncomfortable position. Good morning, and belated happy birthday! :hug: :hug:

[MissHoneychurch]

11. Thank you Heidi

:hug:

for the b.day wishes and for the advice.

How are you doing?

[Heidi]

12. Hi! I'm good.

A little worried about Porkchop, the feral cat we've been feeding and doctoring, because she hasn't come for eating since Tuesday morning. But she might be eating somewhere else, too, or she might just be a "part-time" cat. x(

Here's Ginger's sworn enemy, Porkchop.

[MissHoneychurch]

15. Ohh what a beauty

no wonder Ginger is jealous.

I hope Porkchop shows up again. :hug:

[elleng]

16. Great picture!

Just say 'no!'

Not really; if you feel comfortable ignoring his requests to get together, I think its ok to enable you to continue your conversations. You might, at some time, have to/want to explain briefly your reason for doing what you've been doing.

Good luck.

[MissHoneychurch]

17. Thank you

right now I excuse me not answering with the work I have to do and no time to email. Which is partly true. But it is not the answer to the situation.

I guess I have to tell him and if he doesn't understand and is offended by it, then the friendship is a fake anyway.

[malta blue]

18. Good morning!

:hi::loveya:

Seems to me as though this guy does not have "honorable" intentions as far as meeting with you. I say meet in a public place, and if he can't agree to that, then perhaps it is time to sever contact for a while :shrug:

Thank you so much for yesterday! It was such a treat :loveya:

[MissHoneychurch]

19. Good morning malta

:hi: :loveya: :hug:


It was a pleasure for me too :D

Seems like that is the answer. I am not feeling comfy at all how he writes at the moment.

[malta blue]

44. if it makes you uncomfortable, then it needs to stop

:pals:

[AirmensMom]

25. Good morning, mb!

:hi: :loveya: :hug:

How are you today?

[malta blue]

42. I am doing better today

:hug:

Thank you so much for asking :pals:

I only woke up once last night, for a short while, when they plowed my driveway and the dogs barked. After I settled them back in, I don't think I was up for more than 20 minutes or so. :thumbsup:

Today I have my massage for the fibromyalgia, so this evening I know I will feel great.

[AirmensMom]

45. Oh, good!

:hug:

It's nice to be able to sleep, isn't it? And a massage sounds heavenly! *sigh* Can I come, too? :bounce:

[malta blue]

76. sleep IS good

:bounce::bounce:

Massage and regular exercise have helped my fibromyalgia tremendously. I can only afford to go every couple of weeks for massage, but it is soooo worth it. Although, my masseuse is on maternity leave starting 3/18 :(

[Sky Masterson]

20. Good Morning MissH

Hey Beautiful! Oops sorry:yoiks:

Unless he just wanted to be friends it would be ok IMHO.
But if that were true he would introduce you to his wife.

You might suggest to him that you meet for lunch at some place.
People bump in to each other all of the time.
He can call his wife while you are having a cup of coffee and tell her."Hey guess who I am having a cup of coffee with? I bumped in to her at blah blah blah." Yea it's sneaky. But it's much better than having a guy who you know likes you, alone with you in your apartment.
That way his wife knows and if anyone sees him with a strange woman .She will know who the strange woman is.
His ass is covered and you can get a better feel of what his motives are.
I don't know. I get the feeling that he wants a bit more than a glass of wine or coffee and some of your wonderful snacks.

What you can do that is probably better advice is to tell him that if he is looking for anything other than friendship that you are sorry but you aren't that person but you could always use a good friend.

:hug: :loveya:

[MissHoneychurch]

22. Good morning Sky

:hi: :loveya: :hug:


He will never tell his wife. She would rip him a new one if she knew that he is emailing with me. So your suggestion is not working.

Your last sentence is the better solution I guess.

[Sky Masterson]

37. ah..

I suck at advice. lol
Upfront is always better i think :hug:

[Road Scholar]

21. Good morning. What a pretty pic of the condor. I forgot to

wish you happy birthday the other day, but Happy Birthday!!!!
It's not something that I know very much about, but if they'll do it with you, they'll do it to you. Just sayin' I guess. Sometimes, a little red flag goes up and I just steer around what has the potential of being a major disaster.
I hope you have a very nice day.

[MissHoneychurch]

23. Good morning Road Scholar

Thank you for the b.day wishes :hug:

My little flag is waving like hell at the moment. I know exactly why I don't want him at my place.

My day so far is quite good. I will leave at 4pm today, still have to do some stuff at home before my mom comes tomorrow.
I wish you a wonderful day as well.

[Callalily]

28. Good morning MissH!

Great condor picture. What luck to catch him/her in that pose.

Oh, and I must comment on your guy dilemma, and sorry, but I'm going to be harsh here. BREAK OFF ALL CONTACT WITH HIM - HE IS MARRIED

A while back I started e-mail contact with a guy, which ultimately grew to phone calls. We were so compatible in every way I thought I finally had met the guy of my dreams. We fed on each other jokes, etc. Unfortunately he failed to tell me he was married. His spouse found out about our e-mails and phone calls, and actually called me! She was so hurt, so betrayed, and even though I did not know of her existence, I felt like I had done something wrong, and I truly was sorry for causing such hurt. I immediately broke it off with the guy . . . and yes, he tried to continue contact, but I refused to answer.

I learned a very difficult lesson.

Now, your guy wants to meet in secret which lead me to believe his spouse does not know the two of you are communicating. I would never trust a guy like that and neither should you.

If the marriage is in a poor state, one should fix it or get out. Betrayal is not a fun thing to go through, and I have experience with that too.

Well, that's my two cents MissH.

:hug: :hi: :loveya:

[MissHoneychurch]

31. Good morning Callalily

It was tough to get the condor on the pic completely :rofl:

Thank you for your advice. I know that his wife doesn't know. I am OK with the email contact since he doesn't has many friends. But I am less and less OK with him wanting to meet me again.
I told me already some months ago that I don't feel comfy meeting him at my place. His comment "Don't you trust yourself?" and kept bugging me about it. You are right, the best thing would be to break off all contact.

[Callalily]

49. It is a tough situation,

especially if you still have feelings, it's difficult being the strong one. In these situations I always put myself in the spouses/SO's place and ask myself how I would feel. And betrayed is always the answer.

You do what you feel is right for you, and wishing you good luck in your decision.

Sure wish today was Friday, but this week is going far better than last week. I'm going to start a fun, albeit tedious project today, so I'm looking forward to that.

Sending special >>>>>>>

[MissHoneychurch]

52. I don't have deep feelings for him anymore

it ended before I could fall in love with him. But there was a connection. And yes, I am afraid those feelings would show up again. I definitely don't want to sleep with him. And the more he is bugging me with a meeting the more I want to say "No". I want it to stay as it is. Innocent emailing. Even though his emails aren't innocent anymore.

Thanks for the special hug.

[Callalily]

58. I've already given you my

feelings on the situation, so I will not comment anymore. I just don't want to see you hurt, so please look out for yourself. *sigh* Just stay true to who you are, true to your convictions and you'll be okay.

Unfortunately I'm going to have to head out for work.

Good luck and wishing you a great day.

[MissHoneychurch]

59. I really appreciate your thoughts

and in the end I know that I don't want to meet with him. Otherwise I already would have.

Have a great day.

:loveya:

[AirmensMom]

36. Good morning, Miss Lily!

:hi: :loveya: :hug:

[Callalily]

43. Good morning AirmensMom!

Good to see you.

:hi: :hug: :loveya:

[AirmensMom]

46. Good to see you, too!

And I can see that you have very definite opinions on some things. :thumbsup: :fistbump: :toast:

[Callalily]

50. Yes, I do and I'm speaking

from experience. I hope that MissH was not offended, but she has been through a lot relationship wise, and I know she'll make a decision that's best for her.

We are blanketed with a beautiful layer of snow today. I'm thinking that winter will never end. ;)

:hug:

[AirmensMom]

53. True.

I agree with you completely. :hug:

Well, when you put "snow" and "beautiful" in the same sentence, I'm thinking winter ain't so bad. :D Of course, you'll need to take some pics.

[Callalily]

61. LOL! Yeah, those of us

that live in these parts can use snow and beautiful in the same sentence. We can also use "brisk" when it's a brazillion below zero.

Here's a pic of my patio. Needless to say I have not done too much grilling lately. :rofl: I'll try to get more "beautiful" scenes for you soon.

Gotta head out for work, so I'm wishing you a great day.

[AirmensMom]

64. How 'bout ...

refreshing? :rofl: Harleykid used so say that when we went camping and she was the first to "shower" in the spring-fed creek. :rofl:

Looks COLD to me! Beautiful sky in the background! :thumbsup:

Have a great day! :loveya: :hi:

[SalmonChantedEvening]

38. Good Morning MissHoneychurch :)

I agree with what Heidi posted, he already is hitting on you.

Just say Oh No.

:hi: :hug: :loveya: :pals:

Mad dash time, I'm almost late for work :EEK:


Tell the bird to stop circling, it ain't over yet. :rofl:

[MissHoneychurch]

47. Good morning SCE

Guess I have to say "thanks but no thanks" :rofl:

Have a great day

:hi: :loveya: :hug:

[crispini]

40. Good morning!

Hope you're well. I agree with the others in this thread. He's no good; meet in public.

[MissHoneychurch]

54. Good morning crispini

I am doing fine. Except for the finger I slammed but that is more a bother than real pain.

Thank you for the advice.

[crispini]

55. At least you didn't squeeze it between a monster magnet.

Like that thread I just posted in. Ewwwwwwww.

[MissHoneychurch]

57. I squeezed it in a fire saftey door

It hurt so much I couldn't even say "OUCH" x(

[Brewman_Jax]

60. G'day, MissH

:hi: :loveya:

Hmm, you have quite a dilemma. I hate it when that happens! :o

[MissHoneychurch]

62. Good morning Brewman

:hi: :loveya: :hug:

I hate drama. And I hate being pressured. And that is what he is doing regarding the meeting.

[Brewman_Jax]

63. Pressure is bad

you may have to tell him this...




:evilgrin:

[MissHoneychurch]

66. Cute pic

:D

Did you see the picture of my Simon at the beginning of the thread? :D

I coming more and more to the conclusion that I need to end the contact if he continues to push it in this direction instead of just talking as friends.

[Brewman_Jax]

68. I don't see a cat picture at the beginning

just the big bird picture.

Here's another pic for him...





Leave MissH alone, you married man! You missed your chance!












:P

[MissHoneychurch]

69. ROFL

:spray: Thank you :rofl:


Here is the link
http://www.democraticunderground.com/discuss/duboard.php?az=show_mesg&forum=105&topic_id=8534009&mesg_id=8534033

[Brewman_Jax]

73. I see him at post #2

looking majestic.






:rofl:

[MissHoneychurch]

75. They will never forget that

and they will always make sure we humans remember that :D

[Tuesday Afternoon]

82. Good Morning

:hug: Love The Picture :loveya:
My advice: Don't meet the guy. Sorry.
I really can't see this ending in a good way for you. :( :hug:

[MissHoneychurch]

83. Good morning Tuesday

:hi: :loveya: :hug:

No reason to be sorry for the advice. I asked for it.