Is it always a bad idea to get back together with an ex-partner?

[lightningandsnow]

I might be considering it moment. We broke up on amicable terms. I ran into him yesterday, and we kind of had a "moment", so to speak. I gave him a friendly kind of hug and he ran his fingers through my hair - that's not something you usually do to a friend, right? He's been kind of overly affectionate with me lately, and I realized I'm still attracted to him. I was talking to a mutual friend of ours last night, who hinted that said ex might still be attracted to me, then acted like he'd said too much.

Should I tell my ex I'm still into him? How do I go about this whole thing? Ugh, it's so complicated.

I have half a mind to call him right now and fess up to everything because I'm obsessing.

/end emo

[no name no slogan]

1. I did that with my college girlfriend

We were together for 2.5 years, and then broke up fall my senior year. By the time I graduated that June, we were back together, and stayed together for another year or so before finally breaking up a year and a half after I got out of college. I ran into her on Facebook last year, and now we're friends again, 16 years after we split up for the last time.

It can work. As long as you're honest with each other, and yourselves.

[Left Is Write]

2. No, not always, but I would be wary of getting back together over nostalgia.

[CaliforniaPeggy]

3. My dear lightningandsnow...

Sounds to me as though you two still have "something" going on for each other...

And it's certainly not a bad idea. Perhaps you've both done some growing up, some maturing, since you broke up?

I wouldn't tell him everything, though...

I would call and set something up...

And see where it goes!

Good luck, sweetie!

:hug:

[Withywindle]

4. My ex's parents did that.

They were separated for several years, almost divorced, even lived with other partners for a while...then got back together. It's like every child of divorce's Disney fantasy coming true - but it really did for him and his sister.

This was in the 70s. They're still together now.

[NMDemDist2]

5. i think it depends on why you broke up in the first place

if it was a 'wrong time wrong place' break-up, go for it.

I've done it and it never worked out for very long

good luck

:hi:

[Pool Hall Ace]

6. I know a couple that did it.

Married for a few years, somewhat nasty divorce. A few years later, they were married again.

I also know a woman whose daughter is getting ready to re-marry her ex.

So maybe there is something there, who knows? Even if there isn't romance, it still could result in a very close, special friendship. :hi: