Straight peoples: would you enjoy someone pestering you to switch teams?

[Lil Missy]

I'd never do that to anyone. And I'd find that extremely annoying.

I didn't make this a poll, on purpose. Because I'd like to see the answers.

[TZ]

1. No. People shouldn't be pestered about something thats NOT a choice

I'd like to smack the shit out of people who think anyone has a real say in this matter.

[Lil Missy]

6. I don't understand why I can't like some guys, but not wish to fuck them.

That is seriously insulting, and annoying.

[TZ]

10. Sounds like it has to more to do with another person's insecurities

than your actuall sexuality. There are some guys I know who just can't handle the idea that a women is not and will never be sexually attracted to them..it hurts their "machismo" for lack of a better term.

[Lil Missy]

30. Yep. I think it's also a macho thing about "curing a lesbian".

Yeah, you just need the right fuck, or dick. Like that would make a difference.

:eyes:

I've never even seen a dildo. Like life revolves around a prick.

[burning rain]

159. There's also just the belief that....

lesbians are exciting lovers.

[Critters2]

2. The interesting thing about being bi is that everyone thinks

you're really on their team, but don't want to admit it. That's fun, too.

[Lil Missy]

9. Yeah, like as if you are attracted sexually to everyone on earth.

Give me break!

[leftyclimber]

40. And don't forget

that you want to boink everyone on the planet. Constantly.

Sigh.

[Lil Missy]

56. and small animals too.

:eyes:

[Shell Beau]

62. Of course! Because if they allow gay marriage, then people will

be wanting to marry goats, dogs, pigs, cats, etc. We all know that gay people will boink anything.

:eyes:

[Lil Missy]

66. Yep. My animals are afraid now.

:eyes:

[DarkTirade]

122. That, or they think you're on the other team and don't want to admit it.

:banghead:

[Shell Beau]

3. Unless a person is bisexual it would be pointless.

I like men. I was born that way. Nothing will make me "switch teams". Same goes for gay people.

[Lil Missy]

15. And of course you are sexually attracted to every man that ever walked your path.

That's another stupid notion about gay people. Like every gay wants to jump the bones of every same sex person. That's just ridiculous.

[Shell Beau]

53. I know. People are attracted to all different kinds of people.

It is silly.

[Beer Snob-50]

156. excuse me!!!!!

not every gay man out there wants me??? :sarcasm:

[bluesbassman]

4. One should not be getting pestered either way.

No means no.

[Lil Missy]

18. "No means no. " In any language. n/t

[Commie Pinko Dirtbag]

5. No, but it might provide some form of comedic relief. -nt

[Lil Missy]

20. I don't find it amusing. n/t

[Commie Pinko Dirtbag]

21. Well, the team switch attempter in my case would have to be a gay man.

So it's unlikely thinks would go creepy, since it wouldn't be a misogynistic, sexist bigot.

[Lil Missy]

25. You changed the subject. You just said "it might provide some form of comedic relief" n/t

[Commie Pinko Dirtbag]

163. Absent creepiness, the situation would be amusing. -nt

[SacredCow]

7. Don't tell me....

That dude at the bar again?

[Shell Beau]

8. I wondered the same thing!

[SacredCow]

11. If so....

Then some gay men need to do a little turnabout on him, as illustration of how much of an asshat he's being. I'd volunteer, if I was nearby....

[Lil Missy]

13. LOL! No. I have not been there since that happened. LOL!

I think he got kicked out after I complained. I was in the biffy, he was gone when I came back out.

I only go there about once a month. I just get phone calls about the resident narcissist now. I may go back ... in a couple weeks.

:)

[TK421]

12. No, and I find it annoying as well....is that asshat at the bar still pestering you?

[Lil Missy]

16. No. I have not been there since then. But I'm not worried - we can smack his horny ass down.

[Ohio Joe]

14. Very annoying

My brother is gay and for years was convinced that I was as well. He would bring, to family gatherings (christmas, thanksgiving, cookouts), nice guys for me to meet in the hopes that I just had to meet the right one. The rest of my family thought it was the funniest thing and would encourage him. Mean while, I would get stuck explaining to these guys that I was real flattered but also real straight.

[Lil Missy]

17. I'm glad you were not homophobic or mean about it. But it's okay to be straight too.

Jebus, I think what your brother did was kinda rude.

[Roon]

19. I know a pair of identical twins

One is gay,the other one is straight.

[DarkTirade]

124. I knew a pair of twins like that too.

I kinda had a crush on the gay one. Unfortunately that was back in high school and I wasn't out yet. :P

[Roon]

164. Yeah, these two are a couple of cutie patooties

even though they are identical, they are very easy to tell apart by their clothes and mannerisms.

[DarkTirade]

166. These two were easy to tell apart because the straight one was kind of a jerk.

Whereas the gay one was a nice guy. :)

[Roon]

168. I can see that

These twins I know are both very sweet, in their own way.

[ThomCat]

117. Wow, that's the oposite of what we usually go through.

On the one hand, I'm glad your family is so cool with gayness. On the other hand, that's really annoying of him.

I guess you didn't bring home girlfriends. That would have shut him up.

[rurallib]

22. It would be like - I have DISH now, but every week I get a flyer for DirectTV

And after a while I get really irritated that I get the flyers because it is such a waste of time, effort and materials. Can't they just leave me alone? and let me watch my Dish? And if I want to change, I know where to find them. And the competitors will flock around me, should I want to change.
I never really thought how it must drive you crazy to be harrassed like that.

[Lil Missy]

32. It's one thing to be propositioned. That's flattering, and most gentlemen can take no for an answer.

But to be pestered further, in a sexual manner, now that gets plenty annoying.

I happen to like men. I've even been known to kiss and hug a few of my bestest men friends. I just don't wish to have a relationship or fuck one. Is that okay?

I wouldn't dream of pestering one of them to take on another guy. Whether they were gay or straight. So, why should I not get that same courtesy? When I say no, I mean NO.

[Starbucks Anarchist]

23. No, but I would be oddly flattered.

[Lil Missy]

36. That's because you are not a homophobic asshole.

:pals:

[Midlodemocrat]

24. No. Frankly, I think that is borderline fucking insane.

[Lil Missy]

35. I don't find it insane. Fantasies are okay. But once you hear, NO, it's

fucking rude to press the question.

NO means NO, in any sexuality or language.

I must learn to be more diplomatic. My response is FUCK OFF!

I blame it on dad. He was notorious for stepping on toes. I inherited his attitude.

[Midlodemocrat]

37. True. WHen you said pestering, I thought it went beyond just a simple question.

[Lil Missy]

43. Yes it did. It went beyond suggestive, and plenty rude.

[davsand]

26. I hate getting pestered, period.

I do NOT get the mindset that thinks if you ask enough tims somebody is gonna suddenly give you a different answer. Seems huge waste of time.

As far as the sex thing, I just assumed that all straight people were foaming at the mouth horny for any person of the opposite sex and that all gay people are blindly and uncontrollably attracted to a person of the same sex. You mean this is not true?

Is this woman attractive to you?



How about this guy?



:shrug:


Laura

[Lil Missy]

38. NO! NO! NO! Ya fucking tease.

Tryin' to make me puke? :puke:

[davsand]

98. Sorry if I grossed you out, but I was making a point.

If that woman hit on you, you'd probably run screaming. It isn't just a matter of not being attracted to her it is a matter of being absolutely repulsed by her. No matter HOW many times she asked, you'd still feel ill at the thought. The same goes for Rush the old gasbag...

No means no, and asking more than once is a complete waste of time and effort. Anybody that has the mindset that all gay or straight people are hyper-sexed needs to think about these images until they are burned into the retinas of their mind's eye. Stupid should hurt.



Laura

[Lil Missy]

142. Shit! I like women, but not every one that crosses my path. Michelle Malkin would make me puke!

I also have some men friends, who are good for nice hugs and maybe a kiss on the cheek. They are adorable.

But Limpballs? :puke: Even if I didn't know what a right wing fanatic pig he is, I'd just feel that freeper factor smell and find him repulsive.

No kiss or hug from me. You stink like freeper.

[KitchenWitch]

27. Ugh, that is awful.

[Lil Missy]

42. I am seriously being pestererd by a man that can't take NO for an answer.

I don't get this kind of shit from women when I say, no thanks.

[burning rain]

160. That's rotten; sounds like he's obnoxious.

While there are mostly-gay girls who occasionally like being with a guy, there are also those who never desire a man sexually, and knucklehead needs to get that through his skull.

[Odin2005]

178. What an asshole. Tell him to go to hell.

Sounds like the creepy fuck who raped my friend. :cry: :grr:

[XemaSab]

28. If the someone was Sherilyn Fenn, sure

:D

[Lil Missy]

44. Who?

[Redstone]

29. I could never blame, nor resent anyone for asking. But only once; no pestering.

Edit: I'd not try to "change over" a gay guy or a lesbian, not EVEN once. People are who they are, and it's not for me to decide they shouldn't be.


Redstone

[Lil Missy]

45. Most men are gentlemen like that. Gay or straight.

Nice to see you, Redstone! :pals:

[ZombieNixon]

31. Do gay people enjoy people pestering them to become straight?

Didn't think so.

[Lil Missy]

46. Point of my thread. I also don't like to say NO more than once. Especially to men who know I'm gay.

[MrSlayer]

33. No. Who would?

I've been hit on by gay dudes before and it never bothered me because they would go away after I declined. If it persisted I'd take whatever steps necessary to get the point across.

[Lil Missy]

47. That's what I mean. After NO a couple times, what do you do next?

I get rude.

[jmm]

55. I wouldn't call it rude,

more like giving them what they deserve.

I try to treat everybody fairly but nobody deserves more respect than they give me.

[Lil Missy]

59. I agree. And I'd never meet this person out of my comfort zone. Try it once again, I'll smack him.

I know my peeps. They'd be all over him like flies on shit if he tried to strike me.

I've never hit or physically hurt another person in my entire life. But if I'd bloody his nose, the peeps would say Nope, didn't see a thing. I think he fell down. Move along, nothing to see here.

Oh boy, just try me.

[jmm]

79. I have had to get physical.

I think the first time was when I was 16. I was on my way to my father's house when I heard a man say, "Excuse me miss." At first I figured he just wanted directions and didn't think much of it. When I turned and said yes he pulled out a wad of money and asked me how much. I replied $1.50 and well worth it as I took the top off my hot coffee and threw it at him. I'll be the first to say it wasn't the smartest decision, especially considering he was old enough to be my father and with a few of his friends, but I have no regrets. Hopefully he'll think twice before pulling a stunt like that again.

More recently, to make a long story short, I was at a party and somebody pulled my hair and made some inappropriate comments to me. I dug my fingers in his wrist, stepped on his foot, and not so politely told him to stay away from me. I knew what would happen to him if word got out what he did so I asked some people to kick him out and said I'd explain what happened later. Not that he wouldn't deserve what would've happened but I didn't want anybody I cared about facing repercussions for standing up for me. When I later told everybody what happened they agreed he would've left in an ambulance if they had known. At least some people get it. I always prefer to handle things myself but it's good to see others willing to get involved.

[Lil Missy]

84. OMG! Some asshole tried to buy sex from you at 16? He took you on for $1.50?

:rofl:

Well, good for you. I hope the hot coffee burned his nuts. That's just disgusting.

I get what you mean about not wanting reprecussions for someone. I'd prefer to deal with such things privately too. My ex got arrested for Domestic Violence 4 times. But never in public, always in my house.

She got all worked up and hysterical again one night, and I kicked her ass out. No more of this. She lived and slept in her car for a few days, but I didn't care anymore. I loved her, but fuck this shit.

I've never had to get physical at the lesbian bar. I'd lose any battle like that anyway. I'm a sissy. But I never cause any problems, and I have peeps. Just try me, the women/peeps are all over you like flies on shit. I've never been involved, except for someone pulling me out of the way.

I think that kinda shit is stupid. I'm not going to fight anyone. That's just crazy. I'm not going to get myself arrested. That's just dumb.

[MrSlayer]

57. Violence is my next level.

Thankfully, I've not had to resort to it in any of those situations. In your case, I would get a big friend to help me out. Assuming you are, as your name suggests, little and not a karate expert or the like. :P

[Lil Missy]

64. I've never resorted to violence, and hope I never have to. I just don't like shit like that.

Meet me at the ladies place. Take a swing at me, and take your chances.

You'd have about 10 to 15 lesbians all over your ass all at once. I've seen it happen, but I've never been directly involved. I'm a sissy, and they nor I have a problem with that. LOL!

Just try it. No single man could survive the wrath of that many women. The narcissist woman tried me once. She came at me shouting. She got covered like flies on shit in a second. They pulled me out of the way and held her down. Kinda freaky and scary, but my ass was covered. She finally admitted she was being an asshole.

Oh, and I'm not so Little. LOL! I'm just a sissy, and I don't care for drama or fighting. But, if I have to grow some brass ovaries, I'll belt you in the chops if you burn out my fuse.

I'll get creamed, but I'll get the first punch in. You might get a swing at me, and knock my lights out. But you'd have 10 to 15 lesbians on top of you in no time. It's not a pretty picture, LOL!

[MrSlayer]

77. Rest assured I will not be trying to switch you anytime soon.

Or swing at you. :7

[Lil Missy]

80. LOL! Sorry! Didn't mean to scare you!

:rofl:

[Xipe Totec]

34. You should have made this a one choice poll

no.

[Lil Missy]

48. But then I'd have taken a ration of horseshit about that.

Better to leave it open. :)

[Xipe Totec]

49. JMHO

:hi:

[ismnotwasm]

39. 'Course not

A little flirtation, now that's ok. Pestering, bad form.

[Lil Missy]

50. Flirtation is harmless.

If I say NO, I don't want to be pestered about it

[VenusRising]

41. I don't think anyone enjoys being pestered.

I actually thought it was funny when my lesbian friends would joke about turning me into a lesbian. Even though I assured them I liked outies and not innies, they still used to joke with me about it. It never made me angry.

Some stranger acting that way would be a totally different story. They would probably end up with my shoe in their ass.

[Lil Missy]

52. I'm not talking about joking around. I do have a sense of humor.

I'm talking about some guy, who clearly won't get the message I'm not interested in a fuck. I don't want to even meet for drinks now.

There are so many "nice guys" here, and in my life. I'd hate to boil all men down to this one obnoxious ass. There are a lot of non-homophibic nice guys in this world.

[crimsonblue]

51. Nope...

I'm never going to stop being a fan of KU, the Royals, and the Chiefs. Never going to happen..

[Lil Missy]

54. LOL! Good analogy!

[crimsonblue]

146. It's not an analogy...

I wouldn't like somebody trying to get me to switch the sports teams I support. I like KU, the Royals, and the Chiefs.

[Lil Missy]

148. Sorry to be so blunt. But I am talking tits and twats. Not fucking sports teams.

I don't like dicks or hairy asses or faces.

Sorry to wake you up like this, but you knew what I meant.

[applegrove]

58. I don't like being pestered period.

[Lil Missy]

65. Neither do I. Not even by lawn care. I say things once, and mean it.

[Wapsie B]

60. Pestering? Absolutely not.

But then again it would have to depend on where you are on the Kinsey Scale and how attracted you were to the person doing the pestering.

[Lil Missy]

67. I have no idea what "Kinsey Scale" has to do with saying NO!

No means No. I'm not interested. I don't care where you or I are on the Kinsey Scale. I said NO, and I mean NO.

It means I'm not attracted. Stick that Kinsey shit up your nevermind. Just because I'm gay doesn't mean I want to fuck every woman I ever meet. That's just plenty rude.

It doesn't depend on anything.

You seem to make some assumption that it makes a difference on the degree of pestering and where one is at on the Kinsey Scale.

Hear me clearly. I said NO! And no means no, move the fuck on. And leave me alone.

[crim son]

61. Of course not.

I don't like to be pestered about anything, and I don't want to deal with people who believe my sexual orientation is something I chose.

[Lil Missy]

68. I think you and I'd agree. I don't mind being asked. But,

when I say no and make myself clear, I don't care to be pestered to change my mind. I think that is rude. Plenty rude.

[crim son]

88. Well I did read that you were being hit on by at least one

very persistent guy. If it makes you feel any better, they're just as irritatingly persistent when they're sure you're straight. Idiots.

[Lil Missy]

91. Oh, that was several weeks ago. I have not been back since.

[crim son]

153. Ah.

I just read this... you can disregard my PM. :hi:

[LanternWaste]

63. A guy on the sales floor at work flirts with me...

A youngish gentleman on the sales floor in my office flirts with me constantly--sometimes joking, sometimes not. He's even gone so far as to ask me over to party with him more than a few times. I'll be completely honest-- I'm somewhat flattered by it. Seriously-- the gentleman compliments my smiles and my eyes more than any ex-girlfriend I've ever had. Being consistently hit on by someone of the same sex is a bit outside of my experience, but I'm still flattered by it.

[Lil Missy]

71. That just means you are straight, but not homophobic.

There is certainly nothing wrong with being straight.

I'm glad that you don't get all weirded out about a gay male showing some attraction to you. Any REAL man is comfortable in his sexuality, and does not get offended by the other side.

I really think gay men get such a hard wrap. They have it so much harder than women do. And that's not fair.

[petronius]

69. No, I would find it very irritating (nt)

[Lil Missy]

72. I do as well. But,

C'mon fucking guy! :)

[Inchworm]

70. Crooked peoples; would you lust over people being themselves?

:silly:

[Lil Missy]

74. I guess I'm a crooked peoples. Yes, lust after your own relationships, and stay out of mine. n/t

[Inchworm]

78. It's like a ballet

dance. Humans are weird.

:hi:

[Mike 03]

73. Not especially, but lately my self-esteem is such crap that

I'm actually flattered when males hit on me.

[Lil Missy]

75. I'm sorry that you feel a male attraction is a point of low-esteem.

I just think gay males get a bad rap. More than gay women.

It's sure okay with me if you are straight. That's cool, and I'm not out to convert anyone.

I just think it is rather sad that you consider a male attraction a low point in your life. I'd just like to think that any straight guy would be enough comfortable in his own sexual identity that an occasional gay hit would not be bothersome.

Just my 2 cents.

[Mike 03]

81. I apologize if my post came out wrong. I didn't mean it to offend anyone.

Since my divorce, my self concept has been shaky at best, and even though I am not attracted to men, it made me feel a little bit better about myself that anyone expressed attraction to me, if that makes sense?

When you feel like everyone hates you, it feels better to know that even people of the same sex you are not attracted to care enough to hit on you.

I don't know how to state it so it is not offensive. I'm just saying it boosted my self esteem during times of real self doubt and torture.

The "low point" had nothing to do with the men, it was my state of mind. It was ME, ME.

What is wrong with what I said? What is bad or offensive about it? Teach me, so I can learn.

[Lil Missy]

97. You didn't say anything wrong. And you were not offensive at all.

I'm sorry, I think I projected my own sense of sexuality upon you. I'm pretty comfortable in my place, and it's wrong of me to project it upon you.

I can surely understand the doubts and hurts that go with a divorce or breakup. I still have some of those lingering feelings myself.

You want teaching? Okay, here's what I have to say. Talk to people. Here, there, anywhere, just get all that poison out of your system. It takes time, but you have to do it till you understand it was not all about you. (I haven't even mastered that yet.)

You seem to be a pretty nice guy to me, Mike 03. No problems here with anything you said. You didn't say anything offensive at all. And I'm sorry I made you feel that way.

:pals:

[quakerboy]

76. I was ok with it the first few times

When it gets to be a trend with any given person, then it can be more problematic.

[Lil Missy]

86. No means fucking no. Period.

I'm assuming you said no the first couple times.

[quakerboy]

110. Perhaps not clearly enough

I was under the misapprehension that saying I was married would send that message clear enough, but t'was not so.

[burning rain]

82. Tedious, not enjoyable.

Although a weird humorous argument why I should can be a hoot. It's a compliment when someone wants to get witcha, but a drag when they don't want to take "no" for an answer. Unless they're damned funny about it.

[Lil Missy]

89. I don't mind the hits either. I just don't want to be pestered endlessly when I say NO!

I don't care if it's male or female. When I say NO, I fucking mean it!

[burning rain]

161. Dig it, dig it.

I can have some empathy for (say) a gay dude who gets the job of "minder" for his cute female friend when she goes out to a bar, and it's not a bar where he's likely to meet someone. And, I'm just pretty friendly in general. But, empathy and friendliness don't mean I'm game to do the hucklebuck with him.

[hunter]

83. OMG!!! There are teams??? Please, please, don't tell me any more.

I'm a complete failure at team sports.

:yoiks:

[Lil Missy]

90. I'm sorry, but yes, there are teams. We are working CA next week.

I'll be on your doorstep wearing a pink boa. Sorry, we ran out of toasters. But we have bagels.

[OmahaBlueDog]

85. Look, I'm a Cal Golden Bears fan

That's me. That's how I am. If somebody kept coming to me and telling me that they really wanted me to become a USC fan...well, frankly, I'd taunt them mercilessly - which would be difficult since SC has beaten Cal for years now. But, I'm a NorCal -- going to an SC game to route for them would just be....ewwwwwwww.


...but maybe that's not what you mean

[Lil Missy]

92. Yeah! That's what I meant!

;-)

[OmahaBlueDog]

95. Since you asked, I will tell you a true story that doesn't exactly fit here

About 15 years ago, a gay male friend that I worked with needed help at a trade show. I helped him by staffing a booth at the Miami Merchandise Mart. He put up a Rainbow Flag; until that point, I didn't even know what a Rainbow Flag was; he explained it to me.

So there we were, and he decides he wants to go check out the other booths and leave me to hold down the fort. So he leaves. And there I am. As I'm holding down the fort, guys are coming by and saying things like "I really like your flag" and I (now knowing what this flag means) am going "um...thanks" because, while they're not hitting on me, it's clear that they think I'm gay.......and it was.....wierd. Not bad, not good.....wierd. It would be as if everyone suddenly assumed I was Canadian, or female, or something else that I'm not.

Anyway, I was traumatized for life and needed years of therapy afterward (OK...that part was a lie, I survived unscathed).

[Lil Missy]

99. LOL! You were traumatized for life!

Oh gawd, teh gay will ruin your life. Did your marriage survive all those years of therapy?

[OmahaBlueDog]

106. Even straight marriage only leads to the need for more therapy..

...consider that before you go running over the pedestrian bridge to Council Bluffs for that quickie wedding....


Off topic: Here's what I don't get. If two people of the same gender want to get hitched, it "cheapens the deep spiritual meaning of marriage." However, a man and a woman, drunk off their asses, having known one another for 3 hours, can get legally married in Las Vegas by an Elvis impersonator. No waiting; no questions asked. This, of course, is perfectly OK, and part of the divine plan.


Note: Not that there's anything wrong with getting married to drunken members of the opposite gender. I'm not here to judge.

[Lil Missy]

111. I'll run to Council Bluffs. And no quickie, I'd be sober.

People who run to LV and get drunk, marry after a couple hours? Well, this queer has better taste than that!

I'd at least know her for a couple weeks!

(Just kidding, I'm slow. I'd need a couple years to make sure.)

[OmahaBlueDog]

113. I fell in love at first sight

...but it took 8 years to get to the altar.

[Orrex]

87. What kind of signing bonus are you offering?

And do I get access to the executive washroom?

[Lil Missy]

93. Just bagels this time.

And I'll my pink boa, if you promise not to get creepy.

[Orrex]

94. I promise nothing

But color me intrigued!

[BarenakedLady]

96. Honestly? It's never happened.

So I can't answer that.

[Lil Missy]

101. It has now! Wanna fool around?

:P

[BarenakedLady]

102. Lol.

I'm not annoyed in the least.

:P

[Lil Missy]

105. People might talk....

But I don't kiss and tell. Just ask, uhhm ... nevermind.


:D

[DarkTirade]

170. This could be an important scientific study.

You should find a volunteer to hold the camera. :evilgrin:

[Swede]

100. I'll always hate the Yankees.

No matter what you do,I will never cheer for them.:shrug:

[Lil Missy]

104. I hate hairy faces, butts, and legs. No matter what you do, I'll not cheer for that either.

I don't even like dildoes. I've never even seen one.

[jeff30997]

109. Me neither.

I wonder if they really exist? :shrug:

[Lil Missy]

112. Does what exist? Dildoes, or hair?

[jeff30997]

121. Dildidos of course!

I've seen them in movies and I also seen flying saucers in movies but that doesn't prove

they exist.:)

[madeline_con]

103. Pestering? Do they want you, or just want you to change somehow?

:eyes:

[Lil Missy]

107. Both. And I've made this very clear. That's why the persistence pisses me off.

[snailly]

108. Has anyone ever told you that you are bark fucking mad?

Sorry to be rude but holy hell, woman, get a grip.

[Lil Missy]

114. And you say so why, snail? I'm always open for opportunities to learn?

What draws you to belive I am "bark fucking mad", and need to get a grip?

I'm interested.

[snailly]

115. Just read your own writings

Not trying to start a fight but you have some issues that need some delving into by a professional.

That is all.

[Lil Missy]

116. Yes I do, sometimes. But not this is not one of them. What set you off?

Any specific writings of mine that set you off?

You really don't know much about me. Very few people know a little bit. What have you gleaned, so far?

I'm really intrigued with this.

[jeff30997]

123. I think I know why.

Snailly is secretly in love with you but she can't admit it to herself,hence the aggressivity :rofl:

[Lil Missy]

127. Oh, I'm going to puke now.

I don't mean you. I know you are trying to cheer me up. But she was fucking offensive and rude.

I'm just a queer, I suspect. I've seen it too many times already.

Fuck.

[jeff30997]

128. Yes,she was fucking offensive and rude.

That was uncalled for and it made me angry. :pals:

[Lil Missy]

135. Oh, they always sneak through the cracks. I am so used to this.

The fucking homophobes always blow up when they can't take it anymore.

And never respond when they are called on it. See? She had a chance to bail herself out, but wouldn't respond. I rest my case.

[Lil Missy]

125. And you don't have the brass ovaries to respond?

What was it? My pet threads? The one about my dog getting tangled up in the wires of a sex toy? The one about losing my only child? His birthday that so affected me this year? The ones reminiscing about the past? Or, *gasp*, I am openly gay.

Tell ya what, snail. You can kiss my ass.

[Lil Missy]

152. Please do tell. I know you are out right now, but I'll get back to you.

Please enlighten me. I'll listen.

Was it your intention to give me advice? (I would have said "friendly" advice as opposed to "unfriendly" advice, but I think that is already clear)

Or was it your intention to just get bitchy at me. Or perhaps take a swipe at me. If so, why?

You obviously don't post much. What is it about me that so irritates you? I'd seriously like to hear about that.

That is, if you're brave enough to come out and say. Spill it! Sister!

It was your intention to either be helpful, or just plain snarky. And I think we both know the answer to THAT question.

I really don't expect a response from you, or certainly not a serious one. You have offended me, and I think you'd like to leave it that way. Oh well.

I'd DARE you to live my life, and then let's judge yours. Silly bitching. Just try me with such nonsense.

*smooches*

Lil Missy

[flvegan]

118. I've never been pestered. The gay fellas I know are hella classy.

I've been flattered to the point of blushing, and I appreciate (and soak in) every last bit of it. But pestered? Never. Nothing even close.

[Lil Missy]

119. That's because you are comfortable with yourself, and not a homophobic asshole.

You're a nice guy like that.

[Barack_America]

120. Depends on the person.

But, then again if it were Monica Bellucci doing it, I guess it wouldn't be "pestering".

[Lil Missy]

133. Never heard of her.

:shrug:

[Barack_America]

157. .

She's an Italian actress.



http://www.imdb.com/name/nm0000899/

She was in the Matrix movies.

[RoyGBiv]

126. Depends on the context actually ...

Every time I go to DC my friend who lives there and I go to this gay bar near where he lives. It's a generally low-key place, more social than a dating scene. It's sort of a "Cheers" environment wither better decor.

But, when evening arrives, those in search of a hook-up find their way there, and inevitably one or several will hit on me. Most back off when I let them know I'm unavailable. Some give me the "don't knock it until you try it" spiel.

And, frankly, it's never bothered me to the extent I think about it afterward, not any more than it bothers me for anyone to hit on me when I show no interest. It's not a matter of gay/straight trying to "convert" me. It's a matter of a person being rude when their advances are clearly not returned. That sort of thing isn't limited to differences in sexual orientation.

It has even been entertaining at times as I've gotten to know the people who run and frequent the place. The thing is, people who do this tend to be overbearing, obnoxious twits that no one is truly interested in. Depending on the level of obnoxiousness being displayed, the regulars will "help" me out. There is a drag queen who hangs out there a lot at night who has a bit he plays with me that is absolutely hilarious to those who get the joke. The worst was Craig from South Africa. I decided this must be his full name because he kept telling me he was from South Africa, and I began referring to him as Craig from South Africa. "So, Craig from South Africa ..." It never dawned on him he was being mocked when pretty much everyone in the whole damn bar started referring to him as that.

So, that's where I am on what I think you're talking about.

There's another variety of this sort of thing though. A gay friend from high school was constantly trying to "convert" me and has never let up. He too is one of these obnoxious twits who would probably get along well with Craig from South Africa, but the difference was that I saw this guy every day. *That* was annoying. Guy once took naked pictures of himself and left them for me at work.

But, again, it would be just as annoying if a woman hit on me day in and day out after I had told her repeatedly, directly, and with no room for misunderstanding that I was not interested.

[jeff30997]

130. "just as annoying if a woman hit on me day in and day out"

Argh! That reminds me of a girl who harassed me for years,even calling in the middle of the night.

What a nightmare ! I almost wish that the day before I met her in a bar someone

had broke one of my legs.

[RoyGBiv]

134. I had one of those ...

We never even went out. I was actually in public with her once, when I met her, at a bar in a restaurant. I unfortunately gave her my number. She *seemed* normal there, but she turned on the psycho after a few of phone conversations.

It was crazy. The sum total of time I actually spent with her was about an hour ... in public. We talked on the phone a dozen times, and the she went into a right proper freak-out during the last of these when I told her I had to get off the phone because I was going out with some friends.

"ARE YOU SEEING SOMEONE ELSE!!!"

It got bad after that. Thankfully she didn't have my address, but I did eventually have to change my phone number. She filled up my answering machine every single day with these screeching diatribes, half of which were pleas for me to forgive her, the other half giving me directions to the deepest pit of hell.

[Lil Missy]

136. That's awful. Sounds like she was pretty needy and CONTROLLING!!

I'd barf on that shit right away!

Sorry you had to change your phone number. But no one can put up with shit like that.

[RoyGBiv]

139. There was something wrong ...

I don't know exactly what it was, but it was something. I picked up some hint of it on our second conversation, the first one on the phone, which is part of why we never did see each other again. I never asked.

Right in the middle of talking with me about those things people tend to talk about when getting to know each other, she segued into, "I was a model once ..." and she waited for me to comment. I said something polite, and then she said something like, "And my mom hated it, that fucking bitch ..." and her voice changed. I tried to ignore it, and the conversation went another direction, and that didn't come up again ... until the answering machine messages.

If I believed in possession, I'd swear she was.

Anyway ... I empathize with your particular situation. From the sound of things, it might be nearing knee-to-the-groin time. People who so blatantly do not understand "no" have tendency of being dangerous.

[Lil Missy]

150. "Knee in the nuts", I'd never do that. Maybe I don't want to get arrested, maybe I'm a chickenshit.

I just couldn't do that. Any kind of violence makes me sick to my stomach, and I can't stand it. I really cannot tolerate it.

(I even taught my son to paddle his own butt, LOL! I couldn't do it!) And it worked! LOL! Really, all I had to do was give him a dirty look when he got naughty. But I digress...

I'd never meet someone out of my comfort zone, which would be the ladies bar. Seriously, if anyone ever hounded me, or gawd forbid, took a swing at me, he or she would have at least 10 lesbians all over them like flies on shit. Don't EVER underestimate the power of women.

I've never been directly involved, but I've seen it happen. One time the narcissist came shouting at me, and I was suddenly pulled out of the way while they surrounded her ass. Needless to say, if anyone ever pulled any shit with me, I have peeps.

:-)

I do think this person is terminally obtuse or just assholish. I don't know how many times I have to say NO!

[Lil Missy]

131. I'm talking about a straight guy who won't take my word that I'm queer, and not interested.

I don't know why he won't give it a rest. I'm not even interested in being friends anymore.

Take your dick and stick it up your sunshine, dude. I could not be any less interested.

[tjwmason]

188. Hits the point precisely.

It's a matter of a person being rude when their advances are clearly not returned. That sort of thing isn't limited to differences in sexual orientation.

I've had it from both men and women whom I'm not interested in, I'll be flattered every time but once I've politely said "no" that should be the end of it...and has been in the vast majority of cases.

[Kali]

129. pestering? no

a little flirtation wouldn't bother me though:P

[Lil Missy]

132. Got any plans for next Satuday night?

:-)

[Kali]

154. tee hee

[Quantess]

137. I don't believe it actually happens that often. Not "pestering", anyway.

The likelihood of a heterosexual being "pestered" to "switch teams" would be similar to the odds of being struck by lightning.

It's one thing to be mildly flirted with, which some faint-hearted homophobes may confuse for "pestering". It's another thing to be truly pestered, which I have to think is really rare.

Edit to add: I haven't read any of the other posts in this thread yet.

[Lil Missy]

138. I am gay, and I truly mean "pestered". He's straight, I'm gay, and I've made that very clear.

I'm NOT interested. Period. But he won't leave it alone.

I think it's beyond rude now. I'm not even interested in a friendship anymore. Knock it the fuck off!!

Jeebus!

[Quantess]

141. OH!!! LOL, how did I miss that major piece of info?

:hide:
Yeah, that is a problem that you are not alone with, so I hear.

I think it's a problem with heterosexuals thinking that everyone else is or was heterosexual at one time, but....something bad happened! I'm here to cure you!

Some hetero men see lesbians as though they're just afraid of men, or they were raped by someone early in life, or, just that the guys they dated must have been real lame-asses.

I think it happens the same way for gay men, though not nearly as often.

[Lil Missy]

144. There really is a lot of abuse in the gay community. But who the fuck cares?

Some grew up in a pefect environment, and some more troubled. Once we become adults, we are in charge of our own destiny. And some of us a queer. Nothing wrong with that. (And nobody else's business)

Who care's why? It just is.

Oh spare me the number of times some guy thought his dick would "cure" me. The only time I've ever had penis envy was when I was in a boat fishing on the lake, and had to pee.

[LostInAnomie]

140. I wish someone would pester me to do something!!!

I've been in a pretty big dry spell. :cry:

[Lil Missy]

145. Would a hug and a smooch help?

As long as you don't get creepy about it. Just sayin'.

:-)

[DFW]

143. That's like asking me to switch to being Asian

Or asking a dog to switch to being a cat. It's not a realistic request,
and is only made out of extreme ignorance.

[Lil Missy]

147. Indeed ignorance. And after saying no several times, it elevates to another level of stupidity.

NO means NO. Get it?

[BreweryYardRat]

149. Don't tell me that jackass is bothering you AGAIN?

Or is it a new jackass?

Or has that idiot's behavior just been eating away at you?

[Lil Missy]

151. It's a new jackass. I've not been back to the bar since that last one.

Sorry to put it this way, but some men are fucking jackass turds.

Saving lesbians! Oh, fuck me sideways. Eat my socks, and my underwear while you're at it. And then go snack on the kitty litter.

[Symarip]

155. No one should pester anyone

Doesn't matter what the subject matter is.

[Juche]

158. I'd probably find it flattering

If some gay guy tried to get me to turn bi. However if he did it in such a way that implied he wasn't listening to the fact that I wasn't able/willing to do that or that he thought there was something wrong with not being gay, it'd become offensive. But that is more of a communication issue than anything to do with sexuality if I get the impression he has no interest in listening to me. But if it was just joking like 'I wish you were gay' type of thing I'd probably enjoy it.

[Lil Missy]

171. That simply means you're a good sport and not homophobic.

:thumbsup:

[cwydro]

162. Someone is pestering me too...a straight woman,

But since I'm a gay woman, I guess she's not trying to get me to switch teams.

It is getting a little annoying though.

[Lil Missy]

173. Like trying to "cure" you? To see the error of your ways?

Sure, that's annoying too. I used to work with an older fundie lady that aways told me she's pray for me. Incidentally, she abandoned her own daughter for being gay. Very sad.

[cwydro]

179. No, apparently she is attracted to me.

A married woman who lives next door.

I'm out mowing the lawn and she decides to tell me she can't stop dreaming about me.:scared:

[Lil Missy]

180. Oh. I wish I had a buck for every straight woman I was attracted to. But I was in the closet then.

Honestly, you probably just have to be honest and tell her to knock it off.

I'm comfortable enough now that I would tell anyone that I'm interested. But I wouldn't pester them about it.

Have you just tried saying no? Or stop it?

[cwydro]

181. I was so speechless that day.

I just kind of stuttered and made a joke out of it.

She hasn't said anything more; it's just that she always seems to be there when I'm outside...watching. I used to work out outside but I've already moved my weights on to the porch, where she can't see me.

Hopefully, it won't come up again.

[timtom]

165. Absolutely not!

And I wouldn't pester anyone, myself.

I remember once in first grade in 1948 asking Barry, a Jewish friend,

"Barry, will you believe in Jesus, just for me?"

Barry said simply and without rancor, "No."

I said, "Oh..."

And that was that.

I don't even try to pester Republicans (though it often just slips out.)

If you are being pestered, I am sorry for your plight.

[Rabrrrrrr]

167. No, Unless it's Toby Maguire, or that math dude in Numbers.

Otherwise, no, what a rude thing to do.

[krispos42]

169. No.

Although some of the lesbian ladies on DU are awfully attractive, it wouldn't be appropriate. Or polite. Or respectful. Or realistic.

This goes beyond DU life into real life, BTW.



There's a real fat, sharp line between "Hey, you're attractive" and "Hey, you're attractive and your gayness is just a choice so chose me".

[Lil Missy]

174. Liberal, DU women are just more attractive by nature. Even the straight ones.

:P

[krispos42]

186. Oh, DU is awash in beautiful and attractive woman

(attractive ≠ beautiful, BTW), but the question was about pestering the lesbian ones to switch sides.





Okay, so my chances with the straight ones are about equal to my chances with the lesbian ones, but it's still nice to pretend! :-)

[Muttocracy]

172. Nope. Someone once "joked" to me

that maybe I should try being a lesbian, maybe I'd have better luck. I found that offensive to me and to lesbians on various levels.

[Lil Missy]

175. I'd agree that's rude if she was serious. It's not like a switch you can turn on and off.

[Muttocracy]

187. exactly - and it's not like women are lesbians because they're desperate

[Odin2005]

176. People doing that are assholes.

And whichever poster said that is "comedic relief" needs a punch in the face.

Jeez, am I the only male who doesn;t do this shit? :banghead:

[Dappleganger]

177. I'll admit, with some people I really don't mind the flirting.

It's a little hard to describe, but there are certain friends of mine who really enjoy flirting but we've bee friends for so long and they know it's never going to happen. We joke a lot and at least I feel comfortable with it, and so are my friends. It'll never go anywhere because I'm too damn old to change the way things are and I'm happy w/my life.

[Sky Masterson]

182. It depends on how it was done I guess

If it was done politely and in fun by someone likable I may take it as a sort of flattery.
Hell,the fact that anyone would want to have sex with me is a mind blowing-thing and almost humbling in a way.
My gay hairdresser(who I've known for years) told me he'd do me..I blushed
But if someone was hateful and rude and forceful I wouldn't like it one bit.
Men seem to think that all a lesbian needs is a good D_cken and they will miraculously be cured of lesbianism.:eyes:
Have I mentioned that most men are stupid assholes?

[Lil Missy]

183. Oh, it's not just restricted to men. Some women can be assholes too.

I had some woman one night tell me I should reconsider whether I was really gay. She was blowing through town one night and wanted a fuck buddy. After I turned her down, she proceeded to work the entire room.

She finally came back to me, after no success, and told me I must be mistaken because she didn't feel gaydar with me. Christ! I just told her to enjoy her vacation, and I'd give it some thought.

:eyes:

[SKKY]

184. It's EXTREMELY annoying.

One friend tried to do that, and I was forced to sever all ties. It just became too much.

[Lil Missy]

185. I'm sorry that happened to you. Did you have a discussion about it? Or did it become intolerable?