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Puppies are miraculous and joyous and priceless... but I am personally unprepared to adopt one. My boys are (were, my first has passed) older, but no one ever informed them.
Labs have a reputation for keeping their puppy enthusiasm, energy, hyper-zoominess well beyond the limit of what many assume is a point they are supposed to grow out of it (calm down). Granted, every puppy is different and every adoptive family is different.
When I was searching for my current boy, I met a beautiful AKC registered lab who was one of the most gorgeous dogs I've ever seen. His family had a new infant and they were overwhelmed. This lovely guy was 6, (well, maybe they were exaggerating - he may have been 4 or 5) and I was exhausted being with him for 10 minutes. He was a full sized dog but he was 100 percent a rambunctious, busy (clever) toddler.
According to the Lab Rescue who saved my guy from the E-list at the shelter, he was supposedly 4 years old. I didn't believe it nor does my vet. He's an old man and that's just perfect for me. He's very lively and interactive, he's well behaved and learns new things quickly (When I adopted him he didn't know how to sit, stay, fetch wait or something-close-to-heel, but he's caught onto all of these rapidly.
I would love to be able to have a puppy, but I understand that it wouldn't be fair or pleasant for either of us. Puppies are not much different than infants, other than having fur and an alternative method for potty training. They need a serious amount of dedication, patience, time and attention in order to develop into the dog they want to be. If they don't get this nurturing, they end up being harder and harder to manage, and may even get stressed out which can lead to destructive behaviours, etc. and too often they end up at the pound.
If you know you are not only ready to give this puppy the time and attention he wants (and deserves) then, I could not be more delighted. If you are at all doubtful, I urge you to really consider every one of those doubts and if you can reconcile them in a way that benefits your puppy, then you know you're the right parent for this little boy. If you find yourself being concerned or annoyed because you have this outing or that vacation or some event or even jobs/schedules that keep you from interacting with this little boy in a healthy, significant amount - then - as cute as he is, I hope you take your time deciding if a lab puppy is manageable for you. He doesn't understand if or when he's draining or inconvenient, and if you want him to grow up into the great dog you imagine, he won't experience such anxiety.
Hopefully, you've heard all this before and/or you've owned labs and done lots of research on their needs and development. Lots of them stay "puppies" into 4 or 5, even 6 years old. It's devastating to realize that I won't have my boy for 10 years or so, but we're a good fit and we both benefit because of it.
I have read that female labs can tend to be less social and interactive, and some people prefer a more distant demeanor, some don't. I tried to adopt a lovely girl who had neurological problems and Valley Fever - she was absolutely beautiful. But I was troubled with her inability to connect. I'm not saying all female labs are "this way" or "that", but I've read that there may be a tendency in some. This girl had medical problems that I found hard to connect with, and I still feel guilty. She was well trained but she was absent. Poor baby...
Just know for sure that you have the energy, time, flexibility, patience and long term commitment to bring a new baby into your family because that's basically what it amounts to. If I were in my 20's and working part time, I'd raise a puppy in a heartbeat. You have to make sure you are a good fit for HIM before you think of what he gives to you.
Good luck - I hope he's your new baby... nothing is more enriching or rewarding that a good old goofy/smart loving, perpetually-happy lab... I wouldn't trade my lazy, loving, cheerful, (needy - he doesn't like being alone, ever - but he rarely is since I work in a home studio), neurotic, lovely, big-hearted Zander boy. My daughters call him "little brother" even though he acts like the "baby" not very often and for no more than 3 or 4 minutes at that. But I won't have him as long as you will have your boy, so there are things to balance either way.
Just make sure you adopt him because you want to give to HIM. What you get in return will be so plentiful you don't even have to worry about that part. Put him first and if you can offer him what he needs and more, then you'll be forever grateful.
I hope I haven't scared you off, but it isn't a small decision... it's a serious (but fantastic) one... labs are the best. I'm just a softy for the senior guys. I will never understand why someone would give a boy like my Zander up unless they fell ill or were otherwise forced to do so. He's as close to the perfect dog (for me) as I could ever hope for.
My children weaned me from wanting a puppy... they're still exhausting, even the one that can vote. : )
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