What is a fair Farewell Bonus payment to my late Mom's caregiver?

[bettyellen]

Enid has worked in our home 24/5 for 7years, while my Mom suffered aher decline due to Alzheimers, and she did a great job. an amazing job.
we paid her cash-off the books-i believe it was 135.000 per day. she hired and oversaw the weekend and sub help at that rate also. i hope she skimmed a little off that because she deserved it, LOL.

my mom has finally passed on and my two brothers and I are wondering what's a fair "fare well and thank you" bonus payment.
what do you all think is fair?

I believe we used to give her 2 wks paid vacation per year, and that one of the weeks was coming up. TIA.

[SeattleGirl]

1. Could you swing a week's pay for each year she took care of your mom?

I don't know what your financial circumstances are, of course, but believe me, I know how much good care means with an ailing family member.

It sounds like Enid was a treasure for your mom, and for you and your brothers too.

And my condolences on the passing of your mother, bettyellen.

[bettyellen]

2. i wish, because i think she deserves it. I apprecitet the condolences, thank you.

[struggle4progress]

3. Minimum fairness would be the vacation time she's earned this year, calculated

with a bit of generosity. If she had vacation time she didn't take in earlier years, or sick or personal leave days she didn't take this year, it would be fair to compensate her for those too. Beyond that, I'm not sure what I would do: it's a demanding job, and if she was good at it, it would be nice to say thank you in some meaningful way -- giving her a total sum that enables her to take a little vacation or something, but if that's not doable, a nice present and a sincere thank you, together with her accrued vacation time is better than nothing

[blue neen]

4. It seems that great caregivers are difficult to find.

SeattleGirl made an excellent suggestion...it sounds very fair.

I'm sorry to hear about your mom. My own mom passed away last year after a horrible battle with Parkinson's Disease, including the dementia...so I know a little bit of what you went through.

Mom did end up in a nursing home for the last 2 years of her life, but before that she had an aide coming to her home every day for 3 hours. That aide was not so great, but I guess she did the best she could.

[bettyellen]

5. i'm sorry about your Mom. My poor Dad had Parkinsons years ago, it;s so hard.

thanks for the suggestions.

[Ptah]

6. 10% of the estate.

[bettyellen]

7. she was so good it's not funny. tks for the laugh. :-)

[siligut]

8. I’ve seen a good caregiver given a car.

The car of the deceased, and that caregiver loved that old Honda as she loved the woman she cared for. Give what you can. Ask her if there is anything of your mother’s that she would like. I also agree, pay her for that week of vacation, with generosity.

Condolences on the passing of your mother, I am glad she received such good care and she was loved.

[bettyellen]

9. wow, okay. inyrteysing. and thanks for tje condolences.

[peekaloo]

10. The two weeks vacation time is a nice and generous gesture.

Your family was very fortunate to find someone of this caliber, I say this because I was in a similar situation with my dad, I ended up staying with him and using part time help (under the table) . I'll save the agency complaints for another time. :-)

Sorry to hear about your Mom. It's a tough way to go out. :hug:

Maybe Enid could benefit from personal items that may be otherwise donated or thrown away.

You'll make the right decision. :-)