The cruelest thing I ever heard a parent say to a child.

[gbate]

My husband and I were in the grocery store last night when I overheard a father telling his preschool-age daughter this little gem, "I'm going to take you to school as an example of the need for birth control."

We have joked with our kids and made sarcastic comments, but something about that and the way he said it struck me as just plain mean.

[supernova]

1. Oh yeah, the "I never wanted you in the first place"

guilt rant.

:grr:

I've heard variations of this from time to time when I'm out.

Makes me incredibly sad for the child to have to live with someone like that. :cry:

[Missy Vixen]

5. Oh, I had one of those

I'm only sorry he didn't live longer, so I could stick him with the therapy bills. :mad:

I wish people that did not want a child would use birth control.

[arbusto_baboso]

2. I heard my father-in-law say the following to one of his grandkids....

"You're dumber than a 5 year-old n****r baby."

Wonderful. Not only is he verbally abusive, he's a friggin' racist, too.

[Orsino]

3. Think he might have been assuming that a pre-schooler wouldn't understand him?

I can understand his venting frustration, but that sounds like a mean thing to say.

[Doc_Technical]

4. Don't forget the classic line: "You ruined my life!"

As if the child was at fault for your not
taking responsibility for you actions.

[Gormy Cuss]

7. That would be my vote for one of the worst things to say to a child.

Another is "I never wanted to have kids."

[Tikki]

25. Kinda after the fact...

"I probably shouldn't of had children."

Wow, just wow...


Tikki

[nomorenomore08]

20. But what if it's *true*?

:hide:

[Vidar]

6. That one would tend to stick.

[leeroysphitz]

8. I was at the store once and heard a woman telling somebody to "Go put the lotion in the basket"

My wife and I were amused for the rest of the time we were shopping.

[Scout]

9. "You're more bother than you're worth."

i heard that one ... which i'm sure my mother heard from her mother....

she didn't say it a lot, and she had stopped by the time i was a teen. but it always upset me.

[GCP]

10. "I wish you'd never been born"

Said by a friend of mine to her (around) 5 yr old son. I was horrified. She had issues, and now he's weird IMO.

[Moondog]

11. My father once said to me that

"what really pisses me off about you is that for a quarter (condoms were cheaper then) you could have been prevented."

[Tikki]

12. My divorced mother's credo...."You are just like your father"...

Of course she never said that to me...only my brother...*sigh*


Tikki.. happily, nothing like either of my parents...:)

[Doc_Technical]

21. My mother would frequently say this to me.

When you consider what a creep my father was
this was a terrible thing to say.

[Tikki]

24. My poor brother....had about zero self-esteem until...

he left her home. He did sorta manage to find his way in the world.

Tikki

[backtoblue]

13. My mom once told me

that she wished she were a gerbil because they EAT their young. :scared:

[madinmaryland]

14. It sounds like the father is the perfect example of the need for birth control.

What a moran.

[Dyedinthewoolliberal]

15. Even though a child that young

may not have understood what he meant that is truly a sad thing to hear. I am so lucky my parents were kind (usually!), loving human beings........

[targetpractice]

16. "I wish I'd gotten a puppy instead...

...it would have died by now, and I wouldn't have had to put it through college."


I forget where I heard that, but it was meant as joke.

[nomorenomore08]

19. Don't be so sure of that. One of my friends has a 17-year-old dog.

:P

[old mark]

17. " Come over here so I can hit you."

Overheard that in a mall maybe 5 years ago, often wondered where that kid is today.

I worked several years in an adolescent drug rehab, and one of the kids said that it was the best place he had ever lived. He was 15.
I'll never forget that.
Some people should never be parents.


mark

[FKA MNChimpH8R]

22. I was standing at a bus stop in St Paul

a couple of weeks go and a grandmother (the mom was there too) was screaming her head off at a beautiful little girl about 3 or 4 years old. She said "I should smack you across the face" and mom stepped in. I damn near walked up to the grandmother and told her that if she didn't stop mistreating that little girl that I would call the cops NOW on my cel phone. Fortunately mom intervened.

[mainegreen]

18. Can't imagine. I would go millions of dollars in debt for my son.

He's worth every penny I have.

[Dappleganger]

23. She thought it was cruel

My mother used to say "One day I hope you have a daughter who's just like you!"

Guess what, Mom--we did, and she's the light of our lives! :D

[Danger Mouse]

26. In my line of work...

I have encountered worse.
Trust me.

[Darth_Kitten]

27. How about I'll disown you if you make friends with someone who isn't white?

Major custody case here. :(

[KatyaR]

28. Today in the lunch room I heard a young woman say to her companions,

"If my mother lets my son miss school at all next year, I'm gonna punch her in the mouth." Nice, huh? And I know I wasn't the only person who heard her.

Apparently she was referring to her kindergarten-aged son. My question was--why the f*** is Grandma making that decision? Doesn't this nitwit take care of her own child?

[siligut]

29. A close friend of mine was told she wasn't really part of the family.

She is Chinese, but her parents moved to the Philippines before she was born. She has 2 older sisters and a brother. She was an unexpected child, an accident.

So her parents did the only thing they could and adopted her out to a nice Chinese couple :sarcasm:. Only the nice Chinese couple never showed up to claim her.

My friend was reminded of this throughout her childhood, being told by her older sisters and mother that she wasn’t really a member of their family, that her Chinese parents didn’t want her and neither did they.

This is one of the saddest stories I know in which the victim not only survived, but also thrived once she got away from her toxic family. Today, she is a wonderful, intelligent woman and has devoted her life to helping others.

[blue neen]

30. A woman I know said to me in front of her son, "He should have been drowned at birth."

The kid was about 10. My own 10-year-old was with me at the time, and I got away from her as fast as I could. I was so upset!

Her son died in a car accident at age 19. He was drinking, smoking, and doing God knows what else. He didn't make the last bend. Police estimate that he was going about 120 mph.

Do you think she ever thinks about the things that she said?

[Xipe Totec]

31. Why can't you be like your cousin Sheela?

My mother would always tell me,

Why can't you be like your cousin Sheela?

Why can't you be like your cousin Sheela?!


Sheela died at birth.

- Joan Rivers

[quakerboy]

32. "I dont love you"

Knew a dad who had made a point of telling his son that he didn't always like him, but he loved him. Then at about age 9, the son got in trouble, shoplifting or something along those lines, and the son was told "I don't like you and I don't love you".

[quakerboy]

33. I got the "I should never have had kids

that one is interesting. As presented to me, my father believes he should never have had any kids, expects to go to hell because he is not perfect, and advises that I may not want to subject children to this world myself.


A family friend is in a magic situation.

Child A, age 16 has been abused by step father. Mother works in Iraq, 1 month off per year the last 5 years, as child A is abused by step father over many years. It comes to a "head" and child A moves in with my family as mother is seeking a divorce. Mother comes back on break, rents an apartment for Child A an her younger brother, also abused. Upstairs from my family. Plan is 2 teens will live there alone with my family providing oversight. Children feel safe, step dad cant come abuse them if he dosnt know where they are.

Back from Iraq 3 days, mom brings future x step dad to visit new apartment. Shit. Child A calls my family to say she has taken a bottle of sleeping pills. EMT's called out. Child A claims it was only 8 pills. Mom Brings step dad. Step dads comment "how much will this cost me". EMT's say seems to be ok, but to be safe mom needs to stay with her through the rest of the afternoon. Moms comment "very busy, lots of chores". My family steps in, says "fuck, she will stay with us and I will watch her".

Mom says "yes, she will stay with them, I have to take care of important business".

Thats pretty high up in the ranks of cruel parental comments in my books. Fuck if any of us knows what to do.

[OhioChick]

34. That's awful....

Poor kid will likely remember that forever. :(

[Orrex]

35. "You're so bad, I wish that we had a different mailman."

[Deep13]

36. "You were a mistake."

My response: "I kept you out of Vietnam."

[triguy46]

37. When we moved out here to the farm 29 years ago...

some neighbors dropped by with their 5 yo daughter, who was acting like a 5 yo. Mom got mad and said, "I wish you were never born." Hm. We didnt speak to them after that, a distant wave was the closest we let them get.

[oedura]

38. "You're OK...I guess."

Heard that one from my father at 17.