So the man who molested someone dear to me will be dying soon.

[Teaser]

Am I wrong that I keep thinking "DIE YOU FUCKER?"

And that I'm chilling the champagne?

[XemaSab]

1. .

:toast:

Sometimes hatred keeps you going day to day.

[Teaser]

4. glad I aint' too abnormal

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[MrSlayer]

2. No. That's how any normal person would feel.

I'll drink to it myself.

:beer:

[Teaser]

3. thanks.

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[MissMillie]

5. I imagine what you're feeling is very normal

but please remember that forgiveness can be liberating.

Feel what you need to feel for now, and know that I abhor what happened to the person so dear to you.

[Teaser]

7. I can't forgive the person.

Because I wasn't the victim. That isn't my forgiveness to give. But I understand what you're saying.

[Inchworm]

12. This statement confuses me

One thing I got out of all the therapy and AA meetings was that I have feelings.

Noone can tell me how to feel no matter what the case is.

If the guy needs to die, fuck him. If I want to forgive then kill, all good. Just don't tell me I can't feel one way or the other because I'm outraged at how someone else treated another human.

Basically, humans suck.

:hi:

[ZombieHorde]

6. I don't know, but I would probably feel the same way. nt

[jobycom]

8. There's probably a downside to feeling that way in terms of your karmic soul and stuff

but I don't think anyone would say you are wrong for such a feeling. You aren't the one killing him, you are just satisfied with the results.

I'd say you were healthy and good. With one possible caveat--since you felt the need to ask, I think some part of your feelings are bothering you. Might be worth working out. On the other hand, I imagine that what this man did to your dear one affected you much more.

Just for the sake of commiserating, my brother molested and raped someone dear to me, and came one weak handhold away from raping someone else very dear to me (and she still may not be telling me the whole story). When he died, I posted here asking much the same thing you did, only with a lot more words because that's how I am. I felt good that he had died, and still feel happy about it.

Just for comparison.

[NJmaverick]

9. Nope

[Arkansas Granny]

10. I've been there and my thoughts were much the same.

I just couldn't find much pity in me for someone who had caused such pain to someone who I love. I didn't celebrate, but I didn't mourn his passing, either. It was just good riddance, as far as I was concerned.

[MNDemNY]

11. Can the man sing and dance?

[Ikonoklast]

13. Some people just need a good killin'.

Whether by the hand fate or by time, matters not.

[dropkickpa]

14. I danced a jig

When my best friend told me her dad hung himself in prison after he violated his parole and got sent back. I told her good fucking riddance.

She has told me my reaction was the only one that me her feel like she had permission to be happy and relieved he was dead.

[JustABozoOnThisBus]

15. How is he dying? Natural causes? An "accident"?

I don't know you, the dying man, or the someone dear to you.

But I'm glad he's dying too.

And yes, it's wrong. And maybe normal.

Just one more sort-of-complicated reason that I'm against the death penalty.

:hi:

[Teaser]

16. emphysema

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[Gormy Cuss]

17. It's not wrong to feel that way.

It's only wrong to vent that in front of people who care about him because it hurts them, not him.

Here on the other hand, vent away!

[Tommy_Carcetti]

18. I don't know whether or not it is the right thing to do, but it is the human thing to do.

That's all I can say about that situation.

[hunter]

19. I was happy when someone like that died.

The evil creature never stopped blaming his victim.

Today we're much more aware of the crime and I think he would have been prosecuted and put on a sex offenders list, but I know he'd still have blamed my friend, maybe with even more hatred.

"DIE YOU FUCKER!" is a pretty tame and appropriate response. My friend, her girlfriend, and I used to talk about stealing the fucker's body and doing something awful to it.

[Initech]

20. I'd probably be celebrating too.