Does anyone still hate people who tormented you in your youth?

[devilgrrl]

I do, I still want to stick it to my second grade teacher - what a evil witch she was! :grr: :mad:

[BushHasGotToGo]

1. I've thought about this, not really

If it doesn't affect me now.

[Rocinante]

6. Fifth grade

for me. Man that was some evil Coulter she-man stuff going on there. But it died, so nah.

[Feanorcurufinwe]

2. The only tormentor I ever hated

The only tormentor I ever hated died in a motorcycle accident when we were both 17. I discovered that I didn't hate as much as I thought.

[Booberdawg]

3. No

That's a long time to hold on to a resentment.

A very wise person once taught me that resentments are re-sent feelings. Come to terms with the feelings she caused in you. Then you can let it go. Name it, claim it, and dump it.

:)

[lfairban]

4. That is why . . .

. . . I never go to my High School reunion. Can't bring myself to do it.

[AlienGirl]

12. I went to my 10-year reunion...

Several of the bullies apologized and my unattainable eighth-grade crush hit on me.

I don't hate anybody. I've come to the point where no matter how reprehensible someone is, I can't hate them, because they still have the potential to change and grow, and someday they may change.

Tucker

[greekspeak]

31. I'm with aliengirl on this one

I went to my 10 year reunion last year, and found it to be very cathartic. I was very unpopular in high school, and was a target for a lot of hateful things. I always swore that I would go to my reunion and "show them." I lost a lot of weight in my 20's, and gained a lot of self esteem in college. When I went to my reunion, I didn't HAVE to "show them." Every one there had grown up. The hormones had died down. Most had kids, and had softened a lot. I got "you look great!" and "i'm sorry" a lot. People who would never have given me the time of day were interested in who I was and what I was doing, and were proud to tell me about their own lives. I just barely lost out for "most changed person." A lot of hate and bad feelings left me that weekend. Please...I encourage you and everyone else to go to your reunion.

[kmla]

32. I always go to my reunions to check...

... that I am not the one who has put on the most weight, or lost the most hair. So far, I'm still not in first place.

And I have fun counting the divorces of all the pinheads that were "in love" when they were 16 years old, and had to get married right after they graduated. Some are on spouse #3...

[wtmusic]

5. I had one of those total witches too

and now that I'm about the age she was, I realize she must have been very sad. Can't really hate her for that.

(nice lips, DG)

[jafap]

7. I remember one older lady

She was a sub, or a sub for the study hall. She was a really nice old lady. But after a few months of taking crap from us kids, she turned mean.
I do not think fondly of the people who were mean to me, but actually hating them would give them too much importance in my life. I do not care enough about them to hate them.
Also sometimes I think that I was such an arrogant idiot when I was growing up that I should apologize to most of the people who knew me then. I wonder if I will feel the same way ten years from now.

[Kenneth ken]

8. what, you mean my brother?

naw - when I grew up, I put him on the ground and threatened payback for all the things he had done when I was smaller than him.

We get along great since then.

[JackSwift]

9. I saw them then as insecure bullies

and I hope they grew up and found love. Except for one guy. Both his older and younger brother were really fun and cool. He was really smart and a cruel bully. I don't think about him often, but I regret I find no love in my heart for him.

[nothingshocksmeanymore]

10. Nah. I grew up tougher for it.

And they are stuck with their miserable self.

[yorgatron]

11. "living well is the best revenge"

"if you wait by the river long enough,the body of your enemy will float by"

[nothingshocksmeanymore]

38. Your top quote is a motto I live by

;-)

[retread]

13. No. They are not the same people they were back then. If

a person does not grow from what they were in high school, they are pitiful.

[Nlighten1]

14. Be hear now.

That is the best advice I can give about this topic. I spent a great part of my youth hating the people who tormented me when I was young. What I learned is that if you live in the past it is a memory and if you think of the future it is a fantasy. The only place to really live is in the present...here...now...so...be here now.

[GregW]

15. I used to tease a kid all the time ...

Because he had a large birthmark on his face. One day he couldn't take it anymore and started a fight with me and kicked my ass. He was much smaller than me and humiliated me in front of my friends.

It was a pivotal point in my life (I was 13) and we eventually became good friends. I stopped being an asshole, and now generally get along with everyone.

If I ever meet myself as a kid I'm going to kick my own ass before this kid does, and much worse than he ever did.

[Enraged_Ape]

16. Wow, Greg

I was the same way as a kid, and if I ever met my younger version, I would do the same thing!

[catmandu57]

17. No, with the karma concept

I'm sure anything that was done in the past has balanced out by now.

[Loonman]

18. No, not really

Most of them are probably still stuck in my jerkwater hometown, getting fat and bald.

[flyingfish]

19. What are you, in third grade?

Honestly, walk into a second grade classroom sometime.
You'll get a whole different perspective of things.

[GOPisEvil]

20. Good Lord no!

Life's too short to carry around hatred for that long. It's not healthy either.

I will admit to thinking thoughts that they are living horrible, wretched lives from time to time, but that's it. :evilgrin:

[flyingfish]

22. Everyone has bullied and has been bullied

At one point or another, someone has bullied another person, by accident or on purpose, and has been bullied, by accident or on purpose.
Just part of life.
Get over it!

[bif]

21. In third grade

There was this kid who picked on me constantly. He turned a bunch of other kids against me too. I had just started at this catholic school and was an outsider. Fortunately, he moved to New Zealand before I couold beat the crap out of him. I still hate his guts 40 years later.

[flyingfish]

23. Honestly, third grade?

Some people on here have serious issues that need addressed.
People, get over it!

[supernova]

24. No I don't think much about it

I was teased a lot in elementary school, mostly b/c I was relatively small and shy. Until in 3rd grade I beat the snot out of the school bully.... a very large for our age girl.

I learned later in high school that she was being abused sexually and physically by her father. Even had a baby by him. I felt sorry for her.

So as much as people torment you, it's quite possibly a sign they are in a great deal of pain themselves.

Continuing to hold a grudge for childhood wrongs into adulthood gives them too much power.

[sexybomber]

25. I don't hate my fourth grade teacher per se

But it would be satisfying to just randomly show up one day and be like... hey there, I turned out normal, just like you thought I wouldn't, ya freak!

[devilgrrl]

26. What great responses!

That's why I love coming to the Lounge.

Thanks kids. :-)

BTW, I don't really want to kill my second grade teacher, I'm sure Karma took care of that, I was just using her as an example.

[NightTrain]

27. Oh god, yes!

I got it awfully badly in middle school. To this day, I dream of meeting up with one of those neo-fascists so I can tell them just how much damage they did to me. I wonder if it would bother any of them?

[Breezy du Nord]

28. I still hate the lady who shushed me at the movie theater last week n/t

[Kathy in Cambridge]

29. I think Freepers carry around this resentment

which makes them the ugly humans that they are. I think most of them were bullied and are now the bullies.

I had red hair when I was young (strawberry blond) and got teased mercilessly. Everyone grew out of it by high school. Resentment will make you fester and cause all kinds of illness, whether physical-or in the case of our freeper pals-emotional/mental.

[slackmaster]

30. No, but I keep my phone number unlisted because of one of them

Total nutcase.

[ArkDem]

33. Most Democrats find it difficult to hate...

[slackmaster]

36. Everyone go hug the nearest Republican

(running for cover...)

[Kamika]

34. Yes and i would most likely try and beat him if i would meet him

Thank you

i hatehatehatehatehatehatehate allahsan !!!!!!!!!!!

he would come up to someone and tell him like.. yourmothers a whore give me your money bitch..

One time this guy said "well then she works with your mom" allahsan took his head and beat it so much.. and then asked the guy if he was sorry.. i could almost cry

Reason ppl didnt report this was that ppl knew allahsan and his thugs had actually killed ppl and this was when we were like 15 years old..

Anyway i guess i got alittle payback.. i read somemonths ago that at age 21 hes a single dad :p im happy hes in misery but i fear for the baby

Also another guy in His "group" tormented my friend over and over because she was overweight.. i want to cry when i didnt step in and defended her

[NYYFan]

35. I try not to- but sometimes- I'll remember something

that stick in my craw to this day- and I get really mad.

* All the kids that teased me because we weren't rich like them
* My racist Kindergarten teacher
* HS preppy clique
* All the ones that teased me for being fat.

Then I think about how I have turned out to be just fine. So- then I forget all about them.

Luckily, I have 7 more years before my HS 20th (we were too sorry to have a 10th) do do even more fantastic things. ;-)

[ScreamingMeemie]

37. My entire eighth grade class, who made my life a living hell when I

was the new kid in school. To put it bluntly, 8th grade girls can be bitches, I fear for my daughter as she enters this strange grade.

[44wax]

39. I'm likely the guy that the little nerds did not like

Not because I bullied them. It is because I kikked their pasty little asses for calling me fat ass or spic or flip or wetback.