My father-in-law told me that I need to...

[Writer]

drop out of my doctoral program if I want to start a family. He's a 73 year-old Mexican immigrant. I didn't need to say much back, though. My husband and sister-in-law both became furious with him, with my sister-in-law telling him that he was being extremely rude and that it was "none of his business."

He's kind of an impish, peevish person whose arrogance and illogic leads him to say sometimes cruel or disrespectful things. I at first ignored him, and wrote him off as being childish and intrusive. But it has made me and my husband very angry since then. I told my husband that my family believes in strong, educated women, and his father has no right telling someone else's daughter how to live her life. My husband agrees, but he's rather upset.

My father-in-law can sometimes bully my husband, but I don't want to dictate to him what to do. However, I want my husband to maintain some self-respect.

((Sigh)) drama.

On a good note: I'm going to see Craig Ferguson in concert this weekend!

[JustABozoOnThisBus]

1. What's his leverage?

Is your FIL paying your bills? Your tuition?

Otherwise, his is just one opinion. Want to hear my opinion? It should carry the same (light) weight.

Just thank him for his input, and continue doing whatever it is that doctoral candidates do.

:hi:

[Kali]

2. agree

consider the source (culture + age)

sounds pretty normal, tell Papa you love him, thank him for expressing his feelings and continue with your life

[Xipe Totec]

4. +1 n/t

[madmom]

3. My mother-in-law told my daughter pretty much the same thing. She told her she was

wasting her time and money going to college, she should stay home get married and have kids. Daughter laughed at her and said yeah right then told her she was transferring to a bigger city with a better school for her major.