What simple concept does your otherwise intelligent spouse/partner fail to grasp?

[Throd]

My wife is a very smart woman. However, for some reason, she doesn't seem to understand that you have to actually wash a dish to some extent before you stick it in the dishwasher. Apparently she believes there is some little robot arm with a scouring pad that will scrub off all the baked on gunk in a casserole dish.

[Texasgal]

1. Hubby thinks the TV

is only made for college basketball. :eyes:

[Skittles]

98. I WILL KICK HIS HOOP-OBSESSED ASS, TEXAS GAL

YES INDEED

[Kali]

2. that I can't see what he sees in his mind

when he tries to tell me about something he has seen (location on the landscape, usually) you can tell he is visualizing the memory while speaking BUT he is NOT very good at transferring that visual memory into actual words that someone else can use to comprehend what the hell he is talking about.

oh, your wife is right - that dishwasher must be a POS. If a "helpful" appliance can't do what it is supposed to and makes you work harder than you would with out it, then it is a piece of garbage. (take with a grain of salt - I have to fill my dishwasher with a bucket and my clothes washer with a hose:P )

[tekisui]

3. My wife has impeccable intuition.

This is absolutely true. She is true and wholly honest. At times to a point of insult.

The thing that she cannot grasp is that our tiny bathroom will NOT fit her shoes and clothes. It gets to the point that I cannot open the door to get in. I just don't see why she can't see that.

[Brickbat]

4. Mr. Brickbat will not understand the difference between Schadenfreude and sour grapes.

The man is brilliant. But he can't remember the difference. Or else he just pretends not to, to bug me.

[Rabrrrrrr]

5. That one does not address the household staff by name.

She simply cannot grasp that simple concept, and I'm sure that, at some point, they're going to think they're people and want shit like minimum wage or not to be electrocuted when they draw my bath incorrectly.

[The Velveteen Ocelot]

6. My ex could never understand that one just does NOT wear socks with sandals,

and that doing so is evidence of irredeemable dorkitude.

[blueamy66]

53. yes, dorkitude

on an immense scale!

[AwakeAtLast]

7. That the shoemaker's elves don't magically throw away empty Mt. Dew bottles

x(

[Mopar151]

8. You cannot keep everything you might want

within easy reach, at all times. It must be here SOMEWHERE!

[Zavulon]

9. That loss of a job means spending has to be cut.

Don't even get me started. We live together, I lost my full-time job, she only works part-time ($9.50 an hour), and when she already has 68 pairs of shoes she doesn't need to drop 400 fucking dollars on three new pairs.

[LeftyMom]

10. Lesbians, by definition, really don't want to have sex with him.

It's apparently a difficult concept. :rofl:

[Kaleva]

12. But they might...just might....let us watch.

[LeftyMom]

13. Please don't get his hopes up.

He's having a difficult enough time coming to terms with it.

[Kaleva]

14. There ought to be support groups for us guys.

So we can learn to deal with the truth and not continue to be deceived by the lies porn puts out. That all lesbians can't wait to hop in the sack with a man.

[MiddleFingerMom]

39. Strangers in the night...

.

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[Kaleva]

11. That going to therapy is not to get everyone else to change their ways.

[Heidi]

15. Star Trek, Monty Python and Star Wars were _not_ documentaries. (nt)

[Broken_Hero]

16. Blashpemy....

:spank:

[Heidi]

17. I've got a news flash for you about Superman, too, bubba.

:rofl:

[Broken_Hero]

18. Well, thats not entirely, accurate...

I just saw Superman earlier today, as a matter of fact, he rents from me, he lives in my back room.

[Heidi]

19. Oh, dear. Come, closer, petersond.

Let me see if your pupils or dilated. :rofl:

[Broken_Hero]

20. Oh, :P

My pupils haven't been dilated for quite some time....the only drug I'm on is DU and Mt. Dew. :D

Btw, we get to talk to the kid tomorrow via the phone, we got phone privileges.

No talk of a meet up yet, but hopefully sometime this weekend.

[Heidi]

21. !

For you three: :hug: :hug: :hug:

I'll fire up those candles again, my friend. :hug:

[Broken_Hero]

22. Thanks, he is a ward of Cherokee Nation now

State of Ar doesn't have him anymore. It appears all social workers/case workers involved think this is going to move very fast....

[Broken_Hero]

65. Snap...

my wife and I got to meet him today, for 4hrs...damn, its all working out!!!

[Heidi]

67. !!!!

Congratulations!!!! :hug: :hug: :hug: <-- One hug for each of you!!!

:woohoo:

:thumbsup:

[kentauros]

25. But Galaxy Quest and Gilligan's Island were.

"Those poor people..."

:P

[Heidi]

26. Bless your heart, kentaurus.

Lemme have a look at your eyes, dear.

:rofl:

[kentauros]

27. Why, to tell if I'm lying or making historical documents?

What a minute! I don't have any eyes! :evilgrin: (no thanks to episode 22!)

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=26tWWopd_3g

Five curtain calls!
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cb2uSewAdIU

:rofl:

[Blue_Tires]

33. ok, now you're just talking propaganda...

[Heidi]

35. How WEIRD that you say that.

CMW said the exact same thing. AND, he gave me that "Whatchoo talkin' 'bout, Willis?" look.

[lazarus]

23. that she needs to finish her sentences

She has a bad problem with starting sentences, getting halfway through, and then fading off. Drives me crazy.

[JVS]

69. My mom has a similar problem. She'll say something like "Go get that thing from over there" ...

while not specifying where there is, and then she'll get upset when I tell her that I don't know what she wants or where it is.

[blogslut]

79. My mom used to drive me batty with...

"Go to the kitchen (20 second pause) and get that (15 second pause) thing out of the drawer...."

"What drawer, mom?"

"The south drawer."

"I wasn't raised on a farm, mother. If you wanted me to have farm-girl skills you should have taught me farm-girl skills."

[Betty88]

72. Mine needs to start hers

It's like she is thinking about something and just starts speaking about it somewhere in the middle of a sentence only she has been privy to. I have to say, "Baby, can I hear the first part of that sentence?"

[Broken_Hero]

24. Simply, that I'm not an idiot.

My wife has been in a position, since a young age of doing everything for her parents/brother. By everything, I mean talking to banks on the phone for loans, or taking care of business, and dealing with any professional. Her parents have a hard time talking to anyone of authority, so my wife steps in and handles just about everything.

She has been doing it for so long, that at times she feels like she needs to do that for me, and at times it aggravates me, and I tell her, I'm not stupid, I can handle this.

eta:clarify

[murielm99]

28. That occasionally, maybe every ten years or so, things

simply have to be thrown away. "Maybe we'll need it someday" is not a good reason to keep EVERYTHING. Not throwing things away will lead to having THREE fucking outbuildings full of crap. The only reason there are not FOUR fucking outbuildings full of crap is that I had the barn torn down.

[kentauros]

29. Although, if it's organized well, then it's a fully stocked shop

;)

My stuff isn't organized, but I actually have used things I've kept for years, usually nuts and bolts for computer repairs and such. Of course, those don't take up much room...

You should always call the Smithsonian first before you throw out three outbuildings of "crap" :P

[murielm99]

30. I don't know if the Smithsonian comment was facetious or not,

but there is some truth to it.

I have found lanterns, small nail kegs, baskets, milk cans and a few other things that do have some value. I have rehabbed them to use in the house. I am sure there are other things. But I do try to walk around, under, over things out there once in awhile. I have a general idea of what is out there. Really, most of it is crap.

You know how some people get banned from local bars? I should try to get dh banned from the local hardware stores. He comes home with things that we already have, if he would just search for them. He is even trying to take over my laundry room, because it has lots of drawers and cupboards.

[kentauros]

31. Partly facetious, because you never know what they might want.

I do get rid of things, it's just a lot of work organizing when I haven't for so long. Maybe y'all could work together on it a little at a time to get it in order? :)

[sarge43]

58. You got one of those, too? Pack Rat King

Mine doesn't even try to justify. I just get the hairy eyeball when I suggest that keeping sky diving equipment that's going on to fifty years old is, well, anal.

[deek]

66. hmph

Aren't we a wasteful one?

:P

[Haole Girl]

32. I'm not sure if it's his secret plot to kill me, but...

my husband leaves his shoes right where I step down a step, into our garage. It's dark & I don't see them. And even though he only does this occassionally, he'll say "You should know they are there.". I've nearly fallen flat on my face several times. :-(

[femmocrat]

92. My husband does the same thing!

So I kick his damn shoes where he won't find them. :evilgrin:

[Haole Girl]

111. hmm

Not a bad idea... :evilgrin:

[Skittles]

100. HE IS TRYING TO KILL YOU HAOLE GIRL

I WILL TAKE CARE OF IT

[Haole Girl]

112. Thanks, but I've got a handle on it

(see above) :hi:

:rofl:

[unpossibles]

34. no SO at the moment, but my roomie does that too

Sometimes it works, but the other day there was a plate with crusted and cooked-on macaroni and cheese smegma stuck to it.

[Mad_Dem_X]

36. That something spilled on the countertop

needs to be wiped up. I am constantly seeing little puddles of water on the countertops and it drives me batty!

[MiddleFingerMom]

40. That's not water. ... ... n/t

[Mad_Dem_X]

89. LOL!

[LibDemAlways]

37. My husband thinks washing dishes means rinsing them off and

stacking them in the sink- apparently for the dish washing fairy to finish. One time we were at his sister's house and he volunteered to wash the dishes after dinner. She didn't understand why I rolled my eyes until she found the stack of partially washed dishes in her sink after he disappeared into the living room to watch tv.

He also fails to grasp that the cost of living has gone up tremendously over the past couple of decades and parcels out the same meager amount he did 20 years ago to cover basic expenses. Won't even listen when I try to tell him how much things really cost. It's a good thing I work too.

[annabanana]

50. re: the "dishwashing fairy". .

My DH also seems to have a firm belief in fairies.. scores of them

The one that does the dishes (probably a cousin of your dish fairy). The fairy that replaces the roll of toilet paper, the one that fills the salt & pepper shakers, the energetic fairy that gets the clothes into the hamper...

It's a wonder we have room to turn around in this place, what with all the flitterers....

[Manifestor_of_Light]

60. Oh yeah, the Sink Fairy!!

The one that rinses the dishes and loads the dishwasher.

I'm the one with the belief in the Sink Fairy, not the husbo.

[dixiegrrrrl]

86. Our most overworked fairy is the one who puts stuff back in the

fridge after HE is thru using it.
Never...never ever..has he put one thing back.

He does complain I exaggerate, tho.

[muffin1]

38. That he needs to call when he's going to be late coming home.

We've been together over 20 years, and he's still surprised when I'm angry that he doesn't call. He says a call will make him even later. WTF??? He's an hour late, dinner's ruined, I'm worried he might be dead, and he still thinks I'll be angrier if he he takes 2 seconds to call.

[Kali]

42. oh yeah, the phone

now, I understand hating the phone - I hate the phone, but when your supposed beloved is out driving around in decrepit vehicles or town is far away and errands need to updated/double checked to save real time/fuel costs ANSWER THE GODDAM PHONE!

[dugaresa]

44. +1000

i have had this argument a million times in the past with my spouse

[NoFace]

62. mine too, out of sight out of mind I think. nt

[Rosie1223]

41. No one has mentioned toilet paper?

My husband can't seem to understand that if you use the last of the paper, you put on a new roll. And scraps left hanging on the cardboard do not constitute "some left".

[Kali]

43. and it's "over", not under

is it that difficult?:eyes:

[NoFace]

61. YA beat me to it...my wife is the same way. I've given up after 7 years.nt

[Rhiannon12866]

63. This has got to be a "guy thing..."

Your description made me LOL, since it is so very true. They even had a scene about it on "Mad About You" that stuck in my mind, though I remember nothing else about that show... :rofl:

[JVS]

70. It is a guy thing, and I believe I can explain it.

1) For us, toilet paper is only importance once or twice a day. I've even had days where I used the last toilet paper before going to work and instead of making a trip to the store that day, I just made sure to use the toilet at work before heading home, figuring that I could use some paper napkins if I needed to go before the next day (I live alone and was planning on a shopping trip the next day). So being out of TP isn't that big a deal all the time.

2) Putting TP on the dispenser doesn't make it work any better. In fact, holding the roll in one hand and unwinding it in another gives you better control over the quantity. Putting it in a dispenser often makes it more awkward to pull on and manipulate. Especially if the dispenser is next to your non-dominant hand. I'm happy to have the roll sit on the tank.

[Rhiannon12866]

85. Thanks for the explanation!

I guess you know that this is different for women, and that's the reason that it drives us crazy... :crazy: :hi:

[Skittles]

101. I WILL KICK HIS ASS AND TEACH HIM TP ETIQUETTE ROSIE1223

YES INDEED

[One_Life_To_Give]

45. There arew limits to how much crap you can have in one household

Dear I know its a Christmas coffee cup but there are already over 50 coffee cups in the cabinate. There is no room for anymore, so something has got to go. (Calm down OLTG, take deep breath and think peacefull thoughts)

[semillama]

46. My wife, who is about to finish her PhD

has to look at her hands to remind her which direction would be left and which would be right.

[seabeyond]

109. i have never heard

of anyone else that had to do that. isnt that so odd. over four decades, i cant figure out why i cant figure out.

north, south, east, west.... i can point anywhere i am and know the direction.

weird stuff

[bamacrat]

47. Why the Supreme Court decision is bad.

[MorningGlow]

48. That other people will need to use the entryway/hallway

Mr. MG has a remarkable talent for dumping EVERYthing he brings into the house RIGHT in front of the door--shopping bags, shoes, jacket, etc. etc. etc. And then it's impossible to open the door again until SOMEone (ahem me) clears out the detritus. Likewise, he'll dump stuff in our front hallway with no intention of ever moving it.

Also, flat surfaces are not for dumping crap permanently. I clear them off and put things away, he finds more stuff to dump there. :banghead:

[fizzgig]

49. that his dirty work pants don't live on the kitchen floor

and that his coat goes on the hanger on the wall, not the floor under it x(

[Skittles]

99. THAT IS EGREGIOUS

I WILL KICK MR. FIZZGIG ASS

[LisaM]

51. Housecleaning, period.

He's currently unemployed and I try really hard to respect that he needs space, not to be nagged, and that I need to give him the freedom to look for work. But today I asked if he could clean off the (tiny) workspace in the kitchen - all his stuff, I cleaned it thoroughly Wednesday night - and yesterday I asked him to wash the sheets, and now I'm being accused of leaving a "task list" every day!!!!!

I guess he honestly doesn't notice the mess. There's no other explanation for it. Now I'm afraid to ask him to do anything. He acts as if lifting one little finger to do housework is a favor to me.

[dugaresa]

75. i consistently joke that i am waiting for someone in the family to take a crap on the floor

because they leave messes everywhere but are unaware that they need to be cleaned up.

when i ask my spouse or kids for help, it is always seen as a favor to me rather than a group effort to keep the home clean which everyone will appreciate.

[Kaleva]

104. Being 10 years older then my wife, she needs to learn I won't be around forever to clean the house.

[blueamy66]

52. Oh, the list is sooooo long...

I'll start with the important ones...

-how to log in to our online bank account
-the fact that bills need to be paid before, not after, the due date
-that one shouldn't wash darks with whites
-that when I am irritable and pissed off at the world, he should stand back and/or cater to my every whim


that's all for now

[we can do it]

54. Mine Does Not Get the Hot Air Rises, Cold Air Sinks

AC and heat are are mystery

[WCGreen]

55. Mrs WCGreen with the masters degree doesn't grasp this one either...

She also seems to think there is a dishwasher elf who comes out at night and puts all the dishes she has left on the counter into the dishwasher. I keep telling her I am not a dishwasher fairy...

[sarge43]

56. That salt shakers, among other things, don't automatically refill themselves. n/t

[pscot]

57. Leaving the door open

lets all the damned heat escape.

[noamnety]

59. He can't master closing ziploc bags.

He'll take one tortilla from a new package and put the rest in the fridge with the bag left open. When I go to take one a few days later the edge of every single one is dried and nasty. Ditto with sliced cheese, lunch meat.

He does laundry, dishes, and calculus. He's not lazy, he's not stupid. He just can't grasp the whole food storage concept.

[jumptheshadow]

64. She needs to wear her socks in a cold apartment...

and especially when she has a cold. It drives me crazy.

[spinbaby]

68. What's wrong with that?

Socks must be worn to prevent cold feet.

[jumptheshadow]

71. Which is why I want her to wear her socks

Warming your semi-frozen feet against your spouse's warm posterior is a measure that should only be taken after you come in from the outdoors. You shouldn't have to do it because you refuse to wear socks in a cold apartment.

[Sen. Walter Sobchak]

73. That one woman doesn't need FIVE vehicles

My girlfriend owns:

A Honda S2000 Roadster,
A Restored 1960's Army Jeep,
A Suzuki Motorcycle,
A $15,000 BMW Dirtbike, (seriously)
And her latest addition, a Kia Rio 3, since she begrudgingly accepted she does need to own some sort of practical vehicle for things like going to Costco after we cash for clunkered her Bronco when I bought my Hyundai Accent. I also have a Honda Accord - but I keep it in Canada where I work.

So between us, we have SEVEN vehicles. Although she keeps the Jeep and bikes at her parents house because she doesn't have room for them!

Challenge her on any one of them and she will explain in a tone of voice usually reserved for telling the mentally ill not to masturbate in public why she needs each one and what it does the others can't.

So while she is the proud owner of a $15,000 dirt bike her kitchen table is from a wal-mart patio set,

[hippywife]

74. There are a couple but this morning's is

that the zip lock bag does not keep things fresh unless you actually ZIP it. :rofl:

[amyrose2712]

76. Is this Dan?...(I get in the same trouble with my SO. Guitly!)nt

[TrogL]

77. you cannot stop cats from doing wierd shit

We have a cat that likes to clean its fur by dipping its paw in the water dish. Inevitablty there is some transfer of fur into the dish which eventually clogs the pump. While cleaning it Craftygal chews out the cat

It's a cat thing. Get over it

[caitxrawks]

78. LOL i love this.

My husband doesn't understand that you need to change our 13 month old daughter's diaper before she's put down for her two-hour midday nap. He thinks she'll magically not pee at all during that time.

[Heidi]

81. His logic, "I don't pee when _ I _ sleep!"

I'd betcha 10 bucks that's what he's thinking, _if_ he's thinking about it at all. :rofl:

[JVS]

83. I think it's probably more along the lines of "She'll pee when she sleeps, so why waste a new one?"

[Heidi]

84. I was giving him the benefit of the doubt.

If he knows she'll pee when she sleeps, he probably also knows how uncomfortable it is to lie in your own pee for a couple of hours. I don't believe a dad with any real awareness of that discomfort would permit that, even if it saved a diaper.

[TrogL]

80. how thermostats work

The house does not heat up faster if you crank it all the way up. Then don't crank it all the way back to zero because you're hot

[trof]

82. It is entirely too time consuming and completely unnecessary to...

Put any lid/top/cap back securely on any container still containing any food product.

It's perfectly fine to gently set the lid back on the PJ jar and not screw it on. Or if some slight attempt to placate me does occur, the lid will be cross-threaded askew.

Same for ketchup, tabasco, mustard, pickles, etc., ad infinitum.
:eyes:

[Odin2005]

87. My GF has trouble with the notion that not all people are into the Twilight books/movies.

But we are both Aspies, so I shouldn't be talking! :rofl:

[1gobluedem]

88. That cupboard doors that open

Also close. The times I've nearly smacked my head coming into the kitchen.... And that ice cubes don't magically replenish themselves if you leave one cube in the tray.

[Withywindle]

95. that's true about the ice cubes.

You need to leave two so they can mate and have babies. :D

[Demoiselle]

90. That arranging neatly stacked piles of trash at right angles to each other is NOT cleaning up.

Oh, and only those who intend to do the cooking should stand smack dab in the middle of the kitchen blocking all access to appliances, counters, stove, etc.

[Evoman]

91. That I don't have special magic powers that make computers work

and when the computer or printer or DVD doesn't work right, it's not my fault! I mean, I have almost a perfect girl, and most of the dumb shit that goes on in my house is on me. But when it comes to computers or electronics....sigh.

I mean, sometimes it's just easy stuff like a cable not plugged in. Even a minor effort at troubleshooting would be nice. But no, as soon as something doesn't work right away, I have to stop what I'm doing and use my magic powers of plugging things in correctly and clicking on the right icons to get things to work again.

[Capn Sunshine]

93. the beauty and grace of the design and execution of pro football

Football is a game that offers anyone no matter the size, a chance to excel , and the poetic beauty of some of the plays is awesome to behold. As is the brutal fake combat aspect of the inside game.

[Skittles]

102. scheduling Capn Sunshine for ass-kicking

no explanation necessary

[Hosnon]

94. The mail. Every day when I get home from work I am able to track her path

through the house by the alternating sequence of torn envelopes and their contents.

I just don't understand what is so difficult about opening the mail in one place (preferably next to the kitchen trashcan) and throwing the envelopes away as you go...

And the fact that I'm the bill payer and document storer/organizer makes this even more frustrating!

[Flying Dream Blues]

96. In general, the concept of time is completely beyond his grasp.

But my frustration with that and "let's put it here for NOW" are completely overwhelmed by his being otherwise 90% wonderful.

[Skittles]

97. you want I should kick some Ms. Throd non-degunking ass, Throd?

LEMME AT HER

[Throd]

114. Nah, she is way cool. After all, she puts up with my shit.

Her list would probably be 100 items long.

[Monk06]

103. That the term Convenience Store does not mean it is convenient for me to go there at 3 am

TO BUY HER FUCKING CIGARETTES !!

ESPECIALLY WHEN I HAVE EMPHYSEMA AND DO NOT SMOKE !!

[MindPilot]

105. I have exactly the opposite problem -- she insists on prewashing

Scrape off the big stuff and put it in there. Unless it's really baked-on goo prewashing is just another waste of water.

I do all the dishwasher loading because she doesn't conceptualize the hydrodynamics inside the dishwasher.

[Kaleva]

106. That I'm not Superman and there are not three of me.

One of me to do housework and cooking. Another of me to work at my job and the third of me to work at a house we purchased and are in the process of remodeling.

[enigmatic]

107. That I need her more than want her

And I want her for all-time.. :D

[zanana1]

108. That a hug doesn't necessarily lead to sex. nt

[LiberalEsto]

110. The socks go IN the hamper

not on the floor.

Married 27 years, and he still doesn't get it.

[Missy Vixen]

113. Oh, there are many

Let's see here. (settles in for the duration...)

There is no magical Dishwashing Fairy, Housecleaning Fairy, Yardwork Fairy, and it's not my problem if he needs clothing for (insert event) and fails to notify me of this fact in the 48 hours or so beforehand.

When one does stuff like flip bottle caps into the kitchen sink, one spends an entire evening taking apart the garbage disposal to remove them.

I am not the only person in the house who knows how to purchase a necessary gift for family events, make a dish for said event, or find out how many people are actually attending.

When one leaves four pairs of socks and shoes in the family room around the one-year-old chocolate Lab, one should expect to lose at least one pair of socks.

Putting the milk container back in the refrigerator with half an inch in the bottom of it does not mean we "still have milk", especially when I use milk solely to cook with.

Ditto on the TP
Ditto on the leaving stuff in the traffic path all over the house, then acting surprised when I fall over it.

Farting is not some kind of Caucasian love call. Please use the bathroom for your bodily functions.

I love him, or I would have made another decision a long time ago.

[bookworm65t]

115. My dad doesn't like to open and read his mail

Then doesn't understand why he has late fees & surcharges, not to mention having services suspended.

:eyes:

[blueknight]

116. my wife

is probably the smartest person i have ever known. she is a PHD and college professor, but give her the tv remote, and she is stunned, total deer in the head lights look. i tried to give her a tutorial on how to use the dvr, and i might as well be talking to my 3 year old grand daughter

[Taverner]

117. Stock Options vs Employee Share Purchase Program

[kimi]

118. Well, the SO is deployed so I can't blame it ALL on him

SOME, but not all. But I can blame plenty on the boy children he left behind, supposedly as "men of the house" - HAH.

My biggest gripe has to do with garbage. There is no garbage fairy, either. No take-out-the-garbage-on-Wednesday-night fairy, no get-rid-of-the-kitchen-bag-when-it's-full fairy, no empty-the-bathroom-trash-when-it's-overflowing fairy. I am so sick of that misconception. I will brain the next child who blithely skips by a full trash bag on his way out the door with his Ipod playing in his ear, no questions asked.

The list is much longer, but since I've just made several trips outside with trash, I'll retire with this item now.

[Jade Fox]

119. That every freaking suggestion someone makes.....

is not his dad forcing him to do something he doesn't want to. I mean, Crimony! If you suggest he might like a movie, you can bet he won't see it.

He misses out on a lot because of this, but I know it's because he was constantly harangued by his father to do stuff. He just freaks when he feels pressured in any way. I just wish he had a better handle on it.