A good news/bad news situation:

[rockymountaindem]

Good news:

I asked a young lady I met last semester to have coffee with me last week, which we did on Wednesday. We talked for over 2 hours, laughed a lot and had what I thought was a very good time. In further good news - I know she is single (as opposed to that last girl I asked to spend some time with and then got 'round to mentioning her boyfriend an hour into our little convo). So this is good. In even further good news I also had the bravado to e-mail her and ask if she'd like to go to the movies because I thought that was definite "date" territory and couldn't be perceived as just chillin'.

Bad news:

The movies would be great, she says, but she wants to bring her roommate. :wtf:

What the hell does this mean?

[Prisoner_Number_Six]

1. Caution and self-protection.

She likes you but it's too soon to trust you. Perhaps she's had less than great experiences before.

[MiddleFingerMom]

2. probably/POSSIBLY caution and self-protection...

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...but if said roommate sits between you and her at the movies,
my call goes from caution to paranoia.
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I have just two words for you if that be the case.
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RUN AWAY!!! RUN AWAY!!! RUN AWAY!!! RUN AWAY!!! RUN AWAY!!! RUN AWAY!!!
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[Drunken Irishman]

3. Who knows.

That's a weird one. You'd think she would feel at ease with you since she's hung out, one on one, with you before.

Maybe she's unsure and wants to bring the roomie as a Just In Case This Doesn't Work Out thing.

Can't say I've ever had this experience, though. I mean, when I started dating my ex, a few times she'd bring her sister to the movies - but that was well after it was established we were dating.

[rockymountaindem]

4. Well, it's possible I'm overthinking this

Her note said that she and her roommate had been planning on seeing this movie for awhile but haven't gotten around to it. Maybe she just doesn't want to ditch her roommate on plans they had sort of already made with each other. Who knows? However I should point out that our coffee chat wasn't our first time spending time together. I know her from a class.

[Drunken Irishman]

5. Do you think she thinks it was a date?

Or just friends hanging out? It's possible she just thinks this is nothing more than two friends getting together.

[rockymountaindem]

6. I don't know. That's why I asked her to go to the movies

This is a problem I always have. It's impossible to convey that I mean for things to be a date, when everybody I know agrees that you're never supposed to use that word. The goal is to be as informal and chill (read: vague) as possible. What we really need is a well-defined mating ritual.

[LeftyMom]

7. Is the roommate hot?

Bow chicka bow wow

[petronius]

8. I'm glad I'm not the only one whose mind went down that road

Although you were a bit more tasteful than what I was going to post...

:)

[rockymountaindem]

10. This roommate could be a guy for all I know

Which would be a real turn off for me.

[arcadian]

9. I'm not sure how you pronounce it....

I think it's "menage a trois"

[mnhtnbb]

11. If her roommate is a best friend, it means she wants a second opinion on you

before investing more time.

During those two hours, what did she say about her roommate?

[rockymountaindem]

12. That's kind of what I thought. She didn't say anything about this roomate before

other than to mention that she has "roommates". I would wager there are probably at least three, knowing what I do about the rental market and living arrangements in my neighborhood.

[Sans Culottes]

13. You offered a "date"

She agreed, but limited it to a "friendly date". For now. I'd pursue this a bit longer.

[unpossibles]

14. she may just want to see how you interact with her friends

and to get her friend's opinion.

Or maybe you'll get the deuce. Who knows? keep an open mind and agree to it, I say.

[Orrex]

15. Could be worse: she could want you to meet her little friend