My mom is coming to stay for 11 days, I'm gonna need major prayer

[grannylib]

support!
She is going in to assisted living probably next month, but is on a waiting list. My brother, who lives just a few blocks away, and who has been checking in on her daily since Daddy died, is going on vacation so Mom will be coming here.
Love her dearly, and had offered to have her live here (gulp!) but this will be a strain, I know...
Trying to remember it will be difficult for her too; always more comfortable being in one's own home, and she's the one who lost her spouse, not me, so working hard not to make this all about poor me *lol* but we have not been as close as my Dad and I were, and I just want so much for this visit to be pleasant and I know I will have to exercise major control, since she has become very childlike in many ways, and I'm the 'big person' now...
So anyhow, I will quit whining, and if you don't see much of me over the next week and a half, that would be why....and thanks for letting me vent a little!!

[DemOverseas]

1. Time for spring cleaning?

That's my advice...keep busy. And keep quiet.
Demoverseas
PS If possible try and find something fun to do with your Mom.

[grannylib]

6. *lol* thanks for the tips...yeah, Mom loves to keep busy, but she is

really unsteady on her feet, so I bought a couple MAJOR huge jigsaw puzzles, and she loves crosswords, so that will help keep her busy with something she enjoys.
I can always use cleaning as an excuse I guess if I need a break!

[metis]

2. my Mom too

I have a similar problem. Mom was here for a couple of weeks. She used to be so active and while here, she was always asking for something to do. I gave her small jobs to do and that kept her happy for a while.
Most important, you have to find someway of looking after you. It becomes so waring. If you want a shoulder to cry on, please feel free to mail me personally..

[grannylib]

4. Oh thanks, you're a peach...and welcome to DU!

[Kadie]

3. Enjoy your time together.

I know how difficult it can be. I haven't really been close to my mom for years, and sometimes visits were a little strained.

But, a couple of years ago my mom had a stroke and now has to live in a nursing home. Like you I thought about having her move in with us, but realized it would be a very bad situation to put my family thru. I think it would have put me over the edge for sure. Not to mention that I don't think I would have been able to adequately take care of her. Even though we weren't very close these past few years, I miss just being able to pick up the phone and talk to her.

I understand how you feel. Peace vibes coming your way. Take care and vent when ever you need to.

[grannylib]

5. Thanks Kadie...appreciate knowing that there are those out there who

have been through this stuff...