I weep for my wife

[Bombero1956]

My wife and I went to the doctor's today to get the pathology results from her ovarian surgery last week. The doctor says they found cancer. The words hit me like a sledgehammer. We looked at each other and the tears came. I haven't been able to stop crying since then. I am so afraid for her and our future. I don't know where to turn.

[Tripper11]

1. So sorry to hear this...good vibes your way for you and your wife.

Do you have someone to talk to? Someone who can help you wade through these horrible emotions to help guide you?

[JohnnyLib2]

2. Prayers and every best wish for you both.

The American Cancer Society website has terrific information.... :hug:

[CaliforniaPeggy]

3. My dear Bombero1956...

I am so sorry to hear this...

You are both in my thoughts...

:hug:

[myrna minx]

4. All of my best wishes are with you and your wife.

:hug:

[Dr Morbius]

5. Lots of helpful support groups out there.

Help the both of you deal with the crisis, perhaps. The oncologist could recommend some. Also, remember this: cancer is a disease which is treatable. Sometimes the treatments don't work, but sometimes they do. Do not despair prematurely; your wife would not be the first cancer survivor.

Don't be afraid. Be concerned, and proactively take the disease on. It's not unbeatable. Best of luck; terrible news.

[Bombero1956]

6. we have to see the oncologist next week

On Monday she's having a biopsy on her left breast and will see the plastic surgeon later that week. Her breast removal surgery is sometime within the next month. I know I shouldn't give in to despair but I guess it got to be too much. I will ask the oncologist for a referral to a support group.

[GCP]

8. You don't need a referral for a support group

My thoughts are with you both. Just call the local hospital about support groups or google for local ones. :hug:

[hamsterjill]

7. And we weep with you.

I am so very sorry that you received bad news. And I have nothing, really, to offer you except to say that I wish this had not happened to your wife.

I know that you are afraid. Who wouldn't be? I hope that you will somehow be able to make use of the fear as an activator. Learn as much as you can about the disease and all of the treatment options. Don't be afraid to ask questions, ask the same questions again and again until you understand, and seek out more than one opinion. Some doctors are terrific, compassionate individuals, but some tend to try to intimidate their patients into simply accepting their advice without question. Your post doesn't indicate your opinion of the doctor.

You will need to be strong to be an advocate for your wife's care. Again - I am very sorry.

[Hell Hath No Fury]

9. Well that stinks.

Ovarian cancer is the truly scary, serious stuff, but your wife has a better shot at survival than any other time in history. I do not know where you live, but if you have a chance to get her to a large teaching hospital for furtehr evaluation and her treatment, I would certainly do so. If you are anywhere near the SF Bay Area I have a Dr. who specialzes in the toughest ovarian cancer cases.

Educate yourselves on the disease even though it is scary to do so. Get as much supportive care (emotional, nutritional) as you can for you both, and prepare youself for a rollercoaster. :hug:

[Tikki]

10. I hate hearing this....

Says you are suppose to think positive around this...it will be hard to be anything but scared..

Doctors know where to go from here and ask for emotion guidance, also.

Strong good vibes your way.....


Tikki

[blueamy66]

11. I am sooo sorry.

My thoughts and prayers are with you and your wife.

[joeybee12]

12. So sorry to hear this...

Have the doctors given you details about how widespread, what the treatment options are?


:grouphug:

[NewJeffCT]

13. I'm so sorry

I hope they caught the cancer in time. My thoughts are with you & your wife.

[SunnySong]

14. Hugs and prayers

:hug:

[foxfeet]

15. Good vibes en route to you both!

I wish you both health and peace.

[Crystal Clarity]

16. I'm so very sorry

:hug:

[CrawlingChaos]

17. God I'm so sorry

You're in shock right now and your brain must be spinning out of control with every terrible possible outcome you've ever heard of with regard to cancer. I agree with those who point out the highly advanced treatments available, which, while not a guarantee, will give your wife a much better shot at recovery than patients of years past.

I learned a lot about cancer last year when my Mom went through it. For instance, many cancers (even ovarian) can be "indolent", meaning they move so slowly as to be little threat to the patient. Maybe this will be the case for your wife. Unfortunately my Mom's disease was high grade and aggressive, but I vowed to always remember that just hearing the word "cancer" doesn't mean a death sentence. Far from it!

Please try to resist the feelings of doom. I know it's very hard. You're doing the right thing by talking to people and reaching out. This period of shock, right now, is particularly hard, but it won't stay this unbearably awful. It will get easier once your wife begins treatment and you can see action being taken. That's how it was for me.

All my most healing thoughts to your wife, and I'll be watching for updates (good ones I hope!)

[femmocrat]

18. I am very sorry, Bombero.

I wish you both the strength to fight this and a healthy recovery to your wife. :hug:

[Flaxbee]

19. I am so sorry, Bombero1956

My good thoughts to your wife and to you.

Did the doctors indicate anything about stage of cancer, treatment options, etc.?

[livetohike]

20. Hugs for you both. I'm so sorry you have this frightening

news. One step at a time. There are good resources out there and support groups. Please take care of yourself, so you can take care of your wife. Sending good vibes for peace and strength as you face this diagnosis together :hug:.

[blue neen]

21. I am so sorry that this has happened to your family.

You have my most sincere wishes for a full recovery.

[Skittles]

22. we are here for you Bombero

someone is always here

[blm]

35. guaranteed.....all time zones

you will not be alone

[sarge43]

96. Second that Bombero

Everyone of us has faced this horror, ourselves, family, friends. If talking about it helps you, we'll listen. If we can do more, just ask.

:grouphug: for your wife and you.

[applegrove]

23. So sorry. vibes to your whole family but especially your wife.

[lunatica]

24. I feel so sad for you both and for your family

This is a very hard thing to have happen. My wishes are that she will be cured and you both live happily for many many years to come.

[handmade34]

25. ((gentle thoughts))

take care of yourself as you also take care of Mrs. Bombero... life is so very difficult at times...

[skygazer]

26. I'm so sorry for this frightening news

I will keep my hopes up for both of you that there are strong treatment options available. Wishing you strength and good fortune. Keep us posted. :hug:

[Bombero1956]

27. no idea on what stage the cancer is in

The doctor did say that the cancer was in one ovary and part of a tube. The other ovary was clear. Also the "wash" was tested and it came back clear as well. Some of the shock has worn off and I'm trying to put myself in a hopeful frame of mind. I appreciate all the good thoughts that my wife and I have received from my DU friends. I know that she will have chemo therapy at some point but I'm not sure for how long.

[roguevalley]

58. if she does, get the anti-nausea drug with it. it truly does wonders.

my dad had zero nausea when he took it. Don't despair. we are here all the time and you have friends.

[Deep13]

92. .

:cry: :hug:

[helderheid]

28. Keeping you both in the Light

[Catshrink]

29. There are no words...

:grouphug:

[Stuart G]

30. In my thoughts and prayers.................

[Nite Owl]

31. I'm so sorry

you and your wife are in our thoughts.

[texanwitch]

Thinking about you and your wife,

:hug: :hug: :hug:

[flvegan]

32. Ah damn. I'm so sorry. So very sorry.

[Beaverhausen]

33. There are lots of places for you to turn

You made the right step telling us. Sadly, lots of us have dealt with similar news.

http://www.democraticunderground.com/discuss/duboard.php?az=show_topics&forum=380


You are not alone.

Lots of love to you and your wife.

[KittyWampus]

34. I have had only one ovary for most of my adult life. Hopefully the cancer hasn't

spread aggressively.

Best wishes.

[Taverner]

36. So sorry

:hug:

[fizzgig]

37. peace to you both

:hug:

[jillan]

38. Be strong, try and stay positive - I know that sounds impossible right now.

There's alot of new treatments out there - keep bugging her doctors.

I wish both of you the best, and will keep you in my thoughts :hug:

[LeftyFingerPop]

39. Best wishes to your wife and to you too, Bombero

:hug:

[K8-EEE]

40. Oh Bombero I am so very sorry!!!

I do have a friend who beat this cancer and I hope your wife does as well. Healing, strength, peace to you, your wife and your family! Please let us all know what treatment(s) she will be having and how everything is going.

[hedgehog]

41. Prayers and best wishes for you both - and some advice -

when you see the doctors and the give you info, repeat back to them what you think you heard to make sure you understand what they said. So often you're so shocked by the first few sentences you don't really hear the rest of what is said.

[msanthrope]

42. I am truly sorry and I wish all the best for you and your wife. n/t

[Missy Vixen]

43. I am thinking of you and your wife

I am sending good and healing thoughts to you both.

-MV

[CurtEastPoint]

44. Warm wishes and prayers for you both.

[lightningandsnow]

45. I'm so sorry.

I'll be keeping both of you in my thoughts. :hug:

[nadinbrzezinski]

46. Hugs

and we will be here for you.

And your wife.

:hug:

[NC_Nurse]

47. I'm very sorry to hear that. there are a lot more treatment options available

For ovarian cancer than there used to be. I hope they have caught it early and that she responds well to whatever course she chooses. A support group is an excellent idea, I recommend you find one for both of you. Best wishes to you.

[midnight]

48. Praying for a miracle for you and your wife that the help

and medicine your wife needs shows up.

[Hangingon]

49. So sorry Bombero1956

You are in our thoughts and prayers

[one_voice]

50. Damn, I'm so sorry to hear this...

Thoughts and prayers for you and your wife. :hug:

[Rex]

51. I'm so sorry

I can only hope they can remove it, my family has had bad fights with cancer of various kinds over the years. My heart goes out to you.

[OhioChick]

52. I'm sorry to hear this...

Prayers and good vibes for you both. :hug:

[wellstone dem]

53. I weep for you both

and am praying for you. I had my own cancer scare this spring. I well remember the feeling of "who can I tell this to". I too turned to friends on the internet. When you need comfort, please feel the good thoughts and prayers coming to you from Minnesota. My own case turned out just fine, meaning I owe lots to the prayers of others. It's time to repay by praying forward.

[cordelia]

54. I'm so very sorry

I will keep you both in my prayers.

[RamboLiberal]

55. Wow - Sorry to hear this

My prayers and thoughts are with both of you tonight. May all the good vibes from your DU friends give you some comfort tonight and in the days ahead.

[mzmolly]

56. My heart goes out to you Bombero.

I hope the cancer was caught early and has not spread to other areas.

[roguevalley]

57. bombero, I am sorry for this but now is a different time than in the

past. there are lots of options and alternative things to help with your spirit and hers so you can face this with a clear head are available. Don't be afraid. Or be afraid and emotional now but then try and step forward with confidence in your doctors and yourselves. You can beat this.

RV, who helped her dad beat lung cancer, stomach tumors, lymphoma and strokes over twenty-seven years. I hug you both tightly.

[asdjrocky]

59. Sympathies.

My thoughts are with you.

[shireen]

60. sad ...

i'm so sorry to hear about it. My thoughts are with you both and your families. :hug:

[Toucano]

61. I'm so sorry for you.

I hope it turns out okay.

[Tuesday Afternoon]

62. sending for you, healing energy for her and peaceful vibes for you both

:hug:

[RFKHumphreyObama]

63. My thoughts, prayers and everything positive I can extend go out to your wife, you

and your family. I'm sorry to hear this and I wish you both all the best:hug:

[seabeyond]

64. you two take care of self and each other. hopes and thoughts with you both. nt

[phasma ex machina]

65. A former coworker of mine is still going strong 15 years after chemo.

:hug:

[dhill926]

66. my sister recently beat it......

your wife will too. Sending good thoughts.

[Ishoutandscream2]

67. My thoughts are with you and your wife

Peace and strength be with both of you.

[Forkboy]

68. So sorry you have to deal with this.

Ovarian cancer has already affected my family. Best wishes to you both.

[SunsetDreams]

69. Bombero, I'm weeping with you, my mother

had Ovarian Cancer, and I can totally relate to how scared you must be right now. Your post is tearing me up, I can feel your pain, with just the few words you wrote. I know you don't know me, but if you ever feel the need to talk privately, feel free to PM me.

I will keep you, your wife, and your family in my thoughts.:hug:

[KT2000]

70. Isn't there more treatment?

They are planning to do something aren't they?
A friend is about 7 years since her surgery and chemo.
Good luck to you both - it may turn out better than you are thinking right now.

[Tarheel_Dem]

71. I know it's scary right now, but I'm into my 11th year cancer free.

My niece is also an 18 yr. survivor, she was only 19 y.o. at the time, and she's never been healthier. Keep positive thoughts (as much as you can), and know that you have friends here who care, who can be that support system you'll need through this process. :grouphug:

[kimi]

72. Ah, so very sorry to hear this

and totally understand your feelings, and those of your wife as well. My MIL went through this last year. You have a tough row to hoe coming up. My very best wishes and prayers for you and your wife, indeed your whole family. The vibes from those here will help immeasurably, as will the strength between you and she and the bonds in your family and friends.

Take care, and please let us know how it goes. Many hugs. :grouphug:

[emilyg]

73. My heart goes out to both of you.

[gateley]

74. I am so sorry. I will hold you both in my heart. I wish I could do more.

:hug:

[XemaSab]

75. I'm so sorry to hear about this

:(

[jaxx]

76. I'm so sorry. Peace be with you.

[donheld]

77. My thoughts are with him

:hug:

[Wheezy]

78. So sorry.

You are in my thoughts and prayers.

[Stinky The Clown]

79. I'm very sorry.

Your wife will need you every step of the way

[Hardrada]

80. Our best wishes for you and your wife from us.

[SeattleGirl]

81. I am sending my best wishes and prayers to you and your wife.

:grouphug:

[readmoreoften]

82. I'm really sorry. I hope her treatment is successful. Best wishes.

[tilsammans]

83. Prayers and warm thoughts to you both

:grouphug:

We are here to listen and help in any way we can.

[denbot]

84. I wish you an your wife the best.

Many hugs to you and yours.

[Cetacea]

85. I am so sorry.

It's terrible and I haven't any words.

[Dystopian]

86. I will be keeping you and your wife in my thoughts...

I just said a prayer...
Please try to stay hopeful and positive ...




peace & love to you both~

[Withywindle]

87. Oh no.

I am sending you and your wife the best prayers I know how.

In the meantime, I second what others have said. American Cancer Society, good info. There are good support groups out there. Work with your doctors and wish them the best. Talk with others who have been there. And most importantly, DO NOT withdraw from her emotionally in any way. She will need you now more than ever, and you need to take on your feelings full-force so you can be there for her.

[proteus_lives]

88. Good vibes for you and your wife.

I hope you two can beat it.

[xchrom]

89. so very sad to hear this -- my thoughts and prayers go out to you both. nt

[bigwillq]

90. Sending out my best vibes.

:hug: Hoping that everything goes ok. My Dad just ended treatments for prostate cancer. I know how difficult this can be. Take one day at a time. :hug: Best of luck.

[Bertha Venation]

91. Bombero

:hug: I am sorry. My best to your wife and you.

[Mad_Dem_X]

93. Sending good vibes your way

:hug:

[harun]

94. Hope everything goes ok for you both.

[theNotoriousP.I.G.]

95. My deepest condolences Bombero1956

to you and your wife. I wish you both strength and love in dealing with this horrible news. Sending healing vibes for your wife. :hug:

[Call Me Wesley]

97. Good vibes for your wife an you.

Peace and comfort.

[Bombero1956]

98. thank you all for the kind words and healing thoughts

It made me cry to see all of you offering encouragement and words of comfort. Right now she's trying to figure out a way to tell her family. She has a sister that's somewhat fragile and she would fall apart at hearing the news. I know that with you folks and the people at the hospital we'll get through this in good shape. This is my wife and I last Easter.

[sarge43]

99. You are a beautiful couple and your love for one another shines out of that picture. n/t

[GreenPartyVoter]

100. I am so sorry *hugs and healing vibes* I hope everything will be ok!