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AngryAmish Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Sep-09-10 03:21 PM
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You: Single again. Would you date a lawyer?
Assume that you are interested in dating someone and lawyer was also interested.


Show your work.



(and I'm not trolling for date date. Mrs. AA has instituted a very strict "no datng" policy on me even before our wedding day)
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Lyric Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Sep-09-10 03:25 PM
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1. If I were single again? Depends on what kind of lawyer.
A corporate-sucking tax lawyer whose entire job is to find loopholes in environmental laws for oil companies to exploit? Probably not.

A nonprofit family lawyer who's standing up for abused women and kids who can't afford "real" lawyers? Hell yes, in a heartbeat.

All other lawyers--maybe. Just depends on whether they're using their powers for good or for evil. :)
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dawg Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Sep-09-10 03:25 PM
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2. I can't imagine why not.
She would probably be smart, liberal, and would make more than me. Win. Win. Win.
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theNotoriousP.I.G. Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Sep-09-10 03:25 PM
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3. NO WAY!
They fucking talk too much.
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rug Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Sep-09-10 03:28 PM
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4. If I was single I'd have no choice.
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Rabrrrrrr Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Sep-09-10 03:34 PM
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5. heck ya! I've known some sexy lady lawyers. And they have money, too!
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Chan790 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Sep-09-10 03:39 PM
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6. Me: Single currently. Dates lawyers.
I'm not going to lie...I was raised in the upper class, I have certain lifestyle expectations. Those require money. I'm not ever going to become rich in low-level banking, moonlighting in poli. comm. and activism. That's my calling in life, not the banking, the activism. (Seriously if I had or could find a job doing that professionally...bub-bye bank.)

I find lawyers tend to have those same lifestyle expectations, same ideals and they make the money to afford them. We tend to match well, I need a partner who shares my ideals and is willing to bear the majority of our shared lifestyle cost; those that I have dated really liked the fact that I'm the guy in the street with the bullhorn yelling about poverty and gay-marriage and the environment...things they believe in, things they can't do...like stage sit-ins.

I don't exclusively date lawyers, but I have dated lawyers.
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newcriminal Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Sep-09-10 06:01 PM
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7. what lifestyle expectations?
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Chan790 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Sep-09-10 07:22 PM
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12. Well,
fancy crap, stupid crap. I grew up with it though. Big house, long exotic vacations, super premium groceries, the "proverbial nice things in life."
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newcriminal Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Sep-09-10 07:44 PM
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14. Sorry, but that is not a reason to date someone.
Fancy, stupid crap, super premium groceries? A big house and exotic vacations might be nice, but certainly not a requirement for who someone should date. Please tell me your kidding. I hate to break it to you as well, but the type of lawyer that you say you would date isn't the kind of lawyer that makes all the money to do those things.
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Chan790 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Sep-09-10 08:12 PM
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16. I didn't say it was a reason to date them.
I suggested it made us compatible in terms of what we wanted out of life. You know, shared desires are an important part of any relationship. I don't want kids (couldn't have them if I wanted to.) so similar views on lifestyle are pretty much the key thing here.

I date all sorts of people though.
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newcriminal Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Sep-09-10 08:24 PM
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18. You seem like a nice person in your other posts on here, so
I'm just going to walk away from this one. Maybe I'm not fully understanding you,and I'm just going to give you the benefit of the doubt on this one.
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The Velveteen Ocelot Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Sep-09-10 08:36 PM
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19. Ha. I practiced law for 17 years and was dead broke for most of them.
Most lawyers are NOT rich -- just ordinary small business people. And the ones who are rich are probably people you don't want to hang out with.
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S n o w b a l l Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Sep-09-10 08:01 PM
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15. Oh my...
:rofl:

You haven't dated many lawyers if that's what you think. Lawyers are regular people too. I know a few...including my brother in law and all his lawyer friends. He's a criminal atty, mostly deals with drug cases and a few murders. He drives a Toyota pick up truck. Comfortable, but certainly not rich. He's super liberal and great person.

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TroglodyteScholar Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Sep-09-10 07:23 PM
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13. You know...
...rich people stuff.
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blue neen Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Sep-09-10 06:03 PM
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8. Absolutely.
I can't see any reason why not to.
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lost-in-nj Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Sep-09-10 06:05 PM
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9. nope
since my divorce I have seen the true side of "my" lawyers....

I know there are some great ones out there......


but ugh these were friggen cut throat.....
I actually had to hold them off at the pass....
told them NO a few times

lost
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smoochpooch Donating Member (688 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Sep-09-10 06:59 PM
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10. How bout an unemployed lawyer?
Me! :hide:
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The Velveteen Ocelot Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Sep-09-10 07:20 PM
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11. I have dated a lawyer. A couple of them, actually.
I have also been a lawyer, and people have dated me.

Some lawyers are wonderful people. Some are assholes. They (we) are just like any other group of people -- you have to look at the individual.
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realisticphish Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Sep-09-10 08:22 PM
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17. of course
why not :shrug:
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femmocrat Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Sep-09-10 09:18 PM
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20. Watch it! Mother of a lawyer here!
He is happily married to a wonderful woman, however. She earns more than he does! :)
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davidinalameda Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Sep-09-10 10:54 PM
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28. hope your other kids turned out better
:evilgrin:
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Digit Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Sep-09-10 09:36 PM
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21. NEVER! That has always been my policy.
I have known two women who have been stripped clean of all their worldly belongings after being married to lawyers.

It would be the same for a person in the mob. No offense to mobsters.
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The Velveteen Ocelot Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Sep-09-10 09:37 PM
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23. Your brush is a bit broad.
I am a lawyer. I have never stolen a nickel from anybody.
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kwassa Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Sep-09-10 09:37 PM
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22. How do you tell if a lawyer is well-hung?
You can't get a finger between the rope and his neck.
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flvegan Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Sep-09-10 09:40 PM
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24. I most certainly would.
Edited on Thu Sep-09-10 09:40 PM by flvegan
Dating a lawyer isn't much different than dating one that isn't. If it's that someone detests the profession, well that's fine until you need one I suppose. I think much of the disdain for being in a relationship with an attorney is the worry that any discussion or argument is going to turn into a nightmare of litigious proportions. That's in the personality, not the profession.
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carlyhippy Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Sep-09-10 10:19 PM
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25. hmm, is he a rich, successful lawyer? I would say...yeah I would give it a try
As long as he is not a jerk, if he's a smart alec type lawyer, nah I don't need the headaches.
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Luciferous Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Sep-09-10 10:43 PM
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26. Sure. A person's occupation doesn't necessarily dictate their character...
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davidinalameda Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Sep-09-10 10:54 PM
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27. fuck no
that gives me the creeps thinking about it

I used to be a paralegal-that's why i hate lawyers
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jberryhill Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Sep-09-10 11:02 PM
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29. Is there an assumption that lawyers are not DU members?
Edited on Thu Sep-09-10 11:35 PM by jberryhill

(deleted - I should be used to this shit by now)
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LiberalAndProud Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Sep-09-10 11:16 PM
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31. No kidding.
I'm not a lawyer and I don't think I'm related to one, but I surely appreciate the profession. I shudder to think where we would be without good, conscionable attorneys.
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struggle4progress Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Sep-09-10 11:13 PM
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30. Sure: if we seemed compatible, I would date her
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Tuesday Afternoon Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Sep-09-10 11:16 PM
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32. yes
lawyers are people, too.
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ZenKitty Donating Member (169 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Sep-10-10 01:10 AM
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33. wealthy ones at that! Are we not all "people"? BTW...
"are people too" has always struck me as "worthy to live". Sad. We are all children on this planet and should try to encourage..dare I say love one another.

Love is reckless; not reason.

Reason seeks a profit.

Love comes on strong, consuming herself, unabashed. Yet, in the midst of suffering, Love proceeds like a millstone, hard surfaced and straightforward.

Having died of self-interest, she risks everything and asks for nothing.

Love gambles away every gift God bestows.

Without cause God gave us Being; without cause, give it back again. ~~Rumi



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Tuesday Afternoon Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Sep-10-10 07:02 AM
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36. Love is a lot of things
if not for Love, then why.
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proteus_lives Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Sep-10-10 01:42 AM
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34. Sure.
If she's nice, I don't see how it would bother me.
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cherokeeprogressive Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Sep-10-10 02:07 AM
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35. Damn right I would.
Smart people being good lovers and all that...
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Mr. Ected Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Sep-10-10 08:03 AM
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37. I'm a lawyer
There's good lawyers, bad lawyers, hateful lawyers, compassionate lawyers. We studied the law for 3 years and passed an exam. Big whoopie. Date the person, not the profession.
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BillStein Donating Member (403 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Sep-10-10 08:32 AM
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38. I think it would be immoral,
since I am a lawyer. If we let two lawyers date, what's next? man-dog relationships?
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Chan790 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Sep-10-10 08:40 AM
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39. I think we've already hit the height of marriage immorality.
I mean Rick Santorum is married.

How are you ever going to top that? :shrug:
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BillStein Donating Member (403 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Sep-10-10 09:02 AM
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41. I believe the technical term
for a woman like Mrs. Santorum is a "beard"
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supernova Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Sep-10-10 08:59 AM
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40. Sure I would
if they were a public defender type, or working in any kind of social justice capacity.

Corporate raider type ? No. I'll pass.

Though, I will say with high achievers of any stripe you run the risk of finding someone for whom you will always be 2nd to their job.
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old mark Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Sep-10-10 09:27 AM
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42. Well, I married a lawyer's daughter...that's been going pretty well for
17 1/2 years now...

mark
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Zorra Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Sep-10-10 09:52 AM
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43. Sure. Some lawyers I've met are really good people.
Don't know if I'd want to date a corporate lawyer though. Unless he was maybe the attorney for Greenpeace or something like that.
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Roon Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Sep-11-10 03:13 AM
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44. Yes I would if they were cute
free legal advice!
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Kali Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Sep-11-10 09:31 AM
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45. sure - why not?
it's assholes you want to avoid, not professions
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jobycom Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Sep-11-10 09:55 AM
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46. Okay, this is too weird. What did I miss?
Sometimes the Lounge reminds me of going to Catholic Mass as a kid. I could recognize the format, but had no fucking clue what was being said anyway.
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