Sometimes it is sheer Hell to wait for news

[Haole Girl]

This is one of those times.

My father's surgery was supposed to be at 9:00 a.m. Still no word. The most recent news I could squeeze out of a hospital volunteer was that his surgery was "delayed" and "he is still in pre-op." That was two hours ago. Do surgeons make patients wait 5 hours, in pre-op, before surgery?

:wtf:

My step-monster will not answer her cell phone. It rings two to four times, then simply disconnects me. I'm telling you, she takes the prize for the worst step-mother in eternity.

[hippywife]

1. I hope you hear something soon, sweetie.

And that every thing went successfully. It's very hard being so far away, and with such an obstruction between the two of you in addition to the miles.

Sending him healing vibes. :hug:

[Haole Girl]

2. Thank you hippywife

With all you've been through... that you would still reach out... it says so much about you. :hug:

[hippywife]

3. You are welcome, hon.

We all band together in times of pain. :hi:

[guitar man]

4. hang in there

sometimes these things take time. We're pulling for him and you too :hug:

[Haole Girl]

5. Thanks

Think I should call the hospital again. It's been too long. :-(

[hedgehog]

6. Just in case this is the problem - hospitals generally make you

turn your cell phone off.

[Haole Girl]

7. Some places, but not in the waiting area where she was....

I know, because I spent enough time there last spring.

Anyway. I finally got an update from a volunteer. She wasn't allowed to tell me much... just that he got through surgery ok. Whew! I am so relieved.

And, btw, step-monster never did answer her phone... or return my messages.

[hedgehog]

11. Sorry to hear that it was deliberate - soometimes relatives are the absolute worst.

[mwdem]

8. I didn't realize he was heading for surgery.

Keep us informed when you hear something, okay? Okay, I just read your last post. I'm sorry about the step monster.

[Haole Girl]

15. Thanks mwdem

Never did get to speak w/him tonight. Nobody answered in his room. But my sister (the one who is a nurse) reassured me that is not unusual with surgery late in the day... that he was probably sleeping.

It's very difficult not being there.

[av8rdave]

9. Vibes sent...

It's all going to be OK!

:hi:

[Haole Girl]

16. Thank you

It's always good to hear it will be ok.

[Demoiselle]

10. Love and vibes for your father, Haole Girl..(nt)

[Haole Girl]

17. Thanks, Demoiselle

[LeftishBrit]

12. Best thoughts to your father!

Hope you have good news soon.

Could it be that the mobile phone doesn't work in the hospital?

[Haole Girl]

18. Thank you, LeftishBrit

All I heard, from one of the volunteers, is that he pulled through surgery.

My 'step-monster' never called me back (nor my sisters).

Hopefully, he will be able to pick up the phone in his hospital room tomorrow.

[foxfeet]

13. Vibes for the best outcome for your father and for you.

Yes, waiting can be hell. Breathe deeply.

[Haole Girl]

19. Thanks

I had some beer tonight... that helped. ;-)

[Generic Brad]

14. My best to you and your father

So sorry to hear you are having such a stressful time.

[Haole Girl]

20. Hi Brad

Hey... I always worry. I keep telling doctors I need a lifetime supply of Valium, but I have yet to convince them!

[Kali]

21. there probably isn't much more to tell you than he got through it OK

I was AT the hospital less than 2 weeks ago when husband had a major surgery - the surgeon came and talked to me but then the receptionist in the waiting area forgot to tell me when they moved him out of recovery and into his room:eyes: :mad:

still didn't really know how he was for two or three days, even sitting in there with him, healing from that kind of stuff just takes time

[musette_sf]

22. Yes

BTDT.

[Aristus]

23. Hang in there, HG.

As you can see, we are all here for you... :hug:

[davsand]

24. Surgical schedules seem to get messed up most of the time.

Sigh. Seems like the heart and thorax docs are the absolute worst ones about that, too. My mom had a quad bypass back in May, and her surgery was supposed to start at 10 am. Her doc ran into issues with the case ahead of her and they never got her into surgery until something like 7 that night. Her surgeon looked about done in by the time he got done with her at about 10.

Glad to hear your dad came through it ok. You gotta figure that those hours after surgery are pretty sleepy ones for the patient. Not only are they sleeping off the anesthetic, but they are also probably getting some pain meads as well by that point. Hopefully you'll be able to talk to him tomorrow.

Something that you guys might want to consider, is that your Dad can tell the hospital that it is ok to talk to his kids about his condition. If they have his permission, they can tell you what is happening, and you can even call the nurse's station to check on how he's doing. You might bring it up to him that (Step mom) might appreciate it if you kids could talk to the hospital directly rather than her needing to call you all with information when she's so worried about him... (Sounds a lot better than saying, "she refuses to call me and I am stressed out because I think she's a monster that is deliberately withholding information...)

Hang in there. It is difficult to be so far away when you are worried.

:hug:



Laura

[Skittles]

25. I WILL KICK STEP-MOM ASS

give us an update, Haole Gal; we are all hoping for the best

[Haole Girl]

27. In my dreams!

;-)

[Haole Girl]

26. Update:

Just talked with Dad. He sounded well, under the circumstances. Thankfully, he had a good nurse (overnight). Thank you, everyone, for your prayers & good vibes!

[Aristus]

28. I'm delighted to hear it, Haole Girl!

That's excellent news. Wonderful!

[Tuesday Afternoon]

29. good to hear.

May he continue to heal and gain strength.

[Aristus]

30. A kick for Haole Girl's father!

:kick:

What's the latest, HG?