OMG! I have to decide between my sister and my daughter for Thanksgiving.

[Ptah]

[seabeyond]

1. generally it is my brother and his boys that are left out. this year.... told everyone to buck up

hubby is the one with issue. told him to make nice with brother, we were all getting together this year, lol.

sorry you are in that position, fro whatever reason you are.

[tigereye]

7. hmm, my brother's girlfriend's parents are coming - should be interesting

[seabeyond]

8. lol lol, ah ha. isnt it al so much fun. we are doing thanksgiving in mountains with MIL

just my family and them. will be lovely, easy and peaceful. i am having a house full christmas eve.

[Skittles]

2. daughter

your sister will get over it faster

[MiddleFingerMom]

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[bluesbassman]

3. Why not just make one the main course and the other a side dish?

:) Just kidding. Working out where to go for holidays is one of my least favorite things. I feel for you.

[Fleshdancer]

5. Daughter

Your sister can't fault you for going to your daughter's house, but your daughter can fault you for choosing to go to your sister's house.

[Kali]

6. invite them all to your place for green chili turkey enchiladas!

:9

[quakerboy]

9. So who

do you like better?

[TommyO]

10. Normally we do the big dinner at my mom's house

Mom, three brothers, one wife, two grandchildren and occasionally a cousin, and I do most of the cooking.

This year, my sister-in-law's mother just had a hip replacement, so one brother, wife and two grandchildren won't be making it, and no cousin, so it's just mom and two of us brothers. I'm still doing the cooking, but it's going to be a much different dinner. We'll still have too much food, but we'll be doing smoked turkey legs and baby back ribs (brother's request), a boneless turkey breast on the rotisserie, and plenty of side. There will be left-overs galore, but all stuff that will go by the end of the weekend.

[rug]

11. The one whose diapers you've changed always takes precedence.

[sarcasmo]

12. Holiday stress, oh what fun. Went to the Lions game a few years in a row to avoid the nightmare.

[Monique1]

13. Don't know what I am doing

I'm invited to my son's in-laws for dinner. I don't want to go - they are all repukes. I don't like large groups and I don't want to stay there very long if I would go. My daughter wants to go because there will be a huge family get together and she wants this for my grand daughter but her SO drives since I can't drive after dark.

Turning out to be a mess - I emailed my daughter and said okay I would go if I could ride with them. Okay? She replied she finally has a family and that I can see my grand daughter any time I want. I sent an email back to her asking if she read my email - I just needed a yes or no from her - she went ballistic. She said she read the email while on a business call, that she is always sick and that I am pushing her away. Huh? I spent all day Saturday at my grand daughters birthday party - early in the morning cleaning the house for for my daughter (the house was a disaster) and taking care of my little one while the two did whatever they had to do. I also cleaned up after the party then went home.

I am so crushed - I often make them meals and take it to their house so she doesn't have to cook when coming home from work -- I just don't want to go that way because I do things because I want to do it. I am always there when she needs something. Now I am the bad person because I asked if she read her e mail regarding Thanksgiving - I'm really tempted to not respond to her until after the holiday. She never answered my question.

I really wanted to cry after her email to me - I don't understand what I did wrong. There is no talking this out with her as she is always right.

[sarcasmo]

14. Taking a step back and letting them come to you is some times the best way to deal with family.

I moved three hours away from mine and it's the best move I ever made, but it's not for everyone.

[mzteris]

15. another perk of being a vegetarian

no one wants you there and no want to come over.

PERFECT!!

. . . 'cause you know, it's just "too hard" to deal with dietary differences. :eyes:

[hedgehog]

16. I guess I was lucky coming from a family of steel workers, railroaders and hospital nurses.

Every holiday, people had to leave early to go in to work or had just come off a night shift. We learned to make adjustments and as a result, the holidays can now be a week-long event rather than a single day. I encourage my kids to give priority to their in-laws and in-laws to be. We'll get together the next day or later on in the week. It's more important to me that people be happy than to have everyone here and miserable on a given day.

[laylah]

17. IMVHO...

Daughter wins! :hug:

jenn