Looks like my dad's gonna die.

[Drunken Irishman]

He's in ICU right now. His liver is shutting down. Doctors aren't very optimistic. He's in a coma and they think if his liver goes, it'll only be a short time before he goes, as well. Dad doesn't qualify for a transplant because of his medical issues.

Those who know me on DU know I've had a lot of issues with my dad. But this is still hard.

[csziggy]

1. .

:hug:

[flying rabbit]

2. I feel for ya

Mine is too. :hug:

[CaliforniaPeggy]

3. My dear Drunken Irishman...

Safe passage to him...

I hope his suffering will soon be over...

And yours as well, sweetie...

I'm sure it's hard...

:hug:

[orleans]

4. i'm sorry you and your dad are going through this

i don't know about any issues you've had with him but you love him and that's the most important thing--love--in spite of it all--love goes on and on.

the hardest thing in the world is having to say goodbye for now.

my heart goes out to you.

[area51]

5. I'm so sorry.

{{{{{{{good vibes}}}}}}}}}}

[blogslut]

6. I am so sorry

Losing a parent is a damned hard thing to go through. Be well. May your loved ones be there to comfort you during this time.

[kimi]

7. Ah, I feel for you

It's always hard when these things happen, whether or not there are issues.

Peace to you and your dad. :hug:

[Call Me Wesley]

8. Safe passage to your dad.

May he be free from suffering. Peace and comfort to you and yours, Drunken Irishman.

[HipChick]

9. So sorry...

prayers

[Aristus]

10. I'm so sorry, Irishman. You must feel awful.

I know he is in a coma, and that you two had issues. But if you need to say anything to him, he'll hear you. It will make you feel better to say the things you need to say to him. And you won't have any regrets later. Believe me.

And take care. :pals::hug:

[a kennedy]

11. so sorry to hear that.....

:hug:

[Frosty1]

12. So sorry DI

In situations like this often not only do we mourn the parent we had, but we also mourn the parent we didn't have.
We mourn for the parent we wished we had.

[caitxrawks]

13. i'm sorry :(

[Skittles]

14. so sorry DI

:cry:

[Kaleva]

15. Very sorry to hear about your Dad.

[tigereye]

16. I am sorry.

:hug: Losing a parent is really hard no matter what the relationship has been like, I think.

[bigwillq]

17. Make peace.

No regrets. Just talk to him. They say folks who are in a coma can sometimes hear.
Sorry about Dad. :hug:

[SeattleGirl]

18. I'm so sorry, DI

I had a lot of issues with my dad, too, but it still broke my heart when he died.

:hug:

[msanthrope]

19. I am sorry. Do whatever you need to do to feel some measure of peace.

My thoughts are with you.

[Swede]

20. Sorry to hear this DI.

Take care.

[denbot]

21. I'm really sorry your dad is passing over.

I hope he is being kept as comfortable as possible. If you can say what you need to say to him.
Vibes,
db

[Drunken Irishman]

22. Thanks everyone!

His condition is about the same. He's still not awake and the doctor said we should have a better idea of what to expect by this time tomorrow.

Thanks again.

[madinmaryland]

23. Hope things improve and he awakens.

[siligut]

24. Liver issues are very difficult

As you know, your liver is very important. But life is miserable long before one reaches the shutting down stage. Death may be relief for him. I am so sorry, but you can talk to someone in a coma. Maybe give you both some closure/release.

[rurallib]

25. deepest sympathy from the Lib household.

hope there are good memories.

[NNN0LHI]

26. Very sorry to hear about your Dad

:hug:

[ccharles000]

27. Hope everything will be ok

:hug:

[EFerrari]

28. I'm so sorry, Drunken Irishman.

[Drunken Irishman]

29. Another update...

Dad had a minor heart attack. Doctors are prepping my mom for the inevitable by asking her whether they should do chest compressions should he have another one. She said yes, unless it becomes obvious it won't matter a lick.

So, it's not looking good. :/

[AllenVanAllen]

31. My heart goes out to you DI.

:hug:

[emilyg]

33. I am very sorry.

[cherokeeprogressive]

39. May He be in Heaven half an hour before the Devil knows he's passed.

So sorry my friend.

[Odin2005]

30. Oh God, I'm so sorry, DI!

:hug: :(

[applegrove]

32. So sorry. vibes to your whole family and especially your dad.

[Kat45]

34. I'm so sorry to hear that. n/t

[GreenPartyVoter]

35. I am so sorry *hugs*

[OmahaBlueDog]

36. Sorry, DI

:(

[de novo]

37. I'm sorry for what you and your family are going through now.

I hope for your peace and comfort.

[nolabear]

38. I'm sorry, DI. It's never easy. Be well.

[proteus_lives]

40. Hopes and vibes to you and your family.

[hippywife]

41. Sending my thoughts to you, DI, and to your father.

Please continue to talk to him for as long as you can, even if it appears he's not hearing you, for we never know. From my experience with my mom almost two weeks ago, I think they do hear you. No matter the issues we have with them, there is still an invisible bond that nothing can ever rend.

Also sending comfort to wrap around yourself, and wishes for a peaceful leave-taking for your dad. :hug:

[laylah]

42. Thinking of you and yours.

I am sending light and love your way. :hug:

Jenn

[OneGrassRoot]

43. I'm so very sorry...

:hug:

[GoCubsGo]

44. I'm sorry.

Wish you didn't have to go through that. Big hug.

[Drunken Irishman]

45. Final update: Dad passed away this morning.

My mom and I were by his side.

Thank you all for the support. It means a lot.

[kimi]

46. Thinking of you and yours now

Please take care and know that vibes and hugs are here. :hug:

[auntAgonist]

47. I'm so sorry for your loss.

:hug:

[many a good man]

49. I raise a glass of 12-year old Jameson's to you and your Dad

Whatever your issues were, they're in the past. If you got something to learn from it all, learn it well, carry it with you, and move on. He had his shot and now it's over. You are young and have a long road ahead of you, we hope. I never knew the man, but I know he helped bring into this world a damn fine Drunken Irishman! Slainte!

[one_voice]

50. I'm so sorry for your loss...

Thoughts and prayers going out to you and your family. :hug:

[mstinamotorcity]

48. Well its not to late!!!

Go to his bedside and tell him that despite your differences he is your DAD and you are the man you are partly because of him. It would be honest and truthful. Because even though we have differences with the ones we love, if we avoid being the kind of person that we are not pleased to be around or learn not to do the things that we don't like, we have learned something valuable from that person no matter how bad we think they are.