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Once upon a time, a young man and a young woman met and fell in love. The man proposed to the woman and she accepted. They were married in 1993.
In 1995 they bought a modest house. The man lived within his means, and over the next 10 years he made the mortgage payments on time every month. Their equity grew until they owed 25% of what the house was worth. During this time the man and woman conceived two wonderful children.
One afternoon in December 2007, the wife came to her husband with a strange look in her eyes. She needed money in a bad way. She was in debt. The husband didn’t understand. They both had good jobs. He had money in the bank and for the first time in his life felt secure that their retirement needs would be met. Why was she in debt? How much money did she need?
The wife told her husband that she had $20,000 in credit card debt. The husband was shocked. The husband was angry with himself for not monitoring his wife’s spending habits. He wondered where the $20,000 went. “With all of that debt, why don’t we at least have nice leather furniture and a plasma TV?” he asked himself. He paused to consider the annual trips to Europe his wife had been taking over the past few years with her friends. She never asked, she just told him that she would be doing it (”You only live once!” were her exact words.) The husband gave her the $1,000 budgeted for Christmas, plus another $2,000 in cash.
One day in January 2008 the wife came to the husband again. “I’m screwed,” she said.
Checks had bounced. By this time the husband was paying all of the bills, including the utilities. All of the wife’s income was going to pay off the credit cards. “I owe $30,000,” she told the husband. “I went to the bank and they said we could take out a home equity line of credit.” The husband refused. The husband said she should talk to a debt counselor because there are things she could do to reduce the amount owed. When the husband told his wife “no” she had a desperate, feral look in her eyes. The wife didn’t want to do this because it would damage her credit rating. Her credit was the most important thing.
The wife shut off the husband. She became distant. No longer did she snuggle up to her
husband. She took a second part-time job and rarely saw her husband or the children. She worked the second job for 5 months. When the couple’s economic stimulus check came, the husband gave it to her.
One morning in late June, the wife announced to the husband that she was filing for divorce. She had used the economic stimulus check to hire an attorney and file the papers. She already had a new apartment lined up. The wife wanted the husband to give her half of everything that he had worked for. The husband didn’t take expensive vacations to Europe. The husband drove a beater car. The husband didn’t have the latest expensive cell phone. But that didn’t matter, and the husband was soon presented with the divorce decree. The husband was shocked to discover in the decree that the wife didn’t owe $30,000 to the credit card companies. In fact, she had over $50,000 in credit card debt.
Now the husband is forced to sell the house in a depressed market and he is very, very upset. No longer does he see the children every night. All of his plans for the future have been torn to shreds. He is a grown man who cries every night in an empty house, pining for the life he once had.
THE END
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