...gun safety with the ramifications of actually using or carrying a firearm. Not to mention a large part of the discussion at the beginning of the course involved discussion by each of the participants about
why they were taking the course and what it meant to them.
There was only one person in the 10-15 or so of us, a younger guy, who basically stated that he didn't feel safe and that he wanted to take this gun course, and own a gun eventually (I don't think he owned one at the time but rented from the range the course was being held at) was because he feared for his safety and he wanted to know
"Under what cirucmstances I could shoot someone who was threatening me."Now, the young guy wasn't crazy or anything. In fact, for a lot of younger males (IMO) this is not a particularly uncommon view of gun ownership, especially if they haven't used a gun before, or seen what it does to people or any of that. Because, in that mindset, the gun is going to absolutely solve the problem and they just need to know
how out of hand the problem is supposed to get before they are justified in absolutely, quickly using a gun to solve that problem.
Now, the instructor had been in the military and had been involved in security jobs (involving carrying a gun, usually concealed) for most of his career. He did not strike me as anything but a very responsible person, btw. Anyway, at that moment the instructor sort of gently stopped the class and he had a discussion with that young man (and all of us, but in a sort of peripheral sense) and I will now paraphrase what he said:
"You may look at using a gun in self defense like that but I will let you know something: Even if you are absolutely justified in using a gun as an absolute last resort in saving your life there is no 'easy' way out after you pull that trigger. Several years ago, I was in a situation where I was in danger of being killed outright by a person, who had a previous criminal history involving violence and, in an act of desperation and not being able to get away from this person during the attack, I shot them. There were many other witnesses who were present, saw the attack, and also believed they were about to be killed as well. However, once you pull that gun out, and especially once you pull that trigger, your life will be changed forever and you need to understand that. Even in situations where you are absolutely, beyond a shadow of a doubt, going to be killed or seriously injured by someone, drawing and firing your gun does not prevent a chunk of your life from being destroyed. It only, if you're lucky, prevents you from being killed. But that is just the beginning of the hell you have to go through because even if the police determine that you were absolutely justified in your use of that firearm to save your life, and maybe the lives of others, you are likely to be sued, as I was, by a family member of that attacker. Again, even if you are completely justified in that defensive shooting. Don't ever think it's an easy way out of anything. The only thing it does is prevent you from dying. The use of that firearm will change your life forever and leave a mark on your mind that will not wear off. You will be traumatized by it. Again, even if you are absolutely justified, you will go through hell, sometimes for years, before you can get on with your life again.
That's the best case scenario for the situation you describe."
It was much more nuanced than that, but you get the picture. And so did the young man, by the way. Even after that, everything he taught us was flavored by that moment early-on during the class. I felt he was an excellent instructor.
Years ago in my town, there was a young guy who owned a gun. A .22, and he had a concealed weapon license for it, if I recall. He was at a bar, minding his own business, and a group of drunk guys started giving him shit. He left the bar to get out of the situation and they followed him closely, insulting him. From what I recall he walked about 10 blocks like this trying to get away from them until he couldn't take it any longer and drew his gun in the belief that it would make them go away. It didn't. People have different reactions to things like that but it almost always makes the situation
worse not better. And it got worse. He eventually shot one of the harassers in the leg, not in an attempt to kill him but in some sense trying to stop the harassment.
They immediately called the cops and he's in prison now. Nobody I knew, just read the story in the paper and followed it for a bit.
The best thing a gun can ever do for you is prevent you from being killed. It doesn't prevent anything else.
PB