http://lezgetreal.com/2011/10/former-ex-gay-leader-john-smid-never-met-an-ex-gay-in-his-life/John Smid is the former leader of the ‘ex-gay’ ministry Love in Action. One of the things that LiA has always presented the idea that being gay is a choice, but Smid now says that this is not the case. Smid stepped down as the executive director of LiA in 2008. In a blog post, Smid went further than just quitting LiA, he has stated flat out that he has never met “man who experienced a change from homosexual to heterosexual.”
He also wrote “I used to define homosexuality or heterosexuality in terms describing one’s behavior. I thought it made sense and through the years often wrote articles and talked from that perspective. Today, I understand why the gay community had such an issue with my writings. My perspective denied so many facets of the homosexual experience. I minimized a person’s life to just their sexuality but homosexuality is much more than sex.”
He went on to say “I would consider myself homosexual and yet in a marriage with a woman. My sexual desires, attractions and lifelong struggle with common factors relating to homosexuality are pretty much all in the classification of homosexual. I tried my hardest to create heterosexuality in my life but this also created a lot of shame, a sense of failure and discouragement. Nothing I did seemed to change me into a heterosexual even though I was in a marriage that included heterosexual behavior.”
Smid is married to a woman that he loves very much, but he is adamant that he is still gay. He stated “One cannot repent of something that is unchangeable… I also want to reiterate here that the transformation for the vast majority of homosexuals will not include a change of sexual orientation. Actually I’ve never met a man who experienced a change from homosexual to heterosexual.”
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