ok -- i know straight men who enjoy being penetrated

[xchrom]

this may seem strange to post -- but i'm confused by some of the narrow mindedness about sexuality here.

these guys -- some are purely ''straight'' but want their women partners to penetrate them with toys and or fisting, some are bisexual who enjoy either of their partners, men or women doing the penetrating.

to me this is the very fluid nature of sexuality -- right on point.

i only bring this up re: the gannon thing -- and some hurtful attitudes about sexuality that i've read on this site in general.

you never know who you're talking to -- and what they are into.
they may be wonderful people -- but would you discard them if your football watching buddie loved it when his wife wore a strap on?

[Brian_Expat]

1. One thing that has hurt the gay movement. . .

. . . is the extreme on BOTH SIDES focusing excessively on sexual activities and defining themselves and others by those activities.

[renaissanceguy]

2. This gay man does not like anal sex.

In my experience, it's always been tedious, and guys have a hard time keeping it up because it takes so much time.

That's why I laugh when others ignorantly label me as a "butt sex lover." In fact, when I tell them the contrary, they're shocked to death.

[xchrom]

4. hey man -- i celebrate whatever you like.

i like a whole variety -- but i kinda want to expand our mental image of who likes to get poked.
LOTS of people do and they are not all gay.
and i celebrate it all.

if a straight buddy of mine digs it -- right on!

i want him to be healthy and have a healthy sex life -- and get all the lovin he wants and needs.

[booley]

3. it's called a prostate

the act is called pegging (thanks to Dan Savage)

And it serves to stimulate the prostate gland which both gay and straight men have. And many on both sides find enjoyable,

And while that's an interesting factoid, it has very little to nothing to do with gay rights other then clearly showing that the right has a lot fo hypocrasy (as if we didn't already know that) and that ultimatly we really don't want details on what our neighbors are doign in the dark anymore then we want them to have details on what we are doing.

As for Gannon, i think perhaps we are focusing too much on the gay thing. If he was heterosexual, would that make what he did all right then?

[xchrom]

5. no -- and i don't want to strictly focus on gannon.

but there has been the typical posts narrowing everyones definition of who is gay -- what they do or don't do in the sack.

sex is wonderful -- and straight sex -- like gay sex has a whole variety of worlds to explore and find pleasure in -- {i love dan savage} getting pegged is one of them.

this is also a little bit about freeing men in general to enjoy whatever it is they enjoy with out emaculating verbage attached to them.

[Chipper Chat]

6. For confirmation of this and how prevalent straight male to male

sex exists in American culture - just visit the AOL meet-up-for-sex chatrooms labeled "M4M," "Straight guys 4-queer," "Bi-sex m4m," etc: (not to mention the female sites-which are just as many if not MORE!)
These sites are not fake. If you can stand to read alot of the discourse - it is an eye-opener. I'm certain all these chatters are not strictly from San Francisco. Many are from small southern towns -many are even southern Baptists. It's time the fundies take sex off the front burner and be less-hysterical about it.
"Better latent than never" - Robin Williams discussing Gannon's clients on the Bill Maher show.

[freeplessinseattle]

7. Yep, I mean really, does liking oral sex make a person gay?

both gay and straight people enjoy oral pleasures.

also, many gay women enjoy penetration, does that mean they'd prefer a man? no, it just feels good, duh, our biology is the same!

[Guy Fawkes]

8. Two things...

the area around (and within) the anus is very sensitive. Some men (even straight men) find it arousing to be penetrated.

Second, homosexuality isn't all about sex. There aren't many (if any) long term relationships based on sexual pleasure. They are instead based on love. You can love someone without having sex with them- this idea gave rise to 'abstinance' until marriage.

[Moderator]

9. Locking.

This is a sex thread.

As per DU rules: "Do not post sexually explicit images or messages. If you wish to discuss topics of a sexual nature, please exercise an appropriate level of maturity and sensitivity"