I just got called a faggot

[RyanEb]

last night by a white trash boy who was very vertically challenged.


...God bless America

[slackmaster]

1. Vertically challenged as in very short, or very tall?

Either way the proper term is "person of size".

[RyanEb]

2. Very small

3 tables down from my tables in a Dennys...

[bluedawg12]

17. I am sorry you had to go through that - You just went out for a meal. WTF?

[panader0]

3. "white trash"? Now now, no name calling.

[wryter2000]

4. Welcome to DU

:hi:

Sorry that happened to you.

[proud patriot]

5. where is he ? I'll kick his White Trash ass

like his mother should have :mad:

[Candie Date]

6. He totally --

WANTED you.

[Deep13]

7. f****t: gay :: n****r: Black

Sorry someone with a Napoleon complex had reveal his personal insecurity to you. :-(

[RyanEb]

8. haha

Thanks you guys :fistbump:

[cactusfractal]

9. He probably just wanted to...

...go up on you.

Talk about a Grand Slam Breakfast!

[kstewart33]

10. Geez, what a drag.

Very, very short, stupid and uneducated guys have a lotta problems.

Sorry he invaded your life even if for a few seconds.

And welcome to DU!

[totodeinhere]

11. I don't like to use the term "white trash." However, most of us have been called that insidious "f"

word before. But times are changing. At least around here where I live I see that sort of thing a lot less than I used to. Of course, using that world is unacceptable no matter how infrequently it's done.

[tech3149]

12. I say wear it as a badge of honor

One of these days the fool will find out that a life long friend is gay and his head will explode.

[YOY]

13. Unless you're a burning piece of wood laugh it off

n.t.

[8 track mind]

14. or a cigarette in Brittian. n/t

[Fearless]

15. Ranges from poor taste to slur...

A movement to take back the word faggot (as well as fag, dyke, and more popularly queer) is well underway amongst the GLBTQ youth of this nation. I won't say that he meant it that way. Just saying. IF he did, then it was in poor taste. If he didn't then he's an asshole.

And welcome one and all,

:hi:

NTF

[Sub Atomic]

16. I've learned to embrace the term 'faggot'

because it takes away the power of the word itself.

'Faggot' isn't offensive to me anymore.


I get some pretty funny looks when I respond with 'Yes breeder?'

[AnAnonymousDemocrat]

24. I like to respond with:

"That's MR. FAGGOT to you." :)

[GOPNotForMe]

18. What a SHORTsighted creep.

More than anything you should try to feel sorry for him because he is probably an unhappy person at heart. No other reason for someone to behave like that. Get the ultimate revenge by being happy and shrugging it off (hard as it is).

[cboy4]

19. Tell us the story, or at least a synopsis fa*got

Oooops, I mean, bud. ;)

Not that it matters one way or another, but I'm curious what prompted it.

[davidinalameda]

20. it doesn't matter what prompted it

unless he was getting busy with someone's Moon over My Hammy

yes, I like Dennys

[cboy4]

21. Hmmm. I don't get it.

Is this a joke that's sailed over my noggin (it wouldn't be the first time), or do you actually feel it doesn't matter what prompted the outburst?

[davidinalameda]

25. it was a half joke

honestly, it doesn't matter what he was doing to cause the homophobes to start calling him names

why should someone react in such a visceral way as to start calling him names?

I don't get name calling and I never have; it's childish

[HillWilliam]

27. It IS childish because it's all they have left

They're wrong and deep down in their hearts they know it.

I never could see letting them get away with it, though. I am a man, not a doormat. I have dignity. It may be the last inch of who I am, but in that last inch, I am free. In that last inch, I am me.

[cboy4]

28. Things are learned from details. Was the victim walking

past a certain business, saying a certain thing, interacting a certain way?

None of this would be his fault either way, but of course details matter.

It's how we all put two and two together about behavior that purportedly prompts hate attacks and how we stay on guard to help avoid future strikes.

I think it's strange you would blow off details.

Is that what you would tell the cops? That it doesn't matter what apparently prompted the attack?

Of course it matters.


on edit......typo

[davidinalameda]

29. the only details I'd be concerned with are the ones surrounding an attack

what leads up to it is immaterial

I was at the gym the other night and they had Judge Judy on and there was a case about one kid attacking another

the kid who was attacked was doing stuff to annoy his attacker-poking him in the arm, etc-and the attacker put him in a choke hold, the kid passed out and hit the floor

she said that the attacker should have walked away and not retaliated; once he did, the situation shifted from him being poked or whatever to him putting someone in a choke hold until he passed out

if I'm being loud and obnoxious, that's my fault, but if someone comes up and attacks me for it, that's their fault

once the attack begins, the previous details don't matter because someone with some sense wouldn't attack someone based on those details

and I honestly believe that most of these pricks are looking for any reason to go off; it's a cliche to say that they're time bombs but there's truth in that

[bluedawg12]

22. Nothing can justify prompting it. It's a matter if understanding how f*cktards think

when they gay bait us in public. The old "know thy enemy" adage.

Going to any public place and being subject to slurs or hate language is loathsome. Someone should do a study of what it is that motivates these openly hostile punks.

Maybe they have, I just heard about a study of liberals and conservatives, mentioned on the news yesterday, turns out the conservatives rated higher on the fear index in their personalities. Makes sense, conservatives want to keep the status quo and change or something different scares them. Not us--them!

These haters are really nothing more than fear biters, like some dogs are. Except dogs can be trained to be better.

[HillWilliam]

23. They rarely try it my husbear and me

the second time. But we're redneck that way. We were brought up southern ("be polite" and "ignore it and they'll stop") and we found out in our own separate experiences that that's a bunch of horseshit.

Heh. About a year ago we pulled into a BBQ place in our pickup which has a rainbow stripe across the back window (along with a clergy sticker, an NRA sticker, an HRC = sticker and a Gander Mountain Gun Owners Club sticker). Still, some older yay-hoos who pulled in a couple of spaces away. The passenger got out and started to mouth off about tight-pants gawddam librul sissies buncha little pansy so-and-sos and on and frickin' on... until we stepped around the truck. The driver caught sight of us before the one who was mouthing off and started hastily shushing him. He saw the stickers that weren't "gay" plus we don't fit some stereotype I guess. I held the door and smiled as they entered the restaurant, said "How'd do" as if I hadn't heard. I looked them dead in the eye and shook my head very, very slightly. I could tell from the driver's terrified eyes he knew he had our gracious sufferance. Mr Mouths-off had the decency to appear slightly ashamed, even if only for getting busted.

Put 'em on notice and let 'em know you're not afraid. Never let them steal energy or soul from you.

Very few of us really do fit stereotypes, but most phobes don't realize it. What they don't know is that they work, live, go to school, whatever, beside LGBT people all the time. HillbillyBob and I make no bones about interacting as a couple all the time, don't care who thinks what. Like the posters up-thread said, if they try to steal energy from you by calling you a name, steal it back by owning it. I'd say piss on 'em, but it would be a waste of beer.

As for dogs, they're easy to train. I've been training them for years and constantly get compliments. HillbillyBob's assistant, Dora, doesn't just make friends wherever they go; she makes fans. Dogs are easy: lead with love. They'll follow. It's much easier to lead with love than to try and beat with fear from behind. Aversives never work in the long run. The subjects always rebel. It's no different with nations.

[davidinalameda]

26. I think you're right about the fear issue

I'm sure that most conservatives are fearful of change to the point of being pathological fearful

we saw that in the last election!

[bluedawg12]

30. The study was briefly mentioned in the news but they showed images

or pictures of various situations, scenes, or people to self identified liberals and conservatives, the liberals were less fearful, and you know, it does take more self confidence to face change, look at change, be open to it.

So much of the rw's blathering in their anti-gays rights propaganda is strictly about fearfulness, their fear, they are the ones projecting fear writ large.

Look at the language of the title of Fed. Legislation: Defense of Marriage. WTF???

Huh? Defense from gay marriage which has zero impact on their own married state or their lives.

It's double talk, coupled with focus group testing of buzz words.

I really wish we had a gay national leader on par with say a Barack Obama, who could have a national presence, platform and voice to rip these pigs a new ahole.

[HillWilliam]

31. Just checking back in

to offer more encouragement and to reiterate my message to be who you are. Don't let anyone try to take your "you" away from you.

Hugs from our house to yours.

[bluedawg12]

32. Ya' know this happens to women as well as men

I just wonder how people handle it, what the best practices or tactics are.

Walk away? Smile? Tell people off?

Public @ss-holishness is not infrequent and I don't quite understand what joy people receive from calling out another human being in an attempt to humiliate or shame them in public?

I guess it's a misguided effort at pressure - and clumsy at that- to make people conform.

[HillWilliam]

33. It most certainly does

and it seems to come from women as much as it does from men. No one seems to have a lock on @$$holishness, it seems, nor does anyone seem to be a greater or lesser target. We have a couple of friends still in Florida, a lesbian couple. Every once in a while someone will say something ugly in their presence and the tears will follow. These two dear ladies just aren't built to take abuse; they're the two gentlest souls I know. It gets me and mine so mad that anyone would be so vile to such gentle creatures. One of our few regrets about leaving Florida to come back home is having to leave them behind, because we feel protective of them.

Women will say ugly things "just out of earshot but meant to be heard" about HBB and me. Meh, we're big boys. Sometimes one of us will make a comment equally "just out of earshot but meant to be heard" about some folks not being raised right and shouldn't be allowed out in public until they learn proper Christian manners. (snicker) Yeah, for a bigole, slow-talking hillbilly, I can display a sequin once in a while and be a real beeyotch. (What else would be the fun of being gay???) I was raised by a bevy of sharp-tongued, smartassed suthren women, steel magnolias who can slip a honeysuckle-and-battery-acid-soaked dirk between ribs, then smile sweetly and say, "Y'all have naaaahce day, y'hyeah?!?" :evilgrin:

I may not subscribe to a particular religion, maybe I sorta subscribe to all of them a little, none of them very much. But one thing I firmly believe is that G'd, whoever SHe is, don't make no junk. Born again? No thanks, I was born perfectly fine the first time and I'm alright now.

[bluedawg12]

34. If I get stares, which does happen on occassion

I give it a chance to pass, but then, I do sneak a look back.

If the staring persists I give a big open smile. It can mean:

a.) "Hey, I must look like someone you know." That gives them a graceful out.

Or

b.) "You staring at something in particular and have something you want to say?" That let's them know they do not intimidate me with their staring and I am onto them.

Most bullies are cowards.

Depending on how they want to play it out is how it concludes. Either way, people usually just turn away and return to minding their own business.

Rarely, someone keeps staring, then, depending upon circumstances and situational awareness, how many am I dealing with, how big are they, I might get a tad angry and ask, "What the f*ck are you staring at @ss hole? Take a picture, it lasts longer." But, that's pretty rare over the years that I have had to do that. Mostly because I have more to loose in life then the douche trying to annoy me and I don't need a brawl to ruin my day - not that in my day I backed down. :evilgrin: It's just that with time, one learns to be a little smarter.

The bottom line is that I am totally certain that I wouldn't want to be them, live their life nor would I want to look like them. It's not like I got Brad and Angelina look alikes trying to be judgemental about me, sh*t, it's always some repug looking nancy reagan bouffant babe stuck in a 1980's look, or some drunk trash bag.

Also, another thing to do, in a public place like a restaurant, club or casino is simply go to management and complain that someone is harrasing me and is creating a hostile environment in their place of business and let them handle it.

I don't have all of the answers, just saying it happens to many of us...too many of us...and because of mindless hate crimes it is important to think about this stuff. Sometimes words are just words, sometimes it's a prelude to whack job working themselves into violence.

Oh yeah, I have also perfected my patented "bluedawg dirty look," that's the prenuclear option between my winning smile and going ballistic. :evilgrin:


I just wish it were a perfect world and none of us would ever have to be subjected to attempts at public humiliation or worse.

[HillWilliam]

35. Nehh, I don't get angry any more

I'm perversely suthren and can usually outdance them with a quip if it gets that far. They're just not going to steal energy from me, that's all.

Before my beloved came along, I'd just take it and move along. You've got to know HillbillyBob. If you saw him on the street, he's the last person you'd expect to be gay, but he's the most unapologetically "out" human being I've ever met. He figures if you've got balls enough to ask him flat-out, he's got balls enough to look you in the eye and answer you flat-out. (More than a few women have been bitterly disappointed -- nah, nah! I got there first!) (This guy used to walk 2 blocks from our office to our PO box and come back with a pocket full of numbers from both genders which he'd plop in the trash can

I knew if I was going to live with this man, I'd have to be his equal in courage. I haven't looked back an instant and haven't regretted it a microsecond. He isn't just the very love of my life, he's my best friend and most trusted ally. I could tell you stories of what's tried to break us apart, but I'll say this: everything that ever conspired to break us apart has only made us stronger. We're certainly not going to take some fluff from some smartass who wants to make a snide comment in public. When they've been through a tenth of what we've been through, then maybe they could begin to open their mouths. But they haven't.

It's like I have often said to HBB: They don't put a bean in my pot, a thread on my back, not a dime toward our mortgage or electric bill. They don't pay my taxes, nor do they drive me to work and back. We grow a lot of our own food, we mind our business, we help our neighbors. If anything, they owe me for contributing toward their baby-bounty-welfare tax breaks that I can't enjoy and of which I will never have the benefit. (They DO NOT like hearing that.) If their nose gets out of joint, phucque 'em.

One thing I learned from my Jesuit-priest ex (G'd rest him): always argue your case from the standpoint of possessing absolute truth and having the confidence that you are right going in. That's 99% of winning any battle, especially when you are right and do possess absolute truth. If you've ever debated with a Jebbie, you know what I'm talking about ;)

[bluedawg12]

36. ...

Wise words.

:applause:

Rock on!

[DonEBrook]

37. I'd have bought him a cup of coffee

and dumped it in his lap.

Not kidding.

[sui generis]

38. you should have just picked him up,

put him in your pocket and accidentally forgot to check before doing the wash.

Was he cute trash or just trash trash? Sometimes they're compensating - but you coulda just said,
don't need no short short little bitty itty bitty short *dick motherfucker* short. Run along now and find the rest of your pygmy tribe before you are too old to breed.