Under the program, Jacob went back home on probation, and he and his family were assigned a counselor, Eddy Lee, who visited the two-bedroom Bronx apartment that the teenager shares with his mother, Michelle Rivera, her husband, a younger brother and other relatives.
Within weeks, the situation improved as Mr. Lee provided intensive counseling to the family, with the aim of defusing what had become an increasingly angry relationship between Jacob and his mother. Instead of screaming at Jacob when he refused to comply with her curfew, Ms. Rivera called Mr. Lee. Over time, Mr. Lee persuaded her to agree to be less strict if her son would agree to be more forthcoming about his whereabouts, and more responsible.
Soon Jacob started meeting curfew and began passing his court-ordered drug tests and staying in school. If he continues on this course, he will end his probation in July, Mr. Lee said.
To help, on a few occasions, when communications between parent and child are strained, usually a son, I have been the 'counselor' (sounding board) for parent and child. It helped to diffuse toxic relationships created where the parent is simply desperate and want to lock the child in the basement to protect them from harm.
Studies have repeatedly shown that the current juvenile justice system is more likely to return 'homegrown terrorist' back to society because they only serve to punish. There are no efforts to fund successful prevention and aftercare programs but we seek positive results.
Sometimes, all it takes is a third party to help bridge communications. The court and juvenile justice system seem to be on the right path by going into the home and offering help.