Need some direction.

[BonnieJW]

Please PM me if you have any links to information.

My husband and I are in our early 60's. His mother is 85, living alone in Florida, suffers from heart problems and dementia. The dementia is getting worse and she has been wandering the neighborhood at night. We live in Virginia and have a care giver who goes to MIL's house every day to check on her, administer meds, take her anywhere she needs to go. We can't get MIL to sell her house and move to a nursing home. Even if she did, her funds would run out after about a year. What happens then? We do not have money to keep her in a home. We had heard that once a person's assets run out, Medicaid picks up the tab, but then we were also told that none of the nursing homes in Florida accepts Medicaid as payment. Would they put her out?

Are there any resources out there to help people like my MIL?

[panader0]

1. When my father's dementia became too much for me to handle

I had a neurologist certify him as having the disease. Then I was able to legally take over his affairs, monetarily. His retirement pay from the Air Force paid for a home (I had a 14 month old and twins babies at the time). To this day, I wish I could have taken care of him at home. My advice; get legal control over you MIL's affairs. Do it sooner than later, when you won't know what assets she may have. It's a rough row to hoe. Good luck, and think, you will always remember what you did/didn't do during this.
On edit: Here's a heart.

[Green Mountain Dem]

2. Where in Florida is she...

I have friends there and one is facing similar situation. I could contact them and see what they have come up with for a solution.

[Peregrine Took]

3. In Illinois, my MIl sold her house and used that money to pay her expensess

in a local Catholic nursing home.

After her money ran out they put her on Medicaid until she died (about 5 years later.)