I’ve had three dreams now featuring a deceased classmate, within about a month.

[raccoon]

This classmate died in car accident in the 1980’s. We were never particularly close.

What could it mean?

[Ozymanithrax]

1. You have reached the age where you are conscious of your own mortality...

It happened to me after my 50th birthday.

[CaliforniaPeggy]

2. I would think that you're worried about the same thing.

I believe, that as we get older, death preoccupies us more...

My 2 cents...

[Gman]

3. Something about the death back then bugged you

and it's unresolved now. It's just now surfacing. Think about how you felt when you heard about it, when you heard the details, if any. Think about how often over the years you ever thought about it. What was it that bugged you about the death? Or are you eating pepperoni pizza before you go to bed?

[raccoon]

5. I never knew the details about his death. Wish now I had asked my mother for details.

Funny, over the years I don't remember EVER thinking about it after I'd first heard the news.

Nope, no pizza at night for me. I had Chinese last night, though. :-)

[Birthmark]

4. It means...

...cut down on the spicy food at dinner.

[rurallib]

8. or lay off the scotch and drink wine or smoke a doobie.

[Hekate]

6. I don't know, but sometimes you can gain insight by writing the dreams down

What emotion did you feel during the dream? What emotion came up when you wrote it down? What kind of person was this classmate? What is s/he doing in the dream? Is s/he from a time in your life when you were young and optimistic? What is happening now in your life?

Sometimes I have gained a flash of insight by relating the dream to another person, not so much from what they say, but from suddenly choking up with an emotion I didn't actually feel (or remember feeling) during the dream itself.

My late MIL used to be scared of dreams featuring family members who had passed on, because she thought it foretold her own death. Her son (my husband) periodically dreams of her, but he rather likes the feeling of contact..

I have dreamed occasionally of someone out of the far past, but they seemed to be more of a stand-in for whatever my subconscious was trying to tell me than representing the actual person. My grandma used to have dreams about her adult kids that were not so much prescient as telling her things about them that they were not telling her themselves -- that my aunt's marriage was in deep trouble because her husband was abusing her, for instance.

What do you think? Three times in a month is quite the tap-tapping at the door of your mind.

Hekate

[raccoon]

7. I often write my dreams down, and I agree, it helps you gain insight.

"I have dreamed occasionally of someone out of the far past, but they seemed to be more of a stand-in for whatever my subconscious was trying to tell me than representing the actual person."

I think it's that way with this person. Each time, the setting is in the town where I grew up (surprise, surprise).

This guy was nice enough, but the kind of person you didn't notice much.

How did I feel--in the 3rd dream, apprehensive.

"Three times in a month is quite the tap-tapping at the door of your mind. " Yes!

I could almost think this foretells my own death, but I don't think so. I mean, of course, I'm going to die one of these days.

I think it MIGHT be saying, make the most of the time I have left.