Fascinating Womanhood

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"Fascinating Womanhood" by Helen B. Andelin 1963
I found this book randomly at a local Mormon thrift store tonight.

"The Lord told woman that man was to RULE OVER HER. And the Apostle Paul said REVERENCE YOUR HUSBANDS. Doesn't this imply that she should give him the homage due a king? And doesn't that make him No. 1?"


ADMIRATION:
The More Common Manly Chararacteristics.
1. The hours he spends at work to provide you with the necessities
2. His strength in: mowing the lawn, etc.
3. The manner in which he rules over you and his children
4. His beard, his mustache (women don't have them - they are strictly masculine)
5. Skill in repairing a motor
6. His body structure
7. His sex response
8. His stubbornness (common term for determination)
9. His heavy gait
10. The masculine clothes he wears (tell him that you admire manly clothes)
11. His deep pitched voice
12. His heavy jaw, or large shoulders
13. His masculine hands --- their size --- their strength.
14 His dependability in his work, other manly responsibilities.

SIX RULES FOR MAKING HIM FEEL LIKE THE SUPERIOR MALE
1. Reverence his position as leader, protector, and provider, and defend his authority before his children.
2. Admire his superior strength and masculine ability, and tell him that you do.
3. Do Not Excel him in anything which requires masculine strength or ability.
4. Be dependent. Demonstrate your inferiority if you are called upon to take masculine responsibility.
5. Have a girlish trust in him.Never doubt his ability to take care of you, to provide for you, and guide you safely through life.
6. Be Feminine. Whem you appear as a woman he will feel like a man.

HAVE A GIRLISH TRUST IN HIM p.85
YOU MUST MAKE HIM FEEL SUPERIOR AS THE LEADER p.84
YOU MUST MAKE HIM FEEL SUPERIOR AS YOUR LEADER p.85
WOMEN HAVE BECOME CAPABLE which makes MANLY PROTECTION UNNECESSARY p.92

When He Mistreats You:
If your husband is at times dishonest, unkind, weak, or shows lack of character you may wonder just how to react. If you are compellled to believe it, indicate that you know it is contrary to his true nature, and was only the result of carelessness or thoughtlessness. YOU MUST BE IMMENSLELY DISAPPOINTED AT HIS TEMPORARY LAPSE, BUT YOUR FAITH IN HIS BETTER SIDE MUST BE UNSHAKEN.


How to Arouse Chivalry
1 By making him feel superior as your protector. Admire his superior strength and abitilty and the protective qualities.
2 By acquiring the qualitiy of of femiminity. It will be taught in chapter 14.
Assignment: Tell him; "I am glad that I have a man to protect me. I think it would be difficult to go through this life without you"

WOMEN HAVE BECOME CAPABLE which makes MANLY PROTECTION UNNECESSARY.

Women are self righteous. Why do women try to change men? Because they have a self righteous attitude. They feel that they put forth more effort into doing what is right, try more diligently to make to marriage successful, are more active in church, and are better persons than their husbands. They look down on men, and therefore feel that the men, not themselves, need to improve."

The only statement in this entire book that I found to be true: YOU MUST ACCEPT A MAN AT FACE VALUE, OR YOU CANNOT WIN HIS CELESTIAL LOVE. But then it goes into "What does Face Value Mean?" blabberty yada yada blab.

"Acceptance does not mean tolerance----that we realize he has serious faults, but we will "put up with them". Nor does it mean dishonesty-- DO NOT TRY TO CHANGE HIM!"

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1. as most menapausal women would tell you

the crack about mustaches being only things men have :rofl:

I can't believe this drivel. I have no problem accepting the person for who he or she is--that's only reasonable, because you can't change anyone else (sometimes it is hard enough to change yourself!). But there is no way in HELL I will change myself just to make someone else feel good. That reminds me of the meme I heard again and again growing up--"Boys don't like smart girls. Play dumb if you want to catch a man!"

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4. LOL, I could go on and on from this book.

" He cannnot bear to have his masculinity BELITTLED, RIDICULED, OR TREATED WITH INDIFFERENCE.
Let us again review these masculine traits:
1. Physically: It is his strength, his body stucture, and his sexual abilities
2. Spiritually: It is his courage, honor, determination, and ideals.
3. Mentally: It is his cleverness, intellectual gifts, achievements, leadership, skills.

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2. It's amazing how fraglie and vulnerable the MAN is seen here. The woman has to

keep propping up his manliness. Has he no inner strength of his own?

What a world-view.

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3. Exactly. I kept wondering that myself.

I actually read that to my boyfriend but he wouldn't hear it, he said that had no relevance to his life, and I think he's right.

Can you imagine the sad relationship where there this preposterous book would be taken seriously?! I mean, I know that at least one couple has suffered through this. I have seen all the red pen underlinings.

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6. This is mild compared to the Irish Catholic stuff I was brought up on

One of the things little girls get taught from infancy is that if they are an "occasion of sin" for some man, they are more guilty than he is and will be condemned to the lake of fire the nuns were so great at describing.

Being an "occasion of sin" could be something like showing too much arm on a hot summer day, arousing the poor hapless male to have lustful thoughts. The six year old girl might be completely unaware of her complicity in his sin of mental lust, something that seemed especially unfair.

Men, of course, were seen as mere tools, helpless against the constant barrage of sin from base females.

And they wonder why I left.

Men have no idea what weaklings they're coming across as in religious teaching, incapable of controlling themselves and needing to have their fragile egos puffed up at all times by women in unpaid servitude.

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7. Men as "tools"

Is that of Irish origin? I always wondered where that came from.

Men portrayed as weaklings: they just want to be spoiled and not feel guilty about it. That's my perspective.

Most men are physically stronger than most females, and they know it. And they let women know it, too. Yet, they can be so weakened when a woman goes to work (says so in the book).

These religiously influenced teachings just foster hatred of women. A random dude has some problems in his life, he remembers the religious teachings from his upbringing, and he blames it all on women. Maybe some women he blames more than others, like his mom, or an elementary school teacher, or his ex-wife. He ends up holding a grudge against all women. Have we heard this before?

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11. Yep. It's Interesting

And when I moved to the buckle of the bible belt where all this is taken seriously, I noticed how many of the personals from M4W included the phrase, "NO LIARS!"

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5. Chivalry: a man's inclination to protect a woman from every man but himself. n/t

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8. "feminism is evil" - did this muck come from here? (WARNING - extremely disgusting content at link)

http://www.jesus-is-savior.com/Evils%20in%20America/Feminism/feminism_is_evil.htm

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9. self edit

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10. i read a lot of that site

and let's just say that many of my eternal questions were answered.

yes, there are many people out there who think it would be just great if women would just shut up and serve them.