'Bad Mother's' Day

[MountainLaurel]

This looks like an interesting book. I may have to check it out.

BERKELEY, Calif. -- The morning after Ayelet Waldman's infamous essay was published, she got a call from a friend who warned: Don't watch "The View."

Waldman never watched the ABC chatfest anyway. But so what? Why shouldn't she watch it now?

"Because Star Jones is ripping you to shreds," came the explanation.

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And all because she'd admitted -- no, asserted! publicly! in the New York Times! -- that there was someone more important in her life than her four beloved kids.

"If a good mother is one who loves her child more than anyone else in the world, I am not a good mother," Waldman wrote in a March 27, 2005, Modern Love column. "I am in fact a bad mother. I love my husband more than I love my children."

http://www.washingtonpost.com/wp-dyn/content/article/2009/05/04/AR2009050403451.html

[willing dwarf]

1. Doesn't everybody gt tired of scrutinzing the meaning of motherhood?

Seems like every mother's day we need to go through a whole rigmarole of examination about how mother's mother, how we were mothered, how we mother, how we live if we haven't mothered etc etc etc. I think it would be good to assume most people are doing the best they can, given the cirmstances. Why couldn't that become our cultural take on motherhood ... "she did as well as she could under the circumstances."