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Tsiyu Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Feb-07-09 03:26 AM
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Gabe led an interesting life. In his younger days he followed the Grateful Dead around. In his latter days, he had his sous chef drive him to a nearby big city for drugs and told her to drop him off and drive around the block.

When she arrived back where she'd left him, he was being chased by two guys with huge sticks. She managed to scare them into thinking she was going to run them over, while Gabe jumped in the car and they sped off.

"Shit!" he said. "I should have known. They did that to me last time!"

This story was told to me in the backseat of a car, puffing one in his honor, driving to his funeral with that sous chef.

*************************************

If you've lived an interesting life, have you noticed that some people tend to be very jealous of you? I've noticed a simmering hostility from many people who've lived relatively "normal" lives, as if no one else should be having any fun or experiences.

They don't come out and say they don't believe you, but you know that their own dull choices have made them completely unable to believe that any other human could possibly do anything but clock in nine to five Monday thru Friday and come home and watch American Idol or cruise the internet.

Makes me sad for those types. I love to hear about the adventures others have had. Perhaps that's a facet of my aging, but no, I've always been that way. I loved Gabe's stories as much as I still love hearing stories about him.


Speaking of interesting lives, I recently finished reading Anthony Bordain's Kitchen Confidential- loaned to me by a grill chef -
which suits since many of Bordain's descriptions are dead accurate when it comes to the kitchen and its trash talk, the fucked-up hands (my hands and arms bear too many knife and burn scars to count - I always envy women with pretty hands), the hiding of side towels (we call them rags) so you have enough to last the week without any other cook finding your stash, the drugs, the alcohol, the wailing and gnashing of teeth when the books are full and so are the saute pans.

It suits because today is the one year anniversary of Gabe's passing. Without his confidence in me there are so many experiences I wouldn't have had as a line cook/garde manger/pastry chef.

Before he invited me to cook for him, I had managed two camp kitchens, been head baker at a one hundred-year-old bakery, run a pub for a year and been a kitchen supervisor at a private club. But I knew next to nothing about fine dining.

Because of him I have a whole extra kitchen vocabulary. Bourdain's book was almost shocking to me as I realized that they use the same terms in New York City as they used in our humble cafe here in hillbilly land. Sizzle pans, "Fire!" "How many all day?" "What's the temps on those filets again?" But Gabe was from Long Island - "Strong Island," he called it, with a hard G - so he carried those terms with him to Dixie and taught a motley crew of mountain yahoos what they meant.

All my friends in this close-knit place have been remembering Gabe this week. Almost all of them, at one time or another, either worked for him or partied with him.

The stories are legion. I've told one here (and bitched about him way back when - in PMs to some in this very DU group) but my favorite memory of Chef (we addressed him in the traditional manner) was what he did for me the night Kerry lost in 2004.

I was not working for him then, but one of my sons was his garde manger. Chef was a liberal and we discussed politics often. He loathed Bush and was hoping - as we all were - that Kerry would take the election.

When I realized I had been fooled, after believing at first that Kerry had won, I was despondent. It was one of the worst moments in my more recent past. I remember feeling so angry, so hopeless and so frightened for my country.

And Gabe knew that I would be that way. He had a full house at the restaurant so I did not see him that evening. But when my son came in late that night after closing with him, he dropped a small plastic package on the table.

"It's from Chef," he said. "He said he knows you're going to need this. Out of all the people he knows, he said he had to give this to you and you have to smoke it now, no ifs ands or buts. He says he hopes you feel better." My son grinned at me.

Let's just say it tasted very strongly of blueberries and after a bowl I did not even know my name. Without it, I doubt I would have made it through the night without getting in my car, rolling down the windows and screaming that the South sucked and America sucked and "You're all stupid!"

He knew that about me. He probably saved me a trip to jail.

Thanks, Chef.

You taught me about food and you taught me about forgiveness. You were a true friend. I'm glad I was part of your very interesting life and that you were part of mine.

RIP, man.








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Tangerine LaBamba Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Feb-07-09 11:47 AM
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1. You're lucky
That's great good luck, to have known someone like Gabe. Chef. It's your role now, to carry on what he started - and with the telling of this story, you're on your way. Keep telling people about him, and he'll live forever. That's what stories are for, what they do.

I'm sorry you lost your friend, but I'm glad you had him.

Thank you, and here's one for Gabe:

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Tsiyu Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Feb-07-09 12:25 PM
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2. Thanks, Tangerine!
Edited on Sat Feb-07-09 12:27 PM by Tsiyu

i recognize that pic ;)

You know, I was thinking about you when I was writing the part about interesting lives and people's hostility.

You have some of the most interesting stories on DU. Lots of younger (and boring older) posters seem to resent that. But I admire you.

I'm lucky to have a huge network of friends of every age and color here on the Mountain, and the kids love to hear about the things I've done and they love to tell me their stories because they know I won't judge them.

The dear lawyer I work for ended up with Gabe's rainstick (Gabe loved music.) He was going to give it to me -reluctantly - because he knows how much I loved Chef. Since the dear counselor holds these awesome monthly Porch Party Jams and tons of musicians show up, I told him to keep it at his place. Then Chef is jamming with us in some small way!

Have a great weekend TL :hug:


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Suich Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Feb-07-09 08:55 PM
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3. What a terrific tribue to Chef, Tsiyu!
Thanks for posting it!!!

:applause: :applause: :applause:
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Tsiyu Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Feb-07-09 11:33 PM
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5. And thank you for being a dear and reading it!


People are as rare as gems, and when they come into our lives we often fail to recognize that while we can.

And then they are gone... :cry:

Thank you again :hug:
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Tangerine LaBamba Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Feb-07-09 09:57 PM
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4. Oh, WHAT A PLACE!!!!
http://www.pearlscafe.net/index.htm

Does it get any better than Pearl's?

I think not.

:hi:
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Tsiyu Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Feb-07-09 11:46 PM
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6. You sneak!!!!!




And BTW, I laughed out loud reading this from Bourdain's book last night (From an interview with Daniel Halpern):


He had asked him what pissed him off about the current food scene, and then this as follow up:

DH: I could restate the question, but let's move on. Prepackaged food?

AB: I have a fierce passion, when stoned, for unnaturally orange macaroni and cheese. Kraft. Velveeta.



Which made me think of you, which made me write this tribute.

Ooga Booga smooga wooga


:bounce:







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Tangerine LaBamba Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Feb-08-09 12:58 AM
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9. Ever see the movie "The Big Bus"?
One of the funniest movies ever - but your quote, thank you very much, makes me feel like the driver, Dan Torrance - see what I'm talking about here: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Aqdcsy4hSyM

One lousy box of Kraft Macaroni and Cheese....................

But, speaking of menus, I wonder if you could possibly part with the recipe for "Scallion Potato Cakes"? Please? Pretty please?

They sound like something I could just go all face-down in, like a peach pie after some herb, if you know what I mean, and I know you know what I mean.

Gorgeous menu, really.

:toast:

:hug:
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Tsiyu Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Feb-08-09 01:50 AM
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10. Hope nobody's watching pssst


IIRC ( and I think I mixed them up a few times) it was our mashed potatoes (yukon gold) which are prepared with lots of butter and sour cream, salt and white pepper and heavy cream if needed.)

Take some mashed potatoes, I think panko was added, along with fresh thyme and minced scallions. (I can't remember exactly because they added those later and I wasn't in the kitchen proper but in my own peaceful pastry cheffin locale. I mixed em up but on the fly when they were crazy in the kitchen) I'll ask around. Maybe added an egg in there, too. Mash it all up and fry, Baby!

I've teased the owner about having a cooking show. She mentioned a cookbook. So I may just be writing that when she opens again, scaling down the huge recipes for regular folk.

And with dialup youtube doesn't happen I'm afraid. I hate that! But I will be at my daughter's college library Monday and I will watch and get back to you.

I miss Charleston Sauce and trout and my own mousse (which they had to take off the menu after I left, lol. No one else can make mousse like me cuz I kept making it til i got it exactly right Ha!)

God I hope nobody up here reads this or I will be razzed forever.

But I will ask around about those cakes for you dahlin

Now I should be mopping mu kitchen floor but me is going to bed.

See you beautiful people tomorrow - after I do some writing of course. ;)



G'night
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Tangerine LaBamba Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Feb-08-09 06:04 PM
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11. Oh, thank you!
You've given me enough to go on, so don't trouble yourself to get specifics. I would bet that you've nailed it, and when I try them, if they don't work out, I can just blame you. See how nicely that goes?

Thank you for taking the time. I know you're busy, what with - what? - writing?

And how come you're sitting here, reading this, and not - what? - writing?

Thanks a million....................
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Warpy Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Feb-07-09 11:57 PM
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7. The wild men and crazy women are all the ones I remember
with the most affection. The buttoned down types have all faded into an amorphous grey mass of power suits, liberal arts degrees, and the corporate ladder.

I remember the 80s all too well, when everybody in every restaurant on Cape Cod from the cashier to the wait staff to the kitchen staff would be running at top speed, sniffling frequently.

That was also the period when the food and service were both tip top, thus proving another drug war bromide a lie.

RIP, chef. I never knew you but I knew your brothers and sisters in mild insanity. In fact, I probably joined you in it more than once.
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Tsiyu Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Feb-08-09 12:13 AM
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8. Aw, Warpy, how true


So you know that wild life, too. And you are so right. There's nothing wrong with living a normal, sedate life. Some very wonderful people I know live those lives.

But there's also nothing wrong with living large, loud and luxurious either.

Chef knew he was gonna die. We all knew it. I bitched him out one night and he said "If I do everything right I might live another five years. Fuck that."

So he spent his last months having a blast, pissing us all off and having some final adventures.

He got to see his Giants win (there's still a Giant's sticker on the sorbet freezer.)

Thanks for helping me remember him :hug:


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