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SwampG8r Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Oct-25-10 12:38 AM
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passion gone
its gone
i have lost my faith and my heart breaks
for 35 years +/- i have been working with food
i romanced my future wife before shifts after midnight in a bakery/coffee shop
washing dishes and working with the baker
he trained me because he knew the shop was too small to pay him what he cost but that the people owning it were honest caring people
sure enough he soon had a better paying job and i was the baker
the chain place opened up down the street with a drive in window
we ran a donut shop and cafe for breakfast and lunch
one day the breakfast cook came in and was too drunk to work
so i learned how to work breakfast and lunch grill
eventually the chain place put the boss under
he was smart and got out before he got cleaned out
by then i had convinvced all i was a serious although young man and i was not going to leave the aforementioned future wife alone
she had convinced herself of my sincerity in the importance of her dreams and we were wed
i got another gig and was doing early morning at a full service place on the beach and soon i was day shift manager
then a move to a sister place on the water as kitchen manager
everything ends and soon i was in texas working for red lobster
young pro cooks listen to me go darden great benefits and they pay pretty fairly just show up dont bitch and finish clean
one day i get stopped on my way out by a long johns silver rep
we need a texas setup crew big money lots of travel 2 weeks in a town to train a LJS crew and managers
nice gig for a while but florida is my heart and my home
so we returned and stopped moving long enough to fullfil dreams
during this time i cooked for presidents,senators,governors,ditchdiggers,pimps and comedians
i watched david spade try to get roast beef by dancing
i fed bill graham lawton chiles and gov martines in one seating once
soon my hometown called me so with degrees and dreams we again rolled homeward
we found our dream house in our hometown and put in a pool
sent the kids off to school because we had started the florida prepay system at birth for each
young parents day one is the day to start paying for college the rates only go up
i worked a place on the river from the first day until a hurrican destroyed it
then i got the job i have now
great chef full of ideas i learned so much in 5 years it was like a masters program in cooking from scratch
then some of the shortcuts appeared and more and more
now chef has no fire and he is recycling himself
specials 2 or 3 nights in a row
quality is down sales are down and we all have to do more with less
i am used to it because its a seasonal business
but without the creative force of chef in the lead i am finding myself joining others in their malaise
i dont clean as thouroughly i dont taste every sauce i find it hard to care more than those who i look to for leadership
and i feel old now
i used to be invigorated by a service and couldnt slow myself for hours after
now i just want to be done

i dont expect any responses but it felt good to drop this
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grasswire Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Oct-25-10 12:53 AM
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1. I hear you
So much of restaurant cooking these days is prepared frozen stuff. There's more profit in that for a restaurant than paying a chef to really cook. And your work is so very hard, physically. Burn out is destined to hit sooner or later.

But isn't it the same for many high-intensity jobs? Nurses. Teachers. Ministers. They all hit patches of burn-out.

I want to copy something here from a blog -- something written by a family member of mine who was an exec chef for twenty years. I hope it will make you proud.

.................................

Leah Chase stood in the middle of her restaurant in the Ninth Ward of New Orleans, pounded her fist into her palm and flatly stated “By God, I’m going to reopen.” Six months after Hurricane Katrina devastated New Orleans, fifteen feet from this life-long restaurateur, I watched her eyes, full of fire, grit and bull-dog determination.

Leah Chase apparently never ran her restaurant to get rich. When I met her that early spring, she was aged, standing in the utter ruins of a neighborhood with rich history – a history full of music, food and long relationships. As we stood in the chaos of a blown-out restaurant, jumbles of electrical wires and naked framing abundant, the smell of mold and decay rampant six months after destruction, Leah told us stories of the restaurant.

Two of these stories illustrate clearly a thesis I propose to you. The first is from the civil rights era in the sixties. Leah and her restaurant were much younger then and as we stood there in her bombed out establishment (with no federal or state relief in sight), Leah related how she cooked for and served Martin Luther King several times a week, often joining his table for the post-dinner strategy sessions. MLK built community. He was one of those rare ministers that crossed theological divisions to build community in a tour de force display of will. Leah, with her abilities in food and service, helped sustain that effort, and through that work, built local community in Lower Ninth Ward that crossed theological, and political, divides across five decades.

Her next story is more poignant. Within 72 hours of Katrina lashing the Lower Ninth Ward in demolition furies, Leah and a few of her crew gathered at the restaurant. Within a week, Leah and some of her crew were making food for those residents of Lower Ninth Ward that had stayed behind. By the end of the first week, people were gathering at Leah’s restaurant, pinning notes to the beams, searching for those they knew; striving to come together in community again. Leah’s restaurant became the gathering place in Lower Ninth Ward to find your neighbors. Her restaurant was the focal point of rebuilding in tragedy; so much more effective than safety agencies, churches or other entities.

My thesis is this. Restaurateurs and Chefs have more legitimate right to be called “community builders” than ministers, politicians or nonprofits do. In this industry, our establishments are places where people gather; coming together across theological and political fences to celebrate each other’s joys and achievements, mourn each other’s losses and provide comfort and companionship, laugh with friends and family, assist and counsel peers. Our restaurants, from the coffee shop to the neighborhood bar to the casual fast-food to the best dining spots in the world, embody this age-less tenet of our business. We are humanity’s sacred gathering spot.

Since the age of hunters and gatherers, humanity has gathered around the fire. We are the only specie that has gathered around fire and used it to prepare food. Each time humans have done this, we have reinforced the basic building block of community – sharing with each other; sharing sustenance, not only in meal, but also in gathering together.

Today, in this society, it still occurs. It happens every day in our one million plus restaurant locations in the USA. Our specie still gathers and communes with each other in joy and compassion. While often the fire is tucked away in the back of the house – it remains the gathering place. I think as hosts, we often forget this, in the daily struggle with staffing, equipment, suppliers, et al.

How much more village can restaurateurs and chefs build by keeping their right as community builders closer to the chest? How much deeper connections can we assist in forging by recognizing each table as a unique and singular moment of opportunity to strengthen the bonds of community and humanity? And to be frank, wouldn’t a restaurant that pays attention to this enjoy the benefits of greater sustainability?


Three years after standing with Billy Shore, Mary Sue Milliken, Floyd Cardoz, Ron Ruggles and others on that Share Our Strength expedition to Katrina-devastated New Orleans, Leah re-opened her restaurant. I’m humbled that I was able to meet her. I hope my daughters have 1/100th of her spirit and determination in their lives and that they too – are community builders, no matter what their profession.

As always, I welcome your feedback, critique and observations.

Jeffrey J Kingman, CEO ~ Chalkboarder

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Warpy Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Oct-25-10 01:38 PM
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2. Burnout + economic disaster = doubleplus ungood
My guess is that you'll just continue to go through the motions until the economy picks up enough for you to get a non cooking job for a while, either design, education, or sales. After a couple of years of that, you'll be itching to get back into a kitchen. It's like that once it's in your blood.
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GoneOffShore Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Oct-26-10 08:27 PM
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3. Not sure what to say here, but....
I'm a good home cook who isn't intimidated to cook for chefs.

I'll cook for anyone who wants to sit at my table.

The passion for food and the community it engenders is what keeps me doing it.

I worked front of the house for 15 years and ended up hating restaurants, but still loving food and cooking.

I would say to you that as you obviously still love what you do: persevere, inspire, cheerlead, maybe even take the lead a little without overstepping the bounds. Come into the kitchen with some new ideas.

You can turn it around.
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tigereye Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Oct-31-10 08:30 PM
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4. maybe it's time to try something else for a while -
until you replenish yourself. I understand, since I feel similarly about my profession after about 25 years... I really would like to do something else, there is just too much bureaucratic crap and I am tired of the negativity.


I hope you can enjoy some replenishment time! :hug:
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