Is it astrological? Or is it just me?

[MorningGlow]

One of the things I know I have to change about my life is to become more social IRL. I've been getting that message for some time now, but I wasn't quite sure how to go about it without appearing strange (as in desperate and stalkerish) to others, if you know what I mean. F'r instance, during an e-mail exchange with another mother about Cub Scout stuff, I suggested that she and I get together with our kids during vacation, and she never responded with another e-mail (about that or anything else). Okayfine--I didn't press the issue. I decided to let things develop more organically with whoever wants to be social. I'm flexible. LOL.

Anyway, in the past week, there seems to be a change in energy. I've been surprised to find that other friends, like long-lost high school classmates I've been talking to on Facebook, are approaching me, suggesting coffee, etc. Well cool, right? But then, in every instance, after they said something to me about getting together, and I responded with something along the lines of "Sounds good--when's a good time for you?" they dropped off the face of the earth--no replies.

So...is it me? Do I smell? Oh wait--in Facebook no-one knows what you smell like. :rofl: Okay, so that's why I'm asking if it's astrological--is there scattered energy about or something? Or, hey, is it them? Are we all so busy that we can't follow through with social plans, even loose ones? I'm just trying to get a feel for what's going on... :shrug:

On edit: I should also clarify that I am in no way referring to the failed plans of me and Blanche! :rofl:

[OneGrassRoot]

1. OMG, I don't know but I certainly identify!

You described so well a pattern I'm also experiencing, not necessarily in the "let's get coffee" realm, but still....the same pattern.

:shrug:

[OneGrassRoot]

2. Don't know about you....

but I feel the intentions are always good. It's the "following through" part that seems to be the problem.

I probably need to look in the mirror and evaluate where I may not be following through on things for others -- or myself.

:eyes:

[MorningGlow]

4. Oh, yes

I'm not getting the impression that people are doing this frivolously; they actually do mean to follow through on the plans, but then for some reason just...don't. LOL I don't want to think about where I'm dropping the ball! Maybe not socially, but in other areas...er...

[MorningGlow]

3. Ooh good point

I didn't think of it that way--that the whatever-it-is is affecting not just social issues but plans of any type, especially those that require coordination between two or more people. Hmmm...

[Howler]

5. Astrological?????

You mean thats not normal happenstance???? Oh My.

[MorningGlow]

6. LOL

I dunno--it's all been so sudden--just in the past week, and that's what made me wonder about external energies. :D

[Howler]

7. MorningGlow thats my "normal."

It never occurred to me to blame it on the signs. Thanks! LOL!
I spend so much time in my basement tie dying that I feel like a Morlock when above ground.
Evidently I'm not the only one who notices this. snort!

[Ricochet21]

12. That's it, they're not external

It seems that way, but once you get in touch with them, they're very internal. Weird, huh.
People are touchy now. There is coming a two-week period of real touchiness as the Moon travels opposite all the other planets.
That means that we're going to be basically very Moony, or Lunar, or Moody. You watch.

Be ready for it. It's time to draw family close and try not to take matters too personally. That's always the key with
Cancerian/Lunar energy.

Good luck MG :hi:

[MorningGlow]

13. Woo hoo sounds like an extra two weeks of collective PMS!

Which is always a good time. :rofl:

Thanks, Rick! :hi:

[Ricochet21]

11. Astrological is normal

that's why the word "logical" is inside it

ha

[Proud_Lefty]

8. Sounds like our society

It could also be that we're all really busy these days, or really tired. Most of us have become comfortable in our routines and while new activities sound exciting and different, they so often get easily forgotten or pushed aside just because they're not part of our routines. I talk to people all the time about getting together, but only when I really push for definite times, dates and places does it ever pan out. Whenever I leave it open, it normally falls off the radar. I started to blame other people, but then realize that I'm equally guilty of either conveniently forgetting and really forgetting about the plans that aren't absolute. Not because I don't want to follow through, but because I'm usually already running myself ragged with solid activities made by my husband, family and/or work all the time and I've just come to cherish those moments alone when I have them. Then another week goes by, another month, another year, and I can't get together with these people I'd love to share time with, until one of us decides we really mean it and pins down a specific activity, time and location. It's never really been personal, it's just how life is these days for me and many others I know.

[MorningGlow]

9. Oh yes, of course

I'm also guilty of not ensuring that get-togethers actually happen. It's just too easy to let things slide while we stay in our usual routine, because it takes all our energy just to do "the usual". I was just wondering what was up this particular week, with all the invites out of the blue. I don't usually get that.

[Cleita]

10. Maybe they are just very busy and don't want to

commit to something that is like a date. Is there anyway you guys could meet at like a playground where you would take your kids and maybe run into each other? Or, you mentioned cub scouts. What I'm getting at is places or venues you would go to for other reasons but could run into each other, socialize for a bit, but with no pressure to have to be there or stay for any length of time.

[FirstLight]

14. Individual vs community?

I just re-realized I have community availibe for me if I choose to step into it. My meditation group is always there, so is church...maybe it is about building from that? I have people from both the above groups that i mean to get together with, but the week runs away from us and then we are so glad the "meeting" comes because we missed eachother...

I have brownie moms and evven close friends I slip with, though most of them know i am in flux right now with trying to get used to a new job schedule, etc...but soon the flow will come and i will be able to hook up in the morning for a workout walk...you watch!

here's another take on this ... make sure you *do* follow up on those people who really 'mean' something to you that you let plans slide with... I had a very beloved sister, mother of 2 and only 45, who i used to be in drumming circle with and kept close to over the years...we would bump into eachother at the health food store or something and say "we have to go get coffee" and neither one of us pursued it. Or I'd leave a message and she'd have a dr appt...then she died. she had a chronic illness that turned on her and took her away so fast...
And it haunts me to this day... :cry:

Hugs to all of you guys - your are ALWAYS here when I need you! ;) no flaking! lol

[FirstLight]

15. Oh, and BTW MG

...you *don't* smell! :loveya: :rofl:

[Matariki]

16. For what it's worth -

sometimes when confronted with a concrete plan, I have to think about when would be a good time. I'm pretty busy and that question can make me sort of freeze up, and it will take me a while to get back to the person (if at all). I'll feel guilty about not getting back in touch and that just makes it worse.

I always appreciate people who are a bit persistent - not overly so, but enough to make something happen.

[OneGrassRoot]

17. So well said, Matariki!

I identify with this as well. The guilt, the not getting back in touch, etc.

"I always appreciate people who are a bit persistent - not overly so, but enough to make something happen."

:thumbsup:

:hug:

[Manifestor_of_Light]

18. I have a problem getting people to visit me.

Moved to the country and can't get people to come visit on weekends from Houston or Dallas.

Everybody is busy working or else they don't have money to fix their car or whatever. People in Texas drive a LOT. A couple hundred miles is no big deal because the cities are all so far apart...and West Texas is even further apart.

They would have to drive 150 miles which is 3 hours, from Houston or Dallas. It's been really lonesome since we moved. I didn't think 150 miles was that big of a deal in Texas. Don't have a church to go to or anybody to hang with. Our only real friend is an 80 year old black lady we adopted as "Mom". She is educated and keeps up with things. All the white folks hate Obama. I'm a Unitarian Universalist so regular Christianity is something I want no part of. People here are so worried about conformity and talking about Jeebus. We don't have anyone to talk to about anything we are interested in.

DH and I went down to the high school and said we were interested in tutoring students. He could help the kids with math and physics. He can talk in equations. I have a BA in biology. I also have a Juris Doctor. We got NO response from Cerberus the receptionist.


I live here because I inherited this house from my mother who inherited it from her mother. It's a family home and has a lot of history in it. It's a Gothic Bungalow, probably built in the 1880s. A funky interesting house. It also has the most solid and peaceful vibe of any house I have ever been in, and I came up here my whole life when my grandparents owned it. I think all the people who lived here were happy, and that's why. I have never seen any evidence of ghosts or spirits.

We are retired and have to drive to Houston every few weeks to maintain our sanity. We visit our friends and get our shopping done for lots of things. Fortunately we can afford to stay in a decent motel.


It is very discouraging. I wanted my friends to have a weekend getaway -- but it seems they're too broke or too busy to come.


:shrug:

[japple]

19. I know what you're talking about MOL. It has been like that for

me until recently.

Background: My husband and I were in the process of moving here to my parents' place 6 years ago to take care of my aged father. (This place is on land that has belonged to my Mom's family for generations.) My husband died suddenly 2 weeks before our targeted move date. Part of the reason we were moving was because my husband was having mobility issues and we needed to be someplace where he could get around easier (no stairs, no ice & snow, etc.) and the other reason was to take care of Dad. On the other hand, I left a job that I loved and had been with for 11 years, lots of friends and a very progressive community to move to the hills of Georgia with Rush Limbaugh worshipers for neighbors. For

My Dad died 3 years after I moved here and I went into a funk that lasted a long time. Last year, I started volunteering for the Friends of the Library used bookstore. It was only once a week, but I started to meet more educated, progressive people. Then, I volunteered to help tutor students who were having trouble reading. Nothing came of that until almost a year later. Now, I am on the board of Friends of the Library and am tutoring a 31 yr. old man in the adult education program at our community college who reads below a 1st grade level. I am starting to feel better about myself, more productive.

I don't know how long you've lived there, but just wanted you to know that it sometimes takes a long time to be accepted in the community, even if your parents, grandparents lived there. Is there a community college nearby with an adult education program? How about a county literacy council? Maybe you could make some inroads there. Good luck.

BTW, is your house one of those "Texas" houses with wide porches? When we visit relatives in Seguin every year, my sister and I admire that style of architecture and always refer to them as "Texas" houses. Kind of like this one: