Time to manifest happier work days!!!

[davsand]

Gaaaack! WHAT an awful return to work!

My job has been no fun for a very long time, and I've whined about it here a lot. I have decided to actively work to manifest a much happier work life. I have a couple of applications to other places floating, but it seems to me that the thing to do is to just manifest a work experience that makes me feel good, pays well, and allows me the flexibility for a high quality family life.

So, I'm looking for suggestions / advice / coaching from you guys who are successful at manifesting.

How do I manifest these things and not take anything away from anyone or infringe on free will?



Laura

[Why Syzygy]

1. I don't have a testimony.

But I do believe in your spirit to manifest and it is obvious you have the highest good in mind.

I had a job that worked me to the bone. I felt like I had been beaten with a big stick every day when I left for home. I found a much better place, that left me exhilarated at the end of the day.

So, is the problem with you or the place?

edit: I found networking to be key. Co-workers found the better place and then gave me a good reference to get in the door. Who/What are your resources? I'm just not getting a good feeling that you need to adapt to a bad situation. Meanwhile, positive thoughts. Energy and pride in your work. Small things you can enjoy.

[davsand]

4. This is a bad place because of one man.

I love the co-workers, I love the work. I just can't take it any more to be in constant contact with the abuser that is my former boss.

I'm tired of fighting. I'm tired of the stress and drama that every day brings. I'm tired, period. It is time to move on.

I can't control his behavior, I can't change the situation here, I can only get out before it impacts me any more. A "positive thought" is something I just can't seem to find any more on a lot of different levels and I think the root of the problem is this workplace and its stress.

Thanks!


Laura

[Why Syzygy]

5. You just wrote two

positive foci (?). You love the co-workers. You love the work.

Maybe what needs to happen here is something which I have been beating the drum.
ho'pono ponpono

This guy is the problem. Not where you are or who you are.

My very amateur advice .. read earlier posts about forgiveness.

Otherwise, cut and run.

I wish I had ho'pono ponono when I had a problem with an ex-boss. It would make her curl like a kitten. But for only so long.

If you need to move, make it good! We are with you.

Would you like a Tarot read?

[purduejake]

10. You've given the coworker the power to affect you.

Let me make it clear that I am NOT blaming the victim, but you can change the way bad coworkers treat you with practice.

Ignore what you can and always be professional and objective. This is incredibly hard, but it will pay off.

Concerning manifestation, I simply imagine being surrounded by supportive, professional colleagues who appreciate what I do. This leaves no room for people who negatively influence me and I have since attracted those good people into my life. Those good people have helped me work around the negative colleague and we produced clear results while he opposed every change we made. Now he's been demoted and somebody is making him implement our suggestions. Needless to say, I don't hear from him anymore =).

[Why Syzygy]

12. sounds like very solid advice n/t

[Why Syzygy]

6. I did a Tarot read ..

It has never been my habit to read reversed cards .. but here goes . FWIW (other's opinions may differ)

Sigficator (you): Tens of Wands
A lot of creative energy with a purpose. Like to get things done.

Cross: (him) King of Cups. Did you have an affair with him? Or does he secretly desire you?
He is outward charm. That doesn't reflect his heart. It can help... but not always.

What lies under: Nine of Swords rx'd .. a lot of mental energy. You worked hard to obtain this position.

Prior: High Priestess .. you understand your inner desires. You weighed the pros and cons and decided this was the place for you. She brings widsom. Shows a marked sense of balance of male and female.

Above: Knight of Wands rx'd .. You are a go getter! You have great creative talent which this person may find threatening.

What others see: Five of Wands (upright) A struggle. This isn't a secret. Other people can see a power play in process.

What you see within: The Emperor rx'd ... well. A teacher. He has something to teach you. But rx'd, you resist. .. I really don't like reading rx'd. But I'm learning. There is an energy you are resisting. He could be a talent for you, or could be the wrong thing altogether. He wears Red and wants to be worshiped and adored. You refuse.

What might happen: Six of Pentacles .. You might become his boss! Or you can go looking for your fortune elsewhere. But all get paid.

Possible outcome: Ace of cups rx'd. There is a lot of Heart here. It is the beginning of what you love and crave. But it doesn't look like it. Your hand is open and the fountain is ready to pour in. Turn your hand over. Receive.

I wish for you the best. It's there. Receive it.

[davsand]

7. Yeah, my own readings have a lot of reversals too.

I usually take a reversal as a weakening of the card's meaning or maybe even a mental focus on the negative aspects / manifestation of that card. I dunno--everybody does it differently, I think.

Some feedback on your reading:

No, we never had an affair, and he creeps me out so bad I refused to even be alone in a room with him after we hit a certain point. The running "joke" is that when he shows up to go postal he's gonna take aim at me first. I refuse to speak to him unless it can't be avoided.

When you mention outer charm I will tell you that this is a man that you could sit with at a group dinner and you'd leave thinking he was socially functional but kind of uptight. Not a bad guy but just wrapped a little tight--ya know?

I will also tell you that when he's in a position where he feels he has power over you or feels personally challenged in any way, his personae will shift. It is like being in contact with a different person. Literally, I have seen him shift in an out of character within seconds and it is impossible to determine in advance just what you will be dealing with. His EYES even change--it is the creepiest damn thing I have ever seen in my life.

I have experienced him trying to force me to do something when he knew it was not what I wanted, and I sat and listened when he said, "it is for your own good." I also ran like hell afterward because that is the language of an abuser, pure and simple.

One lesson that I have learned at his hand is the darkness of anger that is unresolved and unrelenting. For the first time in my life I have felt angry at someone for a long time without any sort of resolution or escape. Oddly, even with my Taurus sun sign and a few planets in Aries, I usually don't stay mad for long. I vent and then I tend to walk away from anyone that I determine to be a problem. I didn't this time, for a lot of different reasons.

A while back I posted on here about a dream I'd had that was REALLY creepy to me and had left me rocked emotionally. The root of it was my own anger and my own capacity for malevolence. It has been a most uncomfortable lesson for me, and I'm not entirely sure is one I'm done with yet.

I (and my employer) have invested a great deal of time, money, and energy to get my level of education to the point that it is at right now. I'm good at what I do and I have earned some respect in places that I never expected to.

I have also stayed firm in my convictions about what is happening and what he's doing. I spoke out, which he views as treason, and he will hound me until I either cede the field or die. The bastard is unrelenting. I am not a victim mentality, and this has been a new experience to feel physically threatened to the point that I refuse to work late or early.

My health is suffering again. I'm back to taking Xanax to sleep, I'm stressed to the point that on the weekends I just fall down. Sunday is a depressing day because I know I'm going back to work the next day. Literally, I drive to work wondering what fresh hell I'm facing and will this be the day when the "It could always be worse..." thing hits.

I try not to be afraid, I try really hard NOT to consider that anything except good will come. I also wake up in the night with that place in my mind. I wake up to my alarm in the morning and the first thing I think of is not "I need to pee" but "Oh no, I have to go to work." there's something really WRONG about that.

I do wonder, WHY I'm there. Some days I can tell you, others I can't. Other than the obvious thing of I have got to work, I have been bound to that job by love of the people there and the work I can do. I honestly can't sustain any longer, however, unless something changes radically.

I do thank you for the reading. You got a very clear read.

Thanks,


Laura

[Why Syzygy]

13. Let me tell you

my classic Taurus story. What is his sun sign, btw? I know real astrologers poo poo the sun, but, untrained, I don't.

My son came a week early, and is one. We both share moons in Libra, so all is cool.

I met a Taurus, Gemini rising, which he loves to flaunt. He taunted me with his tree house, which he has, by the lake. And likes to keep to himself. This was almost 10 years ago.

So, knowing I have a bit of creative talent, he asked, what should I do with the front windows?
He lives on a lightly traveled lake road. But the front window was just sitting there unshielded.
I replied, let me think about it (always a good response). It so happened that he had several huge ficus potted trees in random. After some thought, I came up with a plan. Move that g-d sofa from the window and put the trees over there. His immediate response, being the Taurus he is, was NO! I'm not putting trees over there. Okay. That was my only solution. It wouldn't be right to put miniblinds in that space. So. A few weeks later, New Year's eve, I was over, and he said, I think we should put the trees over there! Good idea. We re-arranged, and to this day, the trees are in front of the window. I did a bit more decorating in his front room, and he caught on and has done wonders with the place.

Point being. I knew he was always going to say NO to the first suggestion. Then I backed off, and waited. He eventually always said, hmmm. maybe good idea. No duh.

What is the lesson here for you? You put up your back immediately. I know. Give you some space.
You don't like to be pressured. This guy is pushing your buttons. He doesn't know the law of the Bull. Back off.

That could put you in a snit. There is really no point in making you angry.
He doesn't pay attention to clues.

[stellanoir]

2. Maybe start with

"I co create with spirit a more enjoyable, fulfilling, and rewarding employment situation." (and maybe liberating)

I find if you say that with ASAP tacked on for a while it frees one up to notice opportunities hovering. Then when it feels right (you will know when) switch to adding "to be made manifest now" instead of ASAP.

Pretty sure someone will chime in with some more physical rituals. I find working on the mental level with affirmations first, works for me. Yet we're all wired somewhat differently.

Wishing the situation be remedied soon.

I posted a channeling last week in here that addressed how many people would be abandoning the structures that no longer were working for them in the near future.

I used the word "uplifting" in the title. It's still on the front page of this forum.

hold on I'll fetch the link. . .

Here it is

http://www.democraticunderground.com/discuss/duboard.php?az=view_all&address=245x34355

[davsand]

8. Ohh, Stella! I needed that one!

I dunno how my exploration of anger plays into any sort of spiritual awakening, really, but maybe understanding THAT is the final link for me...

I've been at a "crossroads" I think for a while now. We all get there at some point or another, but this has been in the works for a while I think. I think that for me it started to snowball about 16 months ago and is finally hitting critical mass. The path was laid long ago, but my realization of it has been a slow one, I guess.

I will work with the affirmation you give here--I like it and it rings true for me. Usually, with any of this stuff, it works best if it "feels" right--ya know? I've found that the more ritualized I get, usually, the less connected I am to it. Probably it is just the opposite for others.

Thanks to you for you suggestions and your uplifting message.


Laura

[LaurenG]

3. Write it down

I have found when I write it down I am much more successful. Maybe it's just "putting it out there" but that's how how do it.

[davsand]

9. Do you suppose it'd be bad form to hang that up in my office?

:)

Might freak out the taxpayers or the clerical staff--I dunno.



Probably can't be any worse for morale than my wet cat picture with the caption "Just give me my Prozac, my coffee and my cigarettes and maybe we'll all come out of this alive." The staff gave it to me last year. THAT one actually made one taxpayer laugh so hard she was crying.


Laura

[LaurenG]

11. Ha, you know if you write in a way they can't understand, you

might just get away with it. :rofl: Maybe just write up a "get out of here alive soon".

[Why Syzygy]

14. Lol

If only!

The taxpayers are going to live, doncha think?

That is so cute.