Positive energy requested - major changes in my life

[KitchenWitch]

My 16 year old son has decided to go back to Minnesota to finish high school (we just moved from there to California back in August). We all need positive energy to make this transition.

I know this is for the greater good. I just need some bolstering right now because I feel as if I have been beaten in the chest with a large blunt object.

[cassiepriam]

1. Take some deep breaths. In and out.

Are you sure he has to go?
He can't stay????

(I am not the one to give you support, I tell my daughter that she cannot leave me until she is 40. Which is when she is allowed to date and drive a car. :(
She is 10 now and she says I will change my mind and let her do it all when she is 30. Fat chance kiddo. )

KW I will send you some prayers and hope that you have the courage to face whatever happens. And that you son makes the best decision for himself.
And it all works out for the greater good.

[SeattleGirl]

2. More hugs for you, Kitchey.

I know this will work out, but I also know you are hurting right now. Sending you tons of postivie energy, and lots more hugs.

:hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug:

[BlueIris]

3. Hmmm. Well, my only advice, being a non-parent and all,

is to ask for prayers for strength (which you've alread done)...and then just let it go. Being apart from your kid in the long term suuuucks, I'm sure. Nothing you can do but feel hollow, uncertain and freaked out. SO, get feeling with the hollow! Once the transition period has passed, you'll probably feel much improved.

[Why Syzygy]

4. Awwww .

Light and Hugs, KitchenWitch. What grade level is he? Who will he stay with? Is he your only or youngest? Empty nest crap SUXXX.

Two stories.

I sent my son to Texas to live with his dad after his freshman year. We had moved to Las Vegas and I didn't know or trust anyone. I didn't like that lifestyle for a kid. We didn't know if we would be staying or moving again, and his dad was stable. He had a great HS career. Made friends that are still with him now, 10 years later. It was best for him to be near family and familiar surroundings, even though he did well in LV. I cried even when we picked him up from the airport for visits. It was hard on me, but the best thing for him. We are still close and hang out when we get a chance. Good outcome.

My family moved from Texas to Arizona when I was 16, and for some reason, I felt I could not adjust. I wanted to go back to El Paso, but there were no options, so I moved in with a family in Dallas we had known for 12 years, grown up together. I graduated with kids I had known in first grade. The friendships lasted awhile, but I eventually went back to Arizona for a bit. There was a point in my life when I was a little bitter that my parents hadn't 'taught me coping skills', or something. My rationale was that a 16 year old is too young to make those decisions. But having had my son go through that age, that isn't really true. Young people who have a goal in mind are very capable of making good decisions with guidance. If it's what he really wants and he understands the consequences, he'll be in good shape.

Mom, otoh, needs lots of :grouphug: My heart is with you.

[LaurenG]

5. Yikes KW

I am sending a love and positive energy. My son and I went through some separation at that age as well. So I know. :hug:

[NMDemDist2]

6. ....

:hug:


that is all

[MorningGlow]

7. Ohhhhhhhh KW

:hug: :hug: :hug: :hug:

Sending good vibes and white light for the best outcome to the situation.

[I Have A Dream]

8. Light and healing energy to you, KitchenWitch.

I'm sorry that this is happening. I can only imagine how it feels.

Maybe it would help to try to think of it as though he's going to college early?

:(