twin flame question

[all.of.me]

i posted this as a response in another thread:

http://www.democraticunderground.com/discuss/duboard.php?az=show_topic&forum=245&topic_id=4247#4331

i thought i'd make it a new topic, too, for more exposure so i can hopefully get some insight into this relationship.

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this (the post i replied to) sounds like a friendship i've had over the last couple of years. we met at our kids' school, and it was fast and furious for a couple of months. nothing sexual, just spending a lot of time together every day, deep conversations, opening up immediately, trust, intimacy. it ended in a split second in a fiery debate.

we resumed it a few months later after trying to hash out what went wrong the first time. again, it was fast and furious for a few months, this time with sexual undertones, then ended again in another explosive scene.

that was 7 months ago. my daughter is now in a different school, so there is no daily contact anymore. we see each other around town, and there is curious energy there.

i am way more evolved than he is. he has been a drunk for most of his adult life. now sober for four years, he's like a 20 year old just discovering the world. his insights are shallow - he's learning what i learned back then! it's hard to communicate sometimes, because even though he is almost 50, his development has been arrested.

i have often wondered if he is my twin flame. we are alike in so many respects, deep ways, subconscious ways. i've even had dreams where i am reflected in his sunglasses. he is in my dreams a LOT.

we really love each other in a weird way. i am the one who feels protective of him.

so my question is - is it possible for twin flames to be at different places in their spiritual development? now that i write it down, it seems like a stupid question. i guess the differences in development are what make it hard to get along on this physical plane?

thanks for your insights!