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Edited on Wed Feb-20-08 04:50 PM by Disorganized
I need advice on how to set boundaries. Our therapist daughter says I don't have any and it's a big problem. She's concerned about my reaction to our son, who is playing with fire: he's involved in one of those met-on-line relationships with a woman who, fortunately, lives on the other side of the country. She isn't divorced yet, has three children, one autistic, she herself is OCD, cuts herself, has eating disorders, just got a restraining order against a violent husband, and has an incredibly traumatic past. (So traumatic that I wonder how much of it is true.) It's a major mess and I'm not giving the kind of motherly advice I should be giving, which is to stay as far away as he can. Instead I've told him that with Pisces rising he is trying to be a savior, that he can't save her, that she can only save herself with hard work and lots of professional help. (He's a Virgo with a Sag Moon exactly conjunct the M.C. She's a Leo with Moon in Virgo, Jupiter on his Pisces ascendant and Mars on his Virgo Venus and 7th cusp.)
I' pretty sure that I'm feeling his feelings. I do this with lots of people, just today realized that I can't have boundaries when I'm feeling what everyone is feeling. I'm working on separating my feelings from my son's and could sure use some advice. Any of you with a similar problem and how do you deal with it?
Today's eclipse hits my Mercury-Venus conjunction at 1 Pisces, which likely explains why I'm suddenly recognizing it. I'm a double Aquarian so should be able to detach myself. An exact quincunx between natal Sun and Neptune doesn't help.
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