last night I had a dream about a friend of mine who died.

[Callie McAllie]

We used to share a cubicle together, her birthday was just a few months before mine. She was the kindest, sweetest person, lived a very healthy lifestyle, but died quite suddenly of pancreatic cancer when her kids were...oh, my son's age! (I think I just figured this out.)

In the dream her husband, who has since remarried and moved away, came back to visit. She was there and others were worried about it, but I dismissed their concern. She looked great, seemed happy, and I told them she had "totally moved on."

O8)

This actually may be part of a series of dreams I've been having that have to do with my son no longer being a baby, but growing up and moving into young manhood. I dreamt the other night that I was carrying him, like I used to do, and we were having a great time, walking down a country road past a fair. But my waking brain was thinking "he's too big, you can't carry him any more." My sleeping brain was arguing with that, because it felt fine to carry him, pat his back, etc. Then my waking brain reminded me we had just weighed him the other night and he was 105 pounds. "You can't carry 105 pounds." Then I woke up.

Ah, well.

[Why Syzygy]

1. I'm glad we are posting dreams

because I've been wanting to share as well. Night before I dreamed a fun group of us were at the White House :D .. Also a man named, Mary. I just woke up from one where I kept stepping in gum (at my mother's church), and had just scraped off three pieces from between my shoe and foot (sandals).

Do you think your's are related to your son growing up? Or?

[Callie McAllie]

5. "Shake the dust from your sandals and move on."

Paraphrased, but that is one of my favorite quotes from the Bible. Jesus sent the Apostles out to preach the Gospel and told them that if they come to a town where people don't want to hear about it, to shake the dust of that town from their sandals and move on.

Is there someone who is gumming up the works? Who doesn't want to hear what you're saying? Just a thought.

[Why Syzygy]

6. Absolutely.

And that verse came to me as well recently when it happened in RL, with three people! I love that concept too. And, don't cast pearls before swine. IOW, move on down the road! I don't enjoy head banging, so I cling to those suggestions.

In the White House dream, we were preparing for a friend's wedding! The decorations were all clean and placed behind a glass wall to preserve for the time of the celebration. It had those huge steps like you see on gov buildings in DC. If you parked your car in front, some of the other workers moved it to the side street. But they were very nice about it. No one was angry, or ugly, or in the least bit sad about anything. It was so fine.

Thanks, Callie for sharing this with me :hug:

[Kookaburra]

2. Your friend was there to comfort you

To tell you "it's okay." Everything is going to work out for the best. Yes, her husband remarried, but that is exactly what she wanted for him, and she's happy for the man she loved in this world. And though she left her children at the age your son is now (I suspect on a deep subconscious level you may fear this could happen to you), your circumstances are completely different.

As for your other dream, how sweet! Yes, your son is growing up, but what a fine young man he is becoming!!! And even though you know you can't physically carry him forever, you will always carry him in your heart, and isn't that what really matters?

Blessings to you Callie. That sounds like such a nice dream. I love to dream of my loved ones who have passed over -- happy and at peace with my life here without them.

[Kind of Blue]

3. My take is if your gut feeling about the dreams

is nostalgia of your son's babyhood then it's true. Your dear friend's children would be about the same age as your child, so she would have been having the same feelings as you, most likely if she'd lived. And really, who's to say she's not feeling the same as you right now? I think she visited to assure you that even though we move on (grow up/make new relationships/die) we can be happy in our new states of growth, just as you assured others in the dream not to worry because you saw proof of her happiness. Also symbolic of moving on, is her husband in the dream who has remarried and moved away. And, to me, if your dreams are in a series then you're transmitting for and receiving some guidance about your son's oncoming manhood.

Sending positive energy for smooth transition into the next phase of growth in you and your son's life together. He's a lucky kid to have a mom who totally savors his very essence :)

[Callie McAllie]

4. Kookaburra and Blue

You brought tears to my eyes. Thanks!